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Author:  BastoD [ Mon Dec 22, 2014 3:58 am ]
Post subject:  How cold should I freeze this bird?
Hey, everyone. Ready for my next problem?

Met this girl at a coffee shop and got her number. First date was pretty awesome, could really feel chemistry and everything else there. Second date ended up a short time after (stupid, I know) and at her house. Nothing happened, but we had a good time. Hung out all night, made out a little. Everything seemed fine...

After that she started acting weird and aloof and, after asking about it, found out she felt like we were rushing things.

Seeing the same pattern I've seen many times before, I took the initiative and suggested we give it a little more time and space. Haven't really talked to her since then.

I'm still new at this stuff, but my thought was that staying there and being available would be the wrong thing to do as I would be stuck in that same failing frame in her mind and be on the slow, agonizing path to the dark side, I mean the friend zone :) My plan was to leave her alone for at least a week.

Here's what I've been thinking. Please correct me if I'm way off here, I'm probably over thinking it anyway...

1) Leave it alone for a week, then start talking again - I think this would be best to maintain familiarity but it would only be 2 weeks since the date. I don't know if it would be far enough removed to to reframe (is that the right term?) myself, which might end up in failure

2) Leave it alone for 2 weeks (3 weeks after date) - The opposite problem. Optimum for reframing, but I might not be as familiar

So what would you guys do in this situation?
Author:  oceanx [ Mon Dec 22, 2014 6:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How cold should I freeze this bird?
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After that she started acting weird and aloof and, after asking about it, found out she felt like we were rushing things.
In reality it could have been the opposite of what she stated. A woman who has you alone in her house in many cases wants you to escalate. Lesson learned for the next girls.

As to this girl sure try the one week "freeze out"; this one is probably a lost cause though. That is why i put 'freeze out' in quotes. It seems she has moved on and will not notice or be affected one way or another by said freezeout.
Author:  BastoD [ Mon Dec 22, 2014 8:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How cold should I freeze this bird?
no hope, huh? Thanks for the input...

Anyone else?
Author:  Versalis [ Mon Dec 22, 2014 11:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How cold should I freeze this bird?
Freeze outs are usually a bad tactic and they only work on girls who are really into you. Since she's putting up artificial walls.. bad odds.

In my opinion, you should just ask her to come over to your place. Plan to bang her. If she says no, then ask her out with something you and friends are doing later. This covers both ends of the spectrum(she wanted you to move faster, and then move slower).
Author:  Camanova [ Thu Jan 15, 2015 12:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How cold should I freeze this bird?
I wouldn't freeze out in this case man, I agree with the others that she was waiting for an escalation. I feel the whole moving too fast thing was an excuse, make her feel a little more comfortable and she will want it to move faster.

I think she might be a little unsure now so freezing out would hurt you, meet up with her build some attraction and then when you can escalate and make her feel comfortable.

Good luck!
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