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Question: How do you go about learning and practicing the game while in a relationship?

So here is a little bit about my situation. I started practicing and learning game two years ago right before I entered my current relationship. I met a beautiful bisexual girl and managed to turn her into a girlfriend. And over the course of the two years she has fallen in love with me. However, because I am actively learning and practicing game and trying to have more sexual experiences it is causing a lot of strife between us. Now it is worth mentioning that this is NOT an open relationship. Mainly I keep my game to a minimum, never going past the comfort building stage, but just having girls attracted to me can make her upset. She tells me she feels like she is having to compete for my interest, and she is sometimes afraid of me leaving the relationship and choosing another girl. Now the times when I DON'T keep my game to a minimum it is for the sole purpose of setting up a threesome. Because my girlfriend is bisexual and because I am completely honest with my intentions is the only reason she is mildly comfortable with having one, and we have had one before. Only it was with an x-girlfriend of hers who she was very comfortable with. Now however, we don't have that option. It's up to me to find, attract, and seduce someone if I want to make a threesome happen. But when it comes to the act of trying to seduce another girl into having a threesome she gets very protective of me.

So I guess my question is two fold.
1. How does a guy actively learn and practice game while in a relationship without upsetting his partner and...
2. How does a guy set up a threesome when in a relationship without upsetting his partner?

Any help on this topic is greatly appreciated.

Cheat. Anybody who says you have to be 100% honest and authentic is a moron.

If you have to actively practice game while in a relationship, you're not growing naturally as a man. In a healthy relationship you're still socializing, flirting with your gf, experimenting sexually, being spontaneous, climbing in your career/business, travelling, maintaining and growing your social circle, taking care of your fitness and health etc. Also, your standards should be higher in who you'd date and what you accept, just from being with a hot girl for so long and figuring out what you like/dont like. If you are in a relationship for 3 or 5 years and came out in a worse place to date women, you've done something wrong in those aspects named above. Sure, as Dragula says, your outer game may be rusty..you may not have used to approaching women again and that'll shake off after a while, but you should be in a better place.

If I'm in a rs for 3 years, after that time, I've done a ton of new things I haven't done, I'm better off financially, I'm more fit and taken on new hobbies, I've made new friends and have stronger relationships with old ones, I'm better in bed. I've come up with new ways/lines to flirt just because I had to to make the rs last that long. All of these subtle things will exude from me and make it easier to pull girls, more so than whether I still can approach strongly. Ive seen what Drag is talking about, you do less gaming and more results. Now if you met a girl and you were an 8 in attractiveness when you get into a rs with her, and you stop doing all those things, you'll find it much harder after the rs to get a girl when now you're a 6.

But the OP's problem isnt really practicing game...he wants to fuck other women.

Women can SMELL a guy who is on the path and has his shit together.

Author:	Badmotive [ Wed Oct 01, 2014 6:48 am ]
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Question: How do you go about learning and practicing the game while in a relationship? So here is a little bit about my situation. I started practicing and learning game two years ago right before I entered my current relationship. I met a beautiful bisexual girl and managed to turn her into a girlfriend. And over the course of the two years she has fallen in love with me. However, because I am actively learning and practicing game and trying to have more sexual experiences it is causing a lot of strife between us. Now it is worth mentioning that this is NOT an open relationship. Mainly I keep my game to a minimum, never going past the comfort building stage, but just having girls attracted to me can make her upset. She tells me she feels like she is having to compete for my interest, and she is sometimes afraid of me leaving the relationship and choosing another girl. Now the times when I DON'T keep my game to a minimum it is for the sole purpose of setting up a threesome. Because my girlfriend is bisexual and because I am completely honest with my intentions is the only reason she is mildly comfortable with having one, and we have had one before. Only it was with an x-girlfriend of hers who she was very comfortable with. Now however, we don't have that option. It's up to me to find, attract, and seduce someone if I want to make a threesome happen. But when it comes to the act of trying to seduce another girl into having a threesome she gets very protective of me. So I guess my question is two fold. 1. How does a guy actively learn and practice game while in a relationship without upsetting his partner and... 2. How does a guy set up a threesome when in a relationship without upsetting his partner? Any help on this topic is greatly appreciated.

Author:	psiconauta [ Mon Oct 06, 2014 9:06 pm ]
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Im a noob, but I dont think shes really honest about being mildly comfortable with the idea of a threesome. She sounds like she is trying to please you so you dont leave her. Id probably think that if you have a threesome she might regret or feel bad after. I say its kinda ok to practice, I didnt. But in my case it was 8 years of relationship. Maybe if I wouldve keep her jealous I could still have her. If she fears to lose you then I say thats good in certain amounts, but dont do anything that could actually hurt her. Not just for her but cmon man, you dont want karma to bite your ass do you? You alredy said it wasnt an "open" relationship. Respect it.

Author:	breedlove465 [ Mon Oct 06, 2014 10:04 pm ]
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Quote: Question: How do you go about learning and practicing the game while in a relationship? So here is a little bit about my situation. I started practicing and learning game two years ago right before I entered my current relationship. I met a beautiful bisexual girl and managed to turn her into a girlfriend. And over the course of the two years she has fallen in love with me. However, because I am actively learning and practicing game and trying to have more sexual experiences it is causing a lot of strife between us. Now it is worth mentioning that this is NOT an open relationship. Mainly I keep my game to a minimum, never going past the comfort building stage, but just having girls attracted to me can make her upset. She tells me she feels like she is having to compete for my interest, and she is sometimes afraid of me leaving the relationship and choosing another girl. Now the times when I DON'T keep my game to a minimum it is for the sole purpose of setting up a threesome. Because my girlfriend is bisexual and because I am completely honest with my intentions is the only reason she is mildly comfortable with having one, and we have had one before. Only it was with an x-girlfriend of hers who she was very comfortable with. Now however, we don't have that option. It's up to me to find, attract, and seduce someone if I want to make a threesome happen. But when it comes to the act of trying to seduce another girl into having a threesome she gets very protective of me. So I guess my question is two fold. 1. How does a guy actively learn and practice game while in a relationship without upsetting his partner and... 2. How does a guy set up a threesome when in a relationship without upsetting his partner? Any help on this topic is greatly appreciated. 1. Practicing game doesn't mean your end game has to be sex. You are an outgoing person that loves to socialize and have fun. Tell your gf that thats who she fell for and that she can't expect you to just change. And if you change, it's all down hill from there. When in a relationship, I still talk to any girl I want to. I act incredibly interested in what they have to say. I get them to laugh, I tell them funny stories, I build report. Where I cut it off, personally, is I never go further than a brief hug and I'll give out high fives but I don't hold hands. Alot of girls will have problems with this, but it's not me running game. It's me being who I want to be. I have learned how to be outgoing and I'm not stopping. I won't cheat, period, but I won't change either. And if a girl questions me on it I don't argue, I just tell it like it is. You knew 100% who I am and what you're getting into, I haven't tried to change you, so don't expect me to change. For what it's worth, I've never had a serious relationship end over me "running game" with other girls. And in my experience, the only time your girl brings it up is when she's really mad about something else, or when she's pissy because she's already in a bad mood and doesn't like the fact that I won't join her pity party and instead I talk to other people. So that's my advice, be who you want to be, tell her to accept it. If she can't handle it, oh well. I completely understand that in a relationship sometimes you have to cater to the other person to make them happy just because you care for them, but changing who you are to make them happy is a recipe for disaster.

Author:	Pikeman85 [ Thu Oct 16, 2014 5:13 pm ]
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Cheat on her.

Author:	alainfarhi123 [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 9:51 am ]
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Author:	stevedtat [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 12:31 pm ]
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This is tricky and takes ALOT of patience and understanding on her part. When I first started learning game, I was in a relationship. after I started learning, I realized that I was being controlled and that I was with the wrong woman...and that did NOT go over well (I won't go into details, it was just really bad). So, as you learn PUA be COMPLETELY honest with her. don't hide the shit. let her be a part of your growth, because she needs to know that this is for you to grow as a person and to eliminate your neediness. If she doesn't want to grow with you, than drop her like a bad habit. she's not worth your time. As for the threesome...100% of women have lesbian or bisexual tendencies. it's a fact. the key is to create the situation and instill comfort. check out Adam Lyons youtube video "how to get threesomes" he explains everything perfectly.

Author:	Dragula [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 12:33 pm ]
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When I got into a relationship after about 5 years of hitting this pick up stuff hardcore I was constantly worried about my skill that I have developed. (Bare in mind that game was the only thing i was good at, at the time I )wanted to approach girls somehow but couldn't think of a solution. I dedicated myself to get my skinny ass in the gym and get some meat on my skinny frame, I also started to be really pro active with my business projects/ideas, also, I went from having a really bad style sense to dressing extremely well. Things really started to fall in place and being a busy guy like that probably made me more attractive to my gf at the time. I started to realise that and understand that there is more to cold approach (after you have got a decent skill) and you should work on becoming an all round attractive guy. So, you technically are working on your 'Game' by focusing on your overall attraction qualities. Now that I went back to single after 3 years of no cold approach, the field was a little intimidating for 1st couple of nights due to being a bit rusty. I've found that I was doing less gaming and getting more results because i've been developing other qualities. My game is no where near as good it used to be but it was a lot tougher back then being dressed like a chump, bad acne and being 100% about pick up only. To get the quality and quantity of woman, become a 10 yourself or be pro active at becoming one.

Author:	stevedtat [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 1:35 pm ]
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Hell yeah Dragula, That's solid advice and life experience to prove it. you're a good example for guys to follow. respect on an unrelated subject... Quote: Cheat on her. Quote: GULL seriously guys? come on, we're all here to learn to be better. have a little compassion for guys that aren't as experienced. comments like that prove that you're not where you should be either. the point is to make people better by knowing us, not putting them down to feel better about ourselves.

Author:	Finished [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 3:35 pm ]
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The way you handle your relationships with girls is a part of game.

Author:	DJ_Z [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 8:12 pm ]
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Cheat. Anybody who says you have to be 100% honest and authentic is a moron.

Author:	stevedtat [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 9:04 pm ]
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Quote: Cheat. Anybody who says you have to be 100% honest and authentic is a moron. We're all allowed our own opinions, however I'd rather build relationships on truth, rather than lies. lifetime friendships are kept that way. I've been doing game for 10 years, and that's the most important lesson I can bring. be the way you want to be, but don't put down other people for having good morals.

Author:	neo87 [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 10:02 pm ]
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If you have to actively practice game while in a relationship, you're not growing naturally as a man. In a healthy relationship you're still socializing, flirting with your gf, experimenting sexually, being spontaneous, climbing in your career/business, travelling, maintaining and growing your social circle, taking care of your fitness and health etc. Also, your standards should be higher in who you'd date and what you accept, just from being with a hot girl for so long and figuring out what you like/dont like. If you are in a relationship for 3 or 5 years and came out in a worse place to date women, you've done something wrong in those aspects named above. Sure, as Dragula says, your outer game may be rusty..you may not have used to approaching women again and that'll shake off after a while, but you should be in a better place. If I'm in a rs for 3 years, after that time, I've done a ton of new things I haven't done, I'm better off financially, I'm more fit and taken on new hobbies, I've made new friends and have stronger relationships with old ones, I'm better in bed. I've come up with new ways/lines to flirt just because I had to to make the rs last that long. All of these subtle things will exude from me and make it easier to pull girls, more so than whether I still can approach strongly. Ive seen what Drag is talking about, you do less gaming and more results. Now if you met a girl and you were an 8 in attractiveness when you get into a rs with her, and you stop doing all those things, you'll find it much harder after the rs to get a girl when now you're a 6. But the OP's problem isnt really practicing game...he wants to fuck other women.

Author:	stevedtat [ Sat Dec 05, 2015 11:42 pm ]
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Quote: If you have to actively practice game while in a relationship, you're not growing naturally as a man. In a healthy relationship you're still socializing, flirting with your gf, experimenting sexually, being spontaneous, climbing in your career/business, travelling, maintaining and growing your social circle, taking care of your fitness and health etc. Also, your standards should be higher in who you'd date and what you accept, just from being with a hot girl for so long and figuring out what you like/dont like. If you are in a relationship for 3 or 5 years and came out in a worse place to date women, you've done something wrong in those aspects named above. Sure, as Dragula says, your outer game may be rusty..you may not have used to approaching women again and that'll shake off after a while, but you should be in a better place. If I'm in a rs for 3 years, after that time, I've done a ton of new things I haven't done, I'm better off financially, I'm more fit and taken on new hobbies, I've made new friends and have stronger relationships with old ones, I'm better in bed. I've come up with new ways/lines to flirt just because I had to to make the rs last that long. All of these subtle things will exude from me and make it easier to pull girls, more so than whether I still can approach strongly. Ive seen what Drag is talking about, you do less gaming and more results. Now if you met a girl and you were an 8 in attractiveness when you get into a rs with her, and you stop doing all those things, you'll find it much harder after the rs to get a girl when now you're a 6. But the OP's problem isnt really practicing game...he wants to fuck other women. awesome recollection! that's a kick ass observation, and i can take that to heart too. thanks for the insight. respect dude

Author:	oceanx [ Sun Dec 06, 2015 10:10 am ]
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Women can SMELL a guy who is on the path and has his shit together. If ur in a committed relationship why would you wanna get with other girls. It's one or the other as far as i'm concerned.

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Author:	stevedtat [ Sun Dec 06, 2015 11:27 am ]
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Quote: Women can SMELL a guy who is on the path and has his shit together. You're absolutely right about that oceanx, however I think what he's trying to do (or at least I hope he is) is to reduce/eliminate his neediness and build a stronger relationship that will last with that girl...also, sounds like he's wanting to try threesomes too. I hope he uses this info as a way to create a lasting and mutually beneficial relationship. as for the threesome...that's tricky if the girl isn't framed to be congruent to it. but take it all in stride, and don't overwhelm things. it can cause more harm than good. and don't cheat. that will destroy a relationship quicker than shit. instead, make the girl be susceptible to you meeting other women. help her to understand that you need to go out and that you need to sow your oats. or...let her help you bring them home. you'd be surprised how many women are turned on by that. I've always been honest and open about my intentions with women, and I've had some great experiences. but also, as some of you know, the truth hurts. and I've had my share of worst case scenarios also. But I still stick to my convictions and stay honest.