PUA Forum :: I need help

You don't really seem to have a problem. I can see that most of your talk is out of desperation. You talk to girls at times, but you return home empty handed and start judging yourself about how you could've made it better and what you could've done and analyzing stupid mistakes you made. But guess what, no one is perfect. You seem to struggle a lot with approach anxiety too. You start "playing hard to get" but you end up with nothing.

The only solution to your problem is an inner solution. Let go of everything, there's no need to put heavy thoughts of "could've had and could've done" moments on your shoulders. You need to start doing what YOU think is best for you. Trust me this is a long process, take it one step at a time. The first step you need to take is to free yourself from the guilt you are experiencing. It's not your fault, we've all been there. You are being desperate for hooking up, you have to admit it at some point. You drink thinking that you'll get a girl in any moment, and you end up going back home tipsy/wasted with regrets. That is part of the problem. Go out, enjoy yourself because YOU want to enjoy it. Start doing things for your own sake, not because they help you to get laid. Go to the gym in order to improve yourself, not to impress the girls. Read PUA material and watch videos because you want to improve as a person, not because you think that the lines they present would work. Most important thing is, don't fake yourself. The moment you come out as fake (for example saying you love something when you really don't, but doing it to impress girls) you'll crash and burn faster than you expect.

If you provide me with a scenario or two with girls you talk to or any sticking point you have I might be able to help.

Author:	sugarwallz616 [ Sun Sep 14, 2014 9:18 am ]
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Guys... i'm at my wits end I come onto this forum drunken and depserate for help becuase yall are the only guys i know that can help me with this problem. I'm in college, and even after a whole summer of reasearch study... and hey luck! I'm in college and i'm still not getting laid. Idk what it is right now, i'm in a fraternity, i lift on a regular basis, I try to become talented in different areas to make myself interesting. But i need help with women, and i don;t know where to start, i'm stuck, i want to get laid and i don't know how to do it. I thought i had it down packed but i don't thing that is the case. I need help and i need help bad and i don't know where to start. My twitter profile is below so that should help. and yess i know i'm drunk but serios7ully.... i dont know what to do and yall are my only hope Soryy for posting this in the PUA lounge but i know that yall respond here the most and can help me. any question just ask me. Ill be as honest as i possibly can about my problem.

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Mon Sep 15, 2014 2:28 pm ]
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I think we'd all really need some examples of where you've failed in order to help you. IE: are you getting dates, but not getting second dates? IE: are you not getting numbers? IE: are you getting numbers and no replies when you follow up? Or a million other things... Need to pinpoint the problem first. From your Twitter profile, first thing's first: If the girls you're hitting up are aware of this profile, stop posting things about being ready for change and being at your wit's end... No good.

Author:	sugarwallz616 [ Tue Sep 16, 2014 2:43 am ]
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Good point, I deleted my twitter account, i'm not posting shit like that again.

Author:	Damien Cash [ Tue Sep 16, 2014 5:37 am ]
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This may seem obvious, but if you're in frat, I'm assuming you go to a lot of parties. If so, talk to a lot of girls at those parties. Just wander around, chatting people up and you'll eventually strike up a good conversation. As the night goes and you both have a few, things happen.

Author:	sugarwallz616 [ Thu Sep 18, 2014 3:16 am ]
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Quote: This may seem obvious, but if you're in frat, I'm assuming you go to a lot of parties. If so, talk to a lot of girls at those parties. Just wander around, chatting people up and you'll eventually strike up a good conversation. As the night goes and you both have a few, things happen. Whatever my problem is it is deeper than just that. I have the technique down from everything that i have learned from coaches and the forum but this is more of an inner game issue for me i beleive. Fact of the matter is... i go to a school with over 5,000 kids or more and i'm not getting laid, even with the girl ratio being about 76% of the students here. I'm lost, and i don't know where i need to start, but i know if i want results i need to look into myself.

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Author:	CharlesFinley [ Thu Sep 18, 2014 12:31 pm ]
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Quote: IE: are you getting dates, but not getting second dates? IE: are you not getting numbers? IE: are you getting numbers and no replies when you follow up? Or a million other things... Need to pinpoint the problem first. You want to provide these examples?

Author:	Stenic1 [ Fri Sep 19, 2014 12:14 pm ]
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself, start making approaches and take it from there. As charles said we need answers to what your actually doing to help you???

Author:	sugarwallz616 [ Sat Sep 20, 2014 7:25 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: IE: are you getting dates, but not getting second dates? IE: are you not getting numbers? IE: are you getting numbers and no replies when you follow up? Or a million other things... Need to pinpoint the problem first. You want to provide these examples? Dont worry about it now, it's a dead issue.

Author:	Xoved [ Sat Sep 20, 2014 8:22 pm ]
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You don't really seem to have a problem. I can see that most of your talk is out of desperation. You talk to girls at times, but you return home empty handed and start judging yourself about how you could've made it better and what you could've done and analyzing stupid mistakes you made. But guess what, no one is perfect. You seem to struggle a lot with approach anxiety too. You start "playing hard to get" but you end up with nothing. The only solution to your problem is an inner solution. Let go of everything, there's no need to put heavy thoughts of "could've had and could've done" moments on your shoulders. You need to start doing what YOU think is best for you. Trust me this is a long process, take it one step at a time. The first step you need to take is to free yourself from the guilt you are experiencing. It's not your fault, we've all been there. You are being desperate for hooking up, you have to admit it at some point. You drink thinking that you'll get a girl in any moment, and you end up going back home tipsy/wasted with regrets. That is part of the problem. Go out, enjoy yourself because YOU want to enjoy it. Start doing things for your own sake, not because they help you to get laid. Go to the gym in order to improve yourself, not to impress the girls. Read PUA material and watch videos because you want to improve as a person, not because you think that the lines they present would work. Most important thing is, don't fake yourself. The moment you come out as fake (for example saying you love something when you really don't, but doing it to impress girls) you'll crash and burn faster than you expect. If you provide me with a scenario or two with girls you talk to or any sticking point you have I might be able to help.

Author:	sugarwallz616 [ Mon Sep 22, 2014 3:01 am ]
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Quote: You don't really seem to have a problem. I can see that most of your talk is out of desperation. You talk to girls at times, but you return home empty handed and start judging yourself about how you could've made it better and what you could've done and analyzing stupid mistakes you made. But guess what, no one is perfect. You seem to struggle a lot with approach anxiety too. You start "playing hard to get" but you end up with nothing. The only solution to your problem is an inner solution. Let go of everything, there's no need to put heavy thoughts of "could've had and could've done" moments on your shoulders. You need to start doing what YOU think is best for you. Trust me this is a long process, take it one step at a time. The first step you need to take is to free yourself from the guilt you are experiencing. It's not your fault, we've all been there. You are being desperate for hooking up, you have to admit it at some point. You drink thinking that you'll get a girl in any moment, and you end up going back home tipsy/wasted with regrets. That is part of the problem. Go out, enjoy yourself because YOU want to enjoy it. Start doing things for your own sake, not because they help you to get laid. Go to the gym in order to improve yourself, not to impress the girls. Read PUA material and watch videos because you want to improve as a person, not because you think that the lines they present would work. Most important thing is, don't fake yourself. The moment you come out as fake (for example saying you love something when you really don't, but doing it to impress girls) you'll crash and burn faster than you expect. If you provide me with a scenario or two with girls you talk to or any sticking point you have I might be able to help. this has opened my eyes, thank you

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