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| Author: | Warped Mindless [ Sat Jul 12, 2014 2:34 am ] |
| Post subject: | It doesn't matter what you do, just do something! |
Log onto any PUA related forum or even check around a few related blogs and you will notice many people all trying to teach their own special brand of pick up or seduction. People debate and even get into heated arguments over which techniques work better, when to use them, and what not to do. There are a few problems with this... - People operate differently. A tactic that "works" for one person may well fail another person even when using the technique as intended. - People in the community have a huge tendency to massively over complicate the seduction process. At the heart of the community is the PUA Industry. The marketers who invent many of the techniques men on forums argue about do so to increase their cash flow. The more complicated they make the process the more money people will shell out to better understand said techniques. - Quite simply, many techniques and tactics discussed are simply not grounded in reality. Often what gets lost in the vast array of tactics and techniques is the pure simplicity of it all. Men and women are made to mate. Nature drives us all to go out, fuck, and repeat the process. When nature is on your side things cant be any more simple. "If its so simple why can't I get laid?" Above is the million dollar question that I get asked all the time. While getting laid is a simple process (more on that soon) the answer to that question isn't always so cut and dry. You could be lacking the sex life you desire because you are doing something fundamentally wrong. You could be on a very long unlucky streak. You could be approaching the wrong kind of women. The main reason, however, I find community guys can't get laid is because they over complicate the seduction process and try way to hard which women pick up on. With the vast array of techniques available to the budding PUA, and with so many people disagreeing on what does and doesn't work, figuring out what to do can and often is a confusing process. To be frank, the rest of this article aims to slice a path straight through the dense layer of Bull Shit clouding the community. Instead of arguing over tactics and techniques this article will expose the simple process that men has been using sense the beginning to get laid. If one was so inclined they could sum up the entire seduction process as this: Take Massive Action. Although this concept seems simple, and indeed it is, the results of applying it are powerful and life (at least sex life) changing. Play aloof or show direct interest? Neg or compliment? I could go on and on with opposing viewpoints in the community but it would be time wasted. Instead of trying to figure out what works by reading heated debates on forums, go out and take massive action. The one sure way to figure out what works is to take massive action. Go out, approach women, and experiment! Keep your mind open and don't get stuck in one way of doing things. I will advise, however, that you aim to keep things simple. Remember, nature is on your side and because of that you need no flashy techniques or strange tactics. This confuses many men in the PUA community because they don't really want laid. What they instead what is "pick up super powers." They want to feel superior to other men (AFCs they are often called) by knowing some "secret" techniques and "psychological" tactics that most other men do not. If we really want to figure out what works lets turn to real science and not the Pseudoscience often touted by the PUA Community. Numerous studies done by actual scientist (and not by some marketer trying to sell his latest, greatest product to you) shows us what attracts women to men. Despite what most PUA Community guys like to believe, what attracts women to us is primarily the same things that attract us to women. The three big things that make women attracted to us are Chemistry, Physical Looks, and Social Dominance. The truth of the matter is this; you cant really control how much chemistry you have with another person and its not worth trying to anyways. When it comes to your physical looks you have some room to work with. Work out, eat right, dress well, stand straight, etc. Social dominance, while it can be worked on too and developed, it can not be developed to the level most community men thinks it can be. Our personalities are pretty close to being set in stone by the time we reach age twelve and while it changes over time, its practically impossible to make yourself a very dominant person if most of your life has been spent being the opposite. When I tell Community men this they feel like I'm telling them to give up or even to not bother. Nothing could be further from the truth. Instead, I encourage men to abandon the idea of being able to pick up and sleep with any women because it will never, ever happen. The reality is, you will never even sleep with the majority of women that you cold approach. On the bright side, if you take massive action you will still most likely have a fulfilling sex life. Many community guys spend way to much time on the internet trying to figure out what works and what doesn't. Many of them simply get confused and give up. Do not go down that road! Instead, pick any system, any one, and then go out and take massive action. If you improve your looks as much as you can and work on the weaker points of your personality, and then go out and talk to lots of women, after a while you will start getting laid. You will start to notice patterns and find what works for you and what doesn't. Over time you will refine your own personal process and damn ner perfect it as much as it possibly can be. I'm sure many people will read this and will get angry. I don't blame them. The PUA Community has outright lied and led many people astray. People often get angry and upset when you tell them what they have been learning is sometimes wrong. If getting angry or upset was your natural reaction, ask yourself why and then take a step back and reconsider what you have read here. How do you get good with women? You take massive action. You take action by improve all aspects of yourself, and you take massive action by approaching a lot of women. The one thing I ask of you is this: If you are not having very much (or any at all) success, forget all PUA techniques and tactics and just go talk to a hundred women. Flirt with the ones you seem to have chemistry with and then invite them to hang out soon. You will be surprised at how much more success you will probably have with that simple method. Once you see how simple it realy is, build on that foundation. Experiment and refine your process. Many guys within the PUA Community believe that noncommunity guys don't get laid much because they dont know the "secret and powerful" PUA techniques and tactics. The truth, however, is that many noncommunity guys don't get laid all that much because they simply don't approach all that much. Most silly tactics and techniques are not needed. People have been getting it on for years and years without ever reading the latest PUA book or watching the newest 20 DVD set on "Inner Game." Remember, It doesn't matter what you do, it only matters that you do something. Taking massive action will get you laid. Go out and put yourself in front of women. Some of those women will like you and the more you do it, the more you will learn how to capitalize on the ones who have interest in you. Thats how you get laid. |
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