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| Author: | Chief [ Wed Jul 02, 2014 3:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | One word that can give you more confidence |
Someone once asked me what they could do to calm their nerves and become more confident when they're approaching women. I didn't have much time to answer comprehensively, so I just said what I could at the time. Breathe. A few days later, I got a great response from the guy. That one word really helped. He was smart enough to really take that word to heart in the field, so he focused on his breathing and also made sure that he was breathing normally and deeply. To make a long story short, he definitely had a lot better results in the field than before! Even if you don't make yourself take deep breaths, there's something about simply focusing your attention on your natural breathing - just observing your breathing - that can put you in a higher state of consciousness. You see, there's a reason why every serious PUA eventually gets into meditation and Buddhism in some way or another. Buddhist meditation is probably first and foremost about being completely aware of your breathing, which puts you in the present moment. Most of our worries and anxieties come from our mind being in the past, like if you keep thinking about the fact that you forgot to put on cologne and letting that worry you, or the future, like if you keep thinking about the possibility of getting rejected if you speak your thoughts frankly. If your attention is primarily on your breathing, it puts you in the present moment. It makes you more positive and confident. It makes you not attached to the outcome. So breathe. |
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| Author: | Playboi_ [ Wed Jul 02, 2014 4:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: One word that can give you more confidence |
Very good advice that a lot of people need to hear. I will put a little notice on it if you will, before approaching just take that deep calm breath, and proceed. I would advise against focusing on your breath through the whole conversation. It will make you look weird, taking long slow calculated breaths and not focusing on her is awkward. I find that one good, solid deep breath gives you that split second pump and you need to dive in right after that. |
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| Author: | NaughtyNapoleon [ Fri Jul 04, 2014 6:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: One word that can give you more confidence |
Great advice, Chief. I definetly agree with that. In my opinion, another piece of confident is having a solid process that can lead you to your desire outcome and know how to go through that process. It's like how to shoot a basketball, that's 5 micro step in every shoot (as I remember, taught by my basketball coach), once you go through that step consistently, you will able to shoot without hesistation, and you really appear to other that you are very confident of your shooting. So have a solid process of your own and practice that process long enough that you can go through them without a conscious thought on your mind, you will look Confident! |
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