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| Author: | chillboks [ Wed Jun 25, 2014 11:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Relationsip tips |
My first touch with the pua community was 5 years ago. Since than the community has been commercialized (“watch this video”, “subscribe on this”, “buy this e-book” and so on). So I decided to share for free some of my experience and what works for me. I would like to say that for me the mentality (frame) and the appearance (interactions) are connected both ways. This means that by changing your mentality you will interact differently with the surrounding world. But you can also forcefully change the way you interact and this will lead to a better frame also. This first article has nothing to do with the mentality it’s only a guide about taking better actions in a relationship. Relationship There comes a moment, when you want more from a girl, than just a f# close. Your relationship will escalate and you may even be exclusively with her. Relationships are like LEGO. Building layers of blocks actually is pretty the same as building the emotional bond between people: Some actions will build it on. Your first date, kiss, night together. A lot of things will make the bond dense: taking a girl with you to do something she haven’t experienced, her having plans about you and so on. Some will degrade it. Relationships are like everything else in life. They have ups and downs. Real man aren’t afraid from the down moments or loosing the girl. A real man will turn the down into a up. Beta man will panic with the first brawl and will do anything to keep their girlfriend. Beta guys will usually come to a moment when the relationship will be in a constant down. So soon they will here the “i need time” or “i think it’s better to keep our friendship” line. Or even “I don’t want to see or hear you anymore”. These article is dedicated on how should a Man handle a relationship and what will he do when there comes a down. I will try to make a parallel between how an Alfa and a Beta relation ship will look like. A real man will have their own live. Interesting and intriguing. He will continue this lifestyle no matter what happens between him and a girl. A beta male will devote his life to the girl. This usually won’t happen instantly. What I mean is that you must have other friends and activities (hobbies, job, sports, education and so on). You won’t stop with what you are doing because of her being mad at you. A real man will have a strong frame. Usually beta guys ma start with a strong one too, but slowly they will become a girls dog-puppet. So when you don’t want to do something (lets say going on a shopping day with her) - you don’t do it. No matter how hard she wants to convince you. A real man will be the confident leader. A beta guy will be a complaining-about-everything bitch. You won’t hear the alpha male telling a girl “I don’t know what to do in a relationship.” or “OMG I can let you go out with another boy.” Confidence and self-esteem are really important. Now lets see how do this rules look in real life with some examples from my own life: 1. Shit tests Actually girls will continue to shit test you. It’s like a second nature. I have never noticed the little tests girl land, i can’t concern myself with that. But when she says: “Call me when you change yourself” or “Talk to me when you are ready to (do something she wants)” Most guys rush to be the little puppy which indulgences his mistress. And when this happens her subconsciousness learns that you’re week and all she needs to say is “I won’t talk anymore to you” and you will do anything. So: I don’t care about your one-itis or how much you love her. You don’t call if she says one of those. This means also no chatting in viber, facebook or texting. If you call you fail. After only a day or so she will search you and apologize for talking this way. And she will subconsciously know that you are not a muppet. If she doesn’t - well this means that she is not attracted to you, so you go on with the next one. 2. Being boring Most guys are so boring these days. And when they try to do something new it’s a “tryhard” to impress the girl and seek some approval. Every time you and a girl do something the are a lot of hormones which make her happy. But with time and repeatability the feelings will fade. If you take her to the coffeshop every time you go out son she will know what to expect from you. So guys: Take her girlfriend elsewhere and do it because you want to go there, not because you need to impress. You haven’t gone to the theater or cinema from ages? Choose a cocky play that has something about “love” or “sex” in the story line and take her with you. You need some adrenaline? Well take her with you to race on go-karts. Do a bungee jump. Most guys will think of what their girl will want. So they will take her there and pretend they are interested, but all their body language will show the opposite. Be careful: Not all places you would like will be a good choice. Places, where she can participate like go-karts, bowling, billiards, etc. are good choices. They can deliver adrenaline and a little competition. Make her compete with you and you will be in a win-win situation. No matter who looses you can easily bounce to another place with the words “I won you ow me a drink”. 3. Obsessing her Seriously? Don’t you have another stuff to do? Leave you smart-phone and stop chatting with her. Let me correct myself: With her only. Go to the gym, go out with friends, read a book, write something. Just leave her. Make her search you. Soon or later you’re topics will deplete. Especially if you chat every f’ckin day. Than writing with you will become for her a gray, boring emotion, because you don’t have a life and want know what to say. Doing new stuff will give you new topics to talk also. 4. Not being sexual or being too much Sometimes you enter a relationship before having sex. Some guys will stay and wait the girl literally to jump and f’ck them. You have to escalate your physical contact. On the other side: arousing her every time you are together will only lead her to think you want and use her only for sex. 5. Guys with “expectations” (being reactive) You must not be reactive. You are a chill guy. Go forward to her only intending to have some fun. Don’t expect to have sex today. Don’t expect to her wiling to come with you to watch a boxing game. Having wrong expectations will lead to bad energy. If she doesn’t want something, just say “Cool, no problem”. As if this is your sister telling you she doesn’t like your handwriting/painting/dancing skills. Don’t be mad for little things, nor do make a talk about them. 6. Not having a position. As opposite of 5. Lets say your girlfriend makes something you don’t like. Have a position and tell her: “I don’t like you being/doing ....” but never try to force her. This may lead to shit tests and “Call me when you want tell me what to do” but i told you how to handle it. This doesn’t mean telling her about being jealous. If you are - don’t show it. So thats what I decided ti write. If it`s intersting for you guys I can share stuff on other topics also. |
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