Quote: First time i've had this with an older woman and struck out. She wasn't even that much older than me(6-7year gap).
The other night I was at a club talking to a woman(About an 8 ). She thought I was younger than I was(21-22) but we talked, got along well and she constantly sought me out. I would leave her and give her space and bump into her later on in the night. She would grab me as I walked past, her eyes would light up and her entire body language would turn to face me and be completely open. It was clear that this woman was into me, so much so her friends and my friends were saying she was totally into me. It was blindingly obvious I had this chick hooked.
We talk for a bit, have fun, laugh, she gives me things, we share drinks, etc., etc. so I go for it. I do my usually [phaseshift] "You know, you're really cute." *She shies away and blushes* then I get closer and tell her to kiss me as I go in to kiss her. She looks at me with a shy smile and says "I don't do that anymore." I'm caught off guard, look at her and say "You don't do this anymore?" and give her a smile. She gets nervous and says she just got out of an LTR then gets emotional... I give her a hug, calm her down and start talking to her, changing the subject. She's engaged in the conversation, really excited to talk to me and lots of kino going on between us. I test the waters for a kiss and no dice. She continues engaging with me, the night comes to a close and women start converging on me and her trying to chat me up. HB8 gets annoyed, walks out of the group to the side and crosses her arms looking around to the corner of me and directly ahead of another chick chatting to me. The newcomer takes the hint says "I think i'm annoying your date." I look at her, smile and then she says "You should go talk to her, she looks upset." So I say bye to the girl and go back to the girl I tried to kiss(HB8).
Talking to her, she tells me all sorts, asks about me, my interests, hobbies and insists I tell her about my projects saying she really wants to read up on them. Her eyes are glazed over, impressed by some of the tidbits I have pictures of. Then another group interrupts us, I turn to them, greet them openly and have fun. We're all laughing and stuff then the girl turns around and says she needs to find her friends I look at her and say "Alright." She waits and asks me to come with her so I say yeah "Let me finish my pint first." and go with her. She can't find her friends and asks me to walk her to a taxi. We walk, we stop, we talk and she basically squares up to me with open body language. I go to kiss her again and get nothing. So I say fuck it, hail a taxi for her, walk her to the door and say goodbye.
I'm of two minds on this. I think I fucked up and should have been more forward and assertive but I also think she had a huge stigma regarding the age gap and she wasn't prepared for a ONS so soon after her LTR. Two things going against me here: Her recently finished LTR and the age gap. But I feel she was looking for that "push" to spend the night with me.
Another weird thing that caught me off was her asking if I had a girlfriend AFTER I tried to k-close but not simply asking... it was as if she wanted to confirm her suspicions that I had a girlfriend and I was going to cheat on her with this HB8.
Anyway, before she left I got her info and stuff.
Thoughts? I guess this girl just needed a bit of a push?
I don't know what this is worth, I have no game, don't do any of this pick up stuff (yet!). But both the relationships I've been in have been with older women, the first was a 9 year age gap, the second more like 12. Anyway, like I say I didn't game either of them, so was just honest with both (probably what pua's would call beta), both appreciated the fact that I listened to them, understood them, didn't judge them and was genuinely interested in finding out about them rather than just (can't think how else to put it) bigging myself up with game and routines.
To translate all that into pua, I'd say it sounds like she needed a lot more comfort with you, bouncing around the room when she's already into you is probably what put her off. Just my opinion not based on game knowledge.
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