don't know if that's the only problem I have, but will try indeed! I guess I'll try to meet some interesting people in following month
Anyway if any1 else can help me on any of my issues, please do.
And musterion, thanks for advice
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| Author: | mucko [ Sat Mar 29, 2014 12:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Losing the game |
Hello, I have a problem with my game. A month or two ago it was ok, even though I was gaming too little. My results were ok, even though I tried to improve of course. However last month they went down and even going out more often did not fix them. I have a feeling that I might lack real motivation. Before I could easily speak and stay in set for long, now I have big troubles. Meanwhile I saw many quick sucess stories around me. Meybe I was analyzing them, even though I tried to just do my own thing. When I go to the set I feel different. I mean on inner level. I am not so interested anymore in the girl and getting to know her and girls feel that. That is destroying my game. I tried no fap for a while, hoping it would solve problems, but it just gave me negative mindset, so that was even worse. That's why I stopped. How should I regain motivation in just simply socialising and enjoying the process? Now I am very busy so I do not have a lot of time to go out, but when I go out I want to do things right. I just know something is wrong, but I do not know what. Should I relax? How should I set myself back to the old rythm? How should I gain interest in just getting to know people? I have a feeling that everything comes after that normally. Oh yeah, meybe it was also that I was hitting on girls that are too hot. But when I was gaming less hot girls just to gain some state (they were interested, but I guess i just did not take the most of situation), it just wasn't that fun. And therefore it wasn't fun for the hot ones as well. Anyway can any1 tell me what is wrong and what should I do? It'd be good to know where I am and how to fix that. |
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| Author: | Musterion [ Sat Mar 29, 2014 6:36 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Losing the game |
I understand what you mean about not being genuinely interested in getting to know people, have been through that shit before. The best thing I can suggest is talk to lots of people, guys, girls, everyone; eventually you'll meet an exceptional person that reminds you that actually, there are some pretty fucking cool people in the world (again this could be girl, guy, dog, moose, whatever). |
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| Author: | mucko [ Sat Mar 29, 2014 11:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Losing the game |
don't know if that's the only problem I have, but will try indeed! I guess I'll try to meet some interesting people in following month Anyway if any1 else can help me on any of my issues, please do. And musterion, thanks for advice
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| Author: | Compass782 [ Fri Apr 11, 2014 11:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Losing the game |
Let me tell you a quote I saw from a regular PUA he said "Enjoy the process". Anytime you grow or develop you should feel proud man .My suggestion would be to make personal game goals for yourself,if you try and fail these goals, write it in the filed report, and keep progress. and if you manage to succeed, well you can reap thoughs benefits as well  .-Compass |
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| Author: | hugge [ Wed Apr 16, 2014 7:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Losing the game |
I can totally relate to what you write. You will never have any success with people who bore you, because they will make you boring as well. You need to have fun to succeed. Just don't force it, because it will make you incongruent. Letting yourself be affected by the environment is a way to meet people at their level (building rapport as in "pacing" from the NLP technique "pacing and leading"), but that doesn't mean you will have any fun. In order to have fun you need to have energy, and the only way to get that is to be around people who give you energy. With other words, avoid people who look boring and never approach them in the first place. I actually find it more normal and sane to not be interested in random people than the opposite. So my recommendation to you is to go out with friends you think are funny and who give you energy, and go to clubs you enjoy. And when you are out, only approach people you think look fun. Ignore everyone else, they are not worth your time and energy, they will only drain it. |
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| Author: | PhoenixLimbo [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 3:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Losing the game |
Quote: Hello,
You ve just given the answer yourself... you have something else in your mind (work), that you deem at the moment more important (than talking to random girls...).Now I am very busy so I do not have a lot of time to go out, Have had the same problem myself.. my advice is that it is very difficult to fight it.. Instead retreat a bit from the game rather than force yourself to meet/pick up girls... When you will have had time enough to focus on work, then your subconscious mind will allow you to enjoy "unimportant things" again. You will feel the need to come back within, rather than forcing it.. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 6:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Losing the game |
Sometimes it may have nothing to do with your game at all but actually other parts of your life need fixing. You don't lose game, you can get rusty but you can never really lose it once you learn it and practice it for quite some time. You should look elsewhere to see where your troubles are. |
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