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| Author: | Musterion [ Thu Mar 20, 2014 11:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girl begged me to come meet, I didn't, how am I set now? |
Basically been messaging this chick from Tinder for a couple weeks, tried to get her to meet up twice but to no avail, essentially started to think this lead had gone cold. All of a sudden this happens: Her: You out tonight?xx Me: Not tonight unfortunately, you having fun at *bar*? xx Her: I'm off to *other bar*. Come out!!xx Her: Musteriiiiion (did the iiiiii with my real name) Me: Don't you full name me lol. Believe me I'd love to, but I can't tonight, what time are you heading out Saturday?xx Trying to set alternative as she mentioned earlier she'd be out then Her: Pleeease!! I dunno xx Now let me explain why I declined going out and some logistics; I literally have no money, like none, until tomorrow (typical) when I get paid, I can't actually believe how bad the timing was on this one, it's a mind fuck because this is the first day in the last 3 months I've had no money. She's 18 and I know she's still living "at home" which sucks because I'm living at home at the moment too (moving out over the summer close to town, can't freaking wait!) which means any chance of an f-close is pretty damn slim, also she's out for a friends birthday so I know that I'm not only gonna have her to run game on, but I'm gonna have a plethora of cock-blocks too to deal with and no wing to back me up. So anyway, I leave it a few minutes, then as I'm texting her back, she freaking calls me, I'm very much caught off my guard. I answer of course and she literally starts nagging me to come out, I say playfully "hey don't nag me missy!" and she replies with "I'll stop nagging if you come out." After she pushes for a reason for a while I tell her that I literally have no money, like not even enough for a cab home, she asks how far away I live, it's about an hour and a half walk away (I'm not going to town for like 1 drink and walk that distance home for some girl I've never met...heck I wouldn't have done it for my ex!). Eventually her friend chimes in saying I'm boring and she agrees (can't tell if it's just playful or not). I ask her what time she's out Saturday (she's had more time to think by now) and she says 10pm, I say "make that 8pm and we'll go for pre-drinks" she says she's working until 8pm which is why she's going out so that (damnit) then she gets to the bar and says she can't hear me, we say bye and call ends. I text her about 45mins later saying "Enjoy your night, I'll drink your German ass under the table on Saturday So gentlemen of game, my questions are thus: 1) is this still on? The pua in me is saying "abundance mentally, if you don't come running the first time she gives you the opportunity then you showing she's not on a pedestal" or whatever. The chode in me is saying "this was the one chance and it's now gone, you won't get a second". 2) How could I have played this better? what would you have done differently. 3) My next move, I was thinking of freezing out from now (obviously after the last text which I just sent) until Saturday night unless she puts some serious effort into re-opening me or asks about logistics for Saturday etc. Then call her on Saturday just before the time she said she'd be heading out for. What's you guys opinions? Been out of game for a couple years so am rusty as fuck on this shit lol. In the meantime I'm going out really late tomorrow night and my mate's housemates are all away for the weekend so I have logistics for an SNL if I can pull it off haha. |
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| Author: | Musterion [ Sun Mar 23, 2014 6:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl begged me to come meet, I didn't, how am I set now? |
Yeah man mid-20's, probs shoulda mentioned. I got one mate who lives in a shared house with some other random people but he's always said if I need to use his crib to bring a chick back to I can. She seems pretty smart (speaks 3 languages fluently) but definitely not anything special. Anyway I called this girl on Saturday as I was out, told her to come to this club I was going to and bring her friends but she was all like "I don't make the decisions in my group", I busted on her a bit and said something like "Ok, so I'll see you there later" but in a kind of jokey/cocky way, not excitable puppy way, she said she'd let me know and of course she didn't. I'm not too concerned about this chick now anyway, I went out Friday as I said I would and did alright (really lengthy field reports in my journal thing) and Saturday was an ok night anyway even without much chance of a lay etc. Gonna freeze her out for a while until she re-opens because she's flaked one too many times. Looking over the course of this week to flood my phone with new chicks anyway, abundance mentality for the win! Thanks for the input dude, and you're right about explaining why I couldn't come out, if anything I should have said that I just didn't feel like it that night compared to what I said. |
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Mon Mar 24, 2014 8:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl begged me to come meet, I didn't, how am I set now? |
Don't call her. When you put the ball in her court like you did, it stays there until she throws it back. Make your own plans Saturday without her. If you don't have plans with someone, don't leave your schedule open for them. Don't make excuses. Don't be a bitch. GFTOW |
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| Author: | Musterion [ Mon Mar 24, 2014 10:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl begged me to come meet, I didn't, how am I set now? |
Hey dude, not sure if you read my post properly but I already had called her, and had already made my own plans for Saturday, I invited her to join in with those plans (whilst I was on my way to the club with the dudes I was out with) and she didn't join. I have frozen her out since and she re-opened me today with no prompting from myself. So this seems like it's still on. I respect your opinion but I'd prefer if you actually took note of what I'd said I'd already done first, rather than act like I hadn't done it yet. |
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Tue Mar 25, 2014 5:07 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl begged me to come meet, I didn't, how am I set now? |
Quote: Hey dude, not sure if you read my post properly but I already had called her, and had already made my own plans for Saturday, I invited her to join in with those plans (whilst I was on my way to the club with the dudes I was out with) and she didn't join. I have frozen her out since and she re-opened me today with no prompting from myself. So this seems like it's still on. I respect your opinion but I'd prefer if you actually took note of what I'd said I'd already done first, rather than act like I hadn't done it yet.
You said calling her was an option. I said not to do it. Please read your own post. |
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| Author: | Musterion [ Tue Mar 25, 2014 10:52 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl begged me to come meet, I didn't, how am I set now? |
Quote: Anyway I called this girl on Saturday as I was out, told her to come to this club I was going to
I think I see where our wires have gotten crossed, you were responding to my first post whereas I thought you were responding to my second post.
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Wed Mar 26, 2014 1:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl begged me to come meet, I didn't, how am I set now? |
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