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| Author: | BrandonMarshall [ Mon Mar 03, 2014 6:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Break Out Of Your Shell... Don't Take Life Too Serious. |
This is probably more of an Inner Game thing then anything. One of the biggest mental blocks in PUA is studying material to the point of getting information overload and being convinced that you need to completely change who you are. I'm sure many of you are familiar with Elliot Hulse but he always preaches "become a better version of YOURSELF" In order to grow you have to change yes... but there's a huge difference between becoming a better version of yourself and becoming somebody you're not. If you're trying to use an opener or a style that doesn't fit you your message comes off weak , you're not completely sold on yourself, your delivery will be butchered. I'm un-coordinated, I have no flexibility, I suck at sports, I get carried away in my own world, I say outrageous shit and I smile from ear to ear (I've heard many gurus say it's bad to smile too hard or whatever)... in fact in the military I got yelled at a lot by my leadership for smiling in the shittiest situations lol. If I tried to act too serious (WHY SOOO SERIOUS!?!?!) I'd fail horribly, I'd be miserable, I would be lying to people... id probably hate myself and wear black makeup or some shit. When I first started learning PUA 7 years ago I haven't had a major break through until I embraced who I was and enjoyed the process. Sure I can't pick up EVERY single girl.. but nobody can. A good sense of humor and a high self image has helped me thrive. And if a girl does reject me then who cares? I don't want her in my world anyway because she's not on the same wave length as me. When you're having fun and focused on having a good time even if the girl was unattainable the conversation is so stimulating and different that you get rejected in an elegant way. When you go beyond the stupid social masks we talk behind the conversation itself is exciting. If having conversations with a girl isn't stimulating or exciting to you then .... A. you're approaching lame ass girls that don't know how to have fun or B. Most likely you're playing prevent defense with your conversation and you're too busy stuck in your own head to be able to be out of your shell. Shit I remember being out on a double date with a friend and it was my first time eating a whole lobster. Breaking open a lobster is a pain in the ass by the way lol. So I'm cracking this lobster open.... struggling like crazy squirting juices across the table and everything.. I probably shot lobster juice in her eye. I'll admit my inner thoughts were "awww man I probably fucked this up lol... but oh well" .... but I stayed cool and acted like it wasn't a big deal Later on that night when we were alone he brought up the lobster thing and said she thought it was awesome how I was laid back and un-apologetic about it... because most guys she knew would've gotten nervous and self conscious. Later that night we went back to her place and "watched a movie", then somehow it lead to sex... crazy how innocent movie viewing turns into sex. I need to stop falling for that old trick... I just wanted to watch Anchorman. Moral Of The Story : Have fun with PUA. I see too many guys trying to learn the material and stressing themselves out over it. Embrace who you are and apply the techniques that work for YOU... don't try to be somebody else. Embrace your imperfections. Massive Imperfect Action is the key to success... ( in fact I used to just hit the clubs and bars myself so I could experiment with different techniques since my friends just didn't "get it") not every approach will be flawless... but if you're out there taking action and learning you're ahead of the majority of the PUA community. - B |
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