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| Author: | Raiden2k2 [ Mon Dec 02, 2013 2:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Be Unapologetic |
This was the biggest thing for me and occasionally I still have problems with it. When I say be unapologetic, people immediately jump on it, and say, "Well what if you make a mistake." People look for a thousand ways to be unhappy, but verily one to be happy. Being unapologetic, doesn't mean you don't apologize when you've done something wrong. It means you don't apologize for who you are and wanting what you want. Today, I went out with a girl who told me she went out with a "Friend." She said, and I quote, "He said he's just fine being friends, but, he was trying to grab my clagdaugh ring and I was like, I'm not ready to date." I looked at her and said, "I'm telling you right now, I don't want to be your friend, I have no interest in a friendship with you, I want you." She said, "Well, I'm not ready to date again." And I said, "Then I won't date you, we'll get to know each other well enough for you to feel comfortable enough to come to my place and experience a great deal of pleasure." She blushed, she laughed, and we set a date for Tomorrow after she gets out of work. What made me different than her "Friend." I was unapologetic of my wants. I made it clear what I would accept. I was completely comfortable with who I am. Accept yourself for who you, what you have to offer, and what you want, and make no apologies for these things, and women become a lot easier. |
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| Author: | southern_gentlemangq [ Mon Dec 02, 2013 3:06 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
that story made me raise my fist as if you were a champion lol great job, and good point, alot of people in the friendzone stay there because they apologize for being who they are. |
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| Author: | smithw313 [ Mon Dec 02, 2013 4:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
That is great!!! |
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| Author: | maxtazm [ Mon Dec 02, 2013 11:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
great job honestly expressing exactly what you want. Thats how you get what you want, instead of passively waited for it. |
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| Author: | JLuther1688 [ Thu Dec 05, 2013 6:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
Awesome Love It! I'm totally going to say that the next time a girl says let's be friends. |
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| Author: | afcAL [ Fri Dec 06, 2013 7:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
Confidence and honesty are very seductive. Ironically, most students of pickup focus way too much on the routines and one-liners, not realizing that they are merely tools to enhance the experience. Al |
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| Author: | The-Duke [ Sun Dec 08, 2013 12:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
Quote: Confidence and honesty are very seductive.
Ironically, most students of pickup focus way too much on the routines and one-liners, not realizing that they are merely tools to enhance the experience. Al I completely agree with you, partly. Confidence and honest will get you a long way to meeting the girl and getting her to like you. But if you're like me and were raised to be polite and reserved those two aren't enough. You also have to make it apparent about your intentions. Most of the time this could be as simple as kino escalation but in some cases, like the OP's, you have to be blunt and just say that you want to be physical. If you lack tact like some guys tend to try telling her something like "I tend to be a very physical person when I express myself." and then make sure to follow up with a DHV that allows you to be physical to show you don't just mean sexually. This also gives the girl some plausible deniability later when things do get sexual to tell herself that you're just physically expressing your emotional attachment to her One cavet about the above, in the past I've found that using the above can make women really latch onto you in a very short time so be prepared if later you have to explain you don't want to see her anymore. |
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| Author: | afcAL [ Sun Dec 08, 2013 2:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
Quote: I completely agree with you, partly
Although this confused the hell out of me, I know what you mean.Reading people is another important aspect of pickup. If you can do it well, you know when to back off, when to escalate, when to change gears or eject. Routines and tactics never worked for me because I can't lie to save my life. Maybe wrongfully so, but I view all sorts of tactics as deception and they feel completely awkward every time I used them while learning pickup. At this stage of the game, I either internalized a lot of tactics that once felt unnatural or there is no need for them once I built an attractive personality. Al |
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| Author: | BrandonMarshall [ Sun Dec 08, 2013 3:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
Radical Honesty. I love it. Never ask for permission.... beg for forgiveness. Dunno why that line came in mind but that's my motto.... It's the method of a true leader. |
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| Author: | Beast 45 [ Sat Dec 21, 2013 3:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
Being apologetic means being conscience of your actions and trying to rectify it when you do things wrong. It's inevitable that you will do things wrong, you're only human, what matters is how you react to you own mistakes. Lets look at your own conversation. When you said: "I'm telling you right now, I don't want to be your friend, I have no interest in a friendship with you, I want you." I think that was maybe a mistake (I cringed a little when I read it) but I have to say I was impressed with your next line. An AFC would have panicked at that moment and would have either tried to go back on what he said or try to pass it off as a joke, instead you recognised that you said it and pushed through it with your next line. More people need to know that this is how it's done! *applause* |
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| Author: | Raiden2k2 [ Mon Jan 06, 2014 3:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Be Unapologetic |
As an update, I have continually hooked up with this woman. We haven't started dating. She's not yet wanting that. But, true to my word, I haven't been her friend, but, I've been her romantic and intimate partner. |
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