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| Author: | pursuewhatstrue [ Mon Jul 29, 2013 2:25 am ] |
| Post subject: | Getting a player (PUA) label |
PUA tought me to be fast. 3 second rule, rapport, fast escalation. It all works. However, girls often label me as a player and think I flirt like that with all girls. Which I do, but only with those who I think are special. That's a DLV to them and it makes things harder. Anyway, how do you deal with it? |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Mon Jul 29, 2013 7:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Getting a player (PUA) label |
It's actually not a "DLV." Women want what they can't have. The fact that you are desired by other women automatically makes you more desirable. It keeps them interested because they are in the position where they have to chase you down and win you over. It's actually a GOOD THING when a girl calls you a player. |
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| Author: | Pickwick [ Mon Jul 29, 2013 10:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Getting a player (PUA) label |
As Joker said it's not a bad thing. I've been hit with the label a bit too many times, esp. in school, and while it does lead to some girls being a bit cautious, it's nothing you can't break down. Men will respect you and women will fear you, in a good way of course. |
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| Author: | pursuewhatstrue [ Fri Aug 02, 2013 12:07 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Getting a player (PUA) label |
Doesn't that mean that I am not reliable? Player just plays arround with a girl and goes to another one. No girl will call such guy a real man. They want someone who will love only them for the whole life. True love. That is my perception of women's mind. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Fri Aug 02, 2013 12:17 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Getting a player (PUA) label |
Quote: Doesn't that mean that I am not reliable? Player just plays arround with a girl and goes to another one. No girl will call such guy a real man. They want someone who will love only them for the whole life. True love.
That's the thing bro... You can't just be some guy who does nothing at all, goes out, parties and has a good time, and fucks hot sluts. It doesn't work like that. Women want a guy who is a MAN. They want a guy who has his shit together but also can be fun to be around and have a good time too. Usually, when a girl calls you a "player" it means she likes you and is challenging you a little bit to test your frame. My typical response for "You're a player!" or whatever she might say along those lines is "Are you saying that you think I'm smooth?" and give her a little wink. It works well.
That is my perception of women's mind. |
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| Author: | Pickwick [ Fri Aug 02, 2013 2:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Getting a player (PUA) label |
There is nothing wrong about flirting with more than one female if you're single. Most girls will understand that you're not trying to wife them, unless you show her serious intentions. In fact, that's what almost every girl will assume about most men through the popular culture and maybe previous experiences. You're not supposed to be reliable for anyone. You should rely upon yourself first. If you want to flirt with different girls, do it. People want what they can't have. If you show a woman that you're not whipped to her voice she will want to change that. At the same time a woman is attracted to someone who has balls, so she will lose interest in you. It works in a tricky way. To ease it all up, you should do what you want. Don't try to conform to any person's wishes. On another note though, if you're promising a girl to be exclusive, stick to your words. Whatever you say, stick with your principles. |
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| Author: | Moscow [ Fri Aug 02, 2013 6:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Getting a player (PUA) label |
Quote: Men will respect you and women will fear you, in a good way of course.
This ^ well put. |
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| Author: | RockstarPUA [ Wed Aug 07, 2013 8:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Getting a player (PUA) label |
The thing is, girls will only recognise a player by the amount of women in his life, and his reputation for being a 'manwhore'. However, its very rare that a girl will know how we actually work. I suppose they'd expect the player to be actively hitting on girls all the time. Whereas, if your game is more of the indirect school, then the game is to not telegraph interest straight away. So these girls who call you a player will almost be surprised that your not obviously hitting on them. This will kick start an insecurity of 'why isnt he trying to pick me up?', because you will be hitting her with negs, freeze outs etc, and therefore whether consciously or not, they will try to win you over. Job done. |
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