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| Author: | Anon191919 [ Tue Apr 09, 2013 1:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | looking for insight on my reoccuring thoughts |
Im 18 years old and I consider myself to be successful with women. I have no problem creating attraction and picking and choosing with the women I speak to. But that is only the tip of the iceburg. Anybody can attract women, but the real obstacle is having a clean concious that allows you to enjoy the experience and feel good about yourself. My last girlfriend I had I was like 16 or 17 years old. After I started to really like her and get attatched to her(after dating for a while) I started to create reasons why I shouldn't like her. I did this in order to stop myself from getting so attatched because I was only in highschool. I would say things to myself like "before we were dating she probably blew any old guy on the street" or " I wonder how many guys she fucked before she started dating me" and I would have all these reoccuring thoughts. Then when she would talk about something that happened in her past I would instantly get triggered and feel a little sick inside. Now I'm in college and I had my share of pickups first semester and turned my southern fuckbuddy into a girlfriend. Shes a great girlfriend, the best I could ask for. But, I keep thinking inside my head "Oh i wonder how many frat guys shes been with before we started dating" and all these sick thoughts, maybe just an attempt to stop myself from liking her so much so I cant get hurt. I dont know what it is, but I am not an emotionally needy guy at all, before I started liking her so much I didnt give a fuck how many guys she had been with or what she used to do. Now that we are getting close I find myself wondering what she has done, like it would make a difference anyways... Its a pussy attempt to protect myself from the unknown and I'm sick and tired of it interfering with my mind. Can anybody spew some wisdom on me? |
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| Author: | permisQus [ Tue Apr 09, 2013 4:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: looking for insight on my reoccuring thoughts |
You are young. Fuck a lot. You have many stumbles ahead. You are thinking too far ahead. Just have fun for now.Relationships don't work out at that age. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Tue Apr 09, 2013 11:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: looking for insight on my reoccuring thoughts |
like the poster said. You are young, you have years to mature. Why are you caring about things that aren't in your control? Are you going to make a time machine and cockblock your current girlfriend? No. Let it go. It is done. You cannot change history. Focus on things within your control. That will help you take your mind off things. Go get some hobbies, it sounds like your relationship is interfering with you thinking properly. Dean A. |
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| Author: | Wall1e [ Wed Apr 10, 2013 11:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: looking for insight on my reoccuring thoughts |
The experiences she had with other guys in the past has shaped her the way you like her right now. If she had not even f*cked one of those guys or anything, she wouldn't be attractive perhaps and might have gotten different beliefs. Don't give a damn about how many guys she has f*cked, there will always be guys before you, who cares? I'm 19 years myself, and to be honest, if I had a girlfriend (which by the way might happen soon) then I'd still be going out and talk to other women. She brakes up, then why go depressed or angry or sick of her? She would be damn stupid to dump you, since you're the prize right? Forget about the perhaps bad experiences she had, or any sexual experiences she had. As I already said, it has shaped her the way she is right now. You're part of her life, and you will shape her as well. Get used to it. Wallie |
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| Author: | Anon191919 [ Thu Apr 11, 2013 10:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: looking for insight on my reoccuring thoughts |
ya, you are all totally right. |
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| Author: | poeticlyskuac [ Fri Apr 12, 2013 1:10 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: looking for insight on my reoccuring thoughts |
What you are describing are some underlying self-limiting beliefs.... They work in conjunction with low self-esteem... You don't value yourself enough. This topic has been locked due to Forum rules Please read them: Quote:
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