That's me! Honestly, I would not ask questions you don't want answers too. I suggest you keep working on yourself and keep meeting new people. Meet new people, have hobbies, and have something going for you. It will detach you from your girlfriend and give you a bigger picture to work with. The reason I suggest these things is because the more roles you have in your life, the less the role of the boyfriend will influence your perception of yourself. It's like a coping mechanism, be a friend, brother/sister, son, worker, boyfriend, musician, etc. Get my drift? Having things going for you in your life will benefit your internal confidence and you can ask all the questions you want.
Keep on working on your inner self or inner game as the PUA community places it. The more you work on it, the more the external factors have an influence on your psyche. It really works. There is also the mindset that all girls will have partners before and after you and you should accept that. Enjoy your time with your girl, as it may be limited since you don't know if you guys will be together forever. Make the most of it. My current oneitis, I just lead the conversation to the present, and focus my mind on the present. I play with her hair and admire her beauty, because I treat my time with her as if it were going to be the last. Treat every week as if it were your last on earth. How would you think about things then? Would you be worried about dumb insecurities then? Now, this won't come overnight, but little by little you will see results.
Solution: Inner game time.
Dean A
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