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| Author: | IwantEasyLove [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 9:57 am ] |
| Post subject: | It's What You Do. Its not about how you feel. |
People will always have fear. It is instinctiual, its a part of being human. People fear getting hurt. People fear getting embarassed. Its not how you feel it what you do. You can even use your fear to your advantage. The fear of being afraid is one of the strongest motivators. What do I mean by this lets say you have a soldier is afraid during a battle and he does not what to go on a mission. However, he is also afraid of being a coward. So he goes on the mission just to prove he's not afraid. You may question his motives. But its not how you feel its what you do that matters. Would you criticize a firefighter that saved your life, saved you from a burning building if he didn't to prove that he wasn't a coward. Think about this. How does this apply to pick up. Let's say you are afraid of rejection. Well, a guy may approach a girl just to prove that he's not afraid. However, sometimes it can be done wildly and you just make a reckless approach and get rejected. You were apprehensive because you were not prepared to succeed. Fear is helping you sometimes. Now I want to talk to you about three things 1.) pride/ego 2.) Indignation 3.) Humiliation. Your ego is your self-concept. Your ego tells you what you can do and what you can be. Let say your ego tells you that you deserve a HB10. You deserve. Now thinking like this if you approach an HB 10 and she rejects there are two extremes of things that can happen. You will feel indignant and think that girl should have liked you and that she should be your and it is not right that she is not. Or you will fee humiliated and your self-image will be affected; you may start thinking you are not good enough for the HB10 and you may never approach an HB 10 again. When you are indignant you feel that you want to prove yourself because you know you deserve better. When you are humiliated you accept it, you are humbled, and you give up. Ok, often something in between these two extremes happens: despair. To some extent you feel that you deserve better, but to another extent you feel that you deserve less; these feelings go to war in you and make you behave in a erratic manner. A man that is indignant will take reasonable steps to prove that he deserves better. He will work on his game, his life and achieve what he deserves. A man that has been humbled will quit. The man that is TORN, both indignant and humiliated will behave desperately doing things that look bad and that are weak he is unsure emotionally and unsure of what he really wants. |
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| Author: | IwantEasyLove [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 9:44 pm ] |
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Indignation- you are using fear as fire. Humiliation- your fear has defeated you Despair (mix of humiliation and indignation)- your fear is out of control. |
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