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Author:  Popay69 [ Mon Oct 15, 2012 5:31 pm ]
Post subject:  I AM CONFUSED
Hey all!

I'm stuck at one point for about half a year and I thought that I would figure it out as I will keep dating girls and analyze our relationships.. I CANT FIGURE IT OUT.

Im 17 and a senior in HS, I started practicing pickup last year and sarged 2 times a week for atleast 4 months. I got very good and my inner-game improved also, but I couldn't base relationships from cold approaches because of logistics (distance and shit)

Then as I started to hit it off with the ladies in my area and I could get any girl from my school/social circle, I started to date girls from my area and met girls only when I went out with friends etc (had some hookups from cold approaches-not relationships), and stop sarging.
BUT, the problem I had with the first girl I hooked up with is the same problem I'm still having now:

ATTRACTION FADES OUT.

I can easily establish attraction the first time we meet with good kino and sexual energy, lead and arrange a meeting like 1-2 days later, establish some rapport and Kclose at that meeting.
then, I would call/text sometimes (not more than her) for asking how she is and plan somthing together, when we get together I'm always start with a small talk and then we're making out and I build emotional connection (the only thing that lasts).
I'm taking her out to parties/BBQ etc with my friends, showing her my world and she's showing me hers

but then, ALWAYS after not more than 2 months, she tells me that she's not attracted to me anymore ("I love hanging out with you, but not this way").
they ALWAYS tell me that in the start it was great and exciting but then it faded out.

I feel that my problem is that I dont know how to take the attraction further.
I establish the first attraction with eye contact, sensual talk, sexual kino and sexual energy, in a group I'm always make good impression.

but when we pass it, and I'm still doing it (carresing her neck/legs while talking, eye contact, make her laugh, makeouts etc),

IT JUST SEEM TO NOT BE ENOUGH
(the absurd is that I NEVER had it with girls I didn't had anything with - they're always attracted to me and when I'm making a move they never resists)
Author:  Buccaneer [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 8:50 am ]
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Whats happening is actually very normal:

You are attractive on the meet, but after a couple of months the girls start thinking about their long term goals: here is what they might thinK:

1. I like this guy. But is he going to be good husband in the future? And is he going to be a good father?

2. I am having great fun, but are we not getting too settled? I want to F more guys and more relationships before I am getting married and having children.

3. In the beginning things were exciting and new, but now the shine is off, and I am getting bored. Sometimes I am getting gamed by other guys who are also interesting...

Obiously, girls will not admit this, and maybe the will not even consiously think about it in the clear way I displayed it. But do bear in mind that you are still young, and its very unusual to have long term relationships at that age. People are still developing their personalities and therefore also switch relationships a lot.

Hope this helps you man. Maybe you can work on your relationship skills; write loveletters, talk long about how she feels about "us". Usually the shit that freaks us men out, but for women and LTR"s it works.

greetz

BUcc
Author:  Popay69 [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 2:45 pm ]
Post subject: 
I don't aim to LTR.
I act really casual and independent but they're cut it off before I get the fun things (from around 10 girls, I got only 1 BJ and 1 laid!).. with most of them, I get only makeouts with their close on.
Author:  Popay69 [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 2:46 pm ]
Post subject: 
I don't aim to LTR.
I act really casual and independent, being funny and escalate.
but they're cut it off before I get the fun things (from around 10 girls, I got only 1 BJ and 1 laid!).. with most of them, I get only makeouts with their close on.
Author:  Popay69 [ Wed Oct 17, 2012 7:00 pm ]
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Guys, what can I do to keep the attraction going with a girl I'm already hooking up with?
COME ON ;)
Author:  puaninja [ Wed Oct 17, 2012 7:18 pm ]
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Age old question. Easy to land a woman but hard to keep her.

Some guys say to fuck them like a caveman. Some say to be spontaneous. Some say to treat them really nice. I think all of those combined will probably serve you right.

Also, don't start getting AFC on them. Don't get needy or clingy or start chasing them. Continue to run the same pua game and push/pull the same way you would with any girl. Just throw in that extra stuff since you already have them in your back pocket. That will help to keep them there.
Author:  nobelsito [ Wed Oct 17, 2012 8:54 pm ]
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Easy dude. Don't always be up her butt. Don't need to have sex every-time you two connect. Rule her world, have her get rid of some of her friends you don't like. Act like you really don't like her right after everything seems to be going good. Break up with her on a Friday night and get back with her on Tuesday 6 weeks into it. I had my GF turn to marriage till 32, but its that what you want at your age? MMMM I'd say if you are emotionally connected at that young of an age you'll miss out on tons of HB and activities, but managing multiple GF's in HS would be pretty complex.
Author:  Popay69 [ Thu Oct 18, 2012 4:48 pm ]
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I'v tried to manage multiple relationships last year, it's cost me a realy cute girl who I wanted to make my GF..
so i stop that, atleast with the girls I care about.
I tried all of this.. can you be more specific about things I can do to/with her?
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