Quote: So it is true, some of my old friends have already welcomed me and I am now confirming, it is true, Slywalker is back on the forum! I decided to come back, not because I miss picking up girls but because I feel I still have a lot to bring to the community and I really enjoy talking to you guys!
In this post I will bring up a problem, a mistake that probably 99% of the members of this forum are making, and it is time for it to stop.
Take a second and think about all the skills and talents that you have developed over the years. Not only as a pick up artist but everything that you are good at or every area that you can show off in. As an example I'll give you my list: I am a good bartender, I can ski, I have fought in full contact kick boxing, I am a good mountain climber, I can surf, I am a personal trainer with a ripped body, I speak several languages, and the list goes on. Now, give me a common denominator from all of these skills/attributes.
Did you get it? No? Ok it is simple, it all gives me bragging rights, they are all skills that women find hot in a guy they just met and want to brag to their friends about. And this is how you get women to sleep with you, get them to be proud of who they met, if they can brag to their friends about you and their friends are jealous, they will sleep with you, this is a fact! My life is a proof of it!
Subconsciously, every guy out there is constantly collecting these skills/attributes/bragging rights.
Now, here is the big problem; what happens after they told all their friends? What happens after they have heard all of your cool stories? I'll tell you what, they will stop sleeping with you and find another guy with cool attributes to start bragging all over again!
Now, I may have all of these skills, but since I have been married for a year and a half, they don't do shit for me now. Back in the day, I used to get laid whenever I wanted to, but now, if I want to impress my wife, none of these skills will work because she is so used to my unnecessary talents that if I want her to put on that special piece of lingerie and be extra naughty I have to think outside the box.
The problem is that we spend so much time on learning cool skills and gaining sexy attributes that we are all just cool for a brief moment, we turn in to short trailers rather than long movies if that makes sense.
If I had spent half the time I did on being a cool date and the other half on being a cool boyfriend I would have had much better relationships in the past, I would have had much better retention with previous girls and had much more sex! Now as a husband, I couldn't just let my wife lose interest in me like all of my previous relationships, I had to make a change, but the answer is not to gain new skills or attributes, the answer is to not let the old ones play out.
Even if you are planning to stay with a girl for two weeks, two months or for a life time, it doesn't matter, you have to work on it! Having sex with a girl once is the easiest thing in the world, talk to me if you have problems with that. But retention and getting more and more from girls, wilder sex, and never losing interest even years down the line takes a lot more work.
The trick is to never stop gaming her, never get too comfortable, this is why guys get dumped or cheated on, because you are no longer challenging her!
Never ask her for sex, never assume sex, game her every night, make a game our of gaming her, see if you can pull a new trick every single night!
When you are out picking up girls, it isn't actually the orgasm that is the goal of the night, orgasms are easy to achieve, all you need is a paper tissue, your right hand and a porno mag. What you really are after is the thrill, the thrill of actually picking a girl up, breaking her shield and fucking her in the hottest position possible, if you achieve that you couldn't care less about a fucking orgasm!
My point is that no matter how long you have been in a relationship it is never too late to seek the thrills. And both you and her will be a lot happier, you will be more of a man and she will feel like a wild girl again and that's really what all girls want. And all you want is for sex to be thrilling again.
Spend a little less time on studying routines and magic tricks and a little more time on how to thrill your women. Study smooth moves from movies, crazy positions from pornos, ask a friend, watch Oprah, whatever you need to do, don't ever lose the ability to thrill someone, a long term relationship does not mean game over, it means game on!
So for the guys who have been seeing the same girl for a while, try a new seduction routine on her, something you would normally only try the first night, and trust me, she will love it!
I would love to hear opinion of someone who was/is for 5+ years in an exclusive relationship with one woman and whether or not it worked out well for him.(well meaning there is still passion in relationship and etc)
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