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Author:  The Chef [ Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:49 pm ]
Post subject:  She makes me nervous...just need some coaching
Hey guys,

So this HB10+ (think a more stacked Carrie Underwood with Brunette Hair) just started at my office, and for the first time in my life, I am getting seriously nervous. Everytime I see her I lose it and am unable to keep frame or confidence. I turn into a damn school boy and it's annoying. I am sure I already shut the door on myself but I just decided to come here to gain some more perpective on the situation.

The very first day she started the elevators were out, I met her at the stair way with a friend and introduce myself, I negged on her huge designer bag and smiled and she smiled back...we then began the trek up 4 flights of stairs. I was not in very good shape at the time so by the time I got up to the 4th floor i was sweaty and winded. I opened the door and ran to my office because I know my display of weakingdom was a complete turn off.

A couple of days later I passed by her in the morning on my way to my office and she gave me a huge kool aid smile and said good morning, i responded, but in true nervous wreck AFC fashion, I choked and stuttured my way through it.

The last time I saw I said good morning and asked her how she was, we talked then she asked me a couple questions two of which I stuttered all the way through. Once the conversation was finished I ran away to my office and shut the door and just shook my head...then my buddy laughed at me..haha

Anyway, How can I get back into a good frame with her. I am pretty sure I messed up and have no chance, especially with a TEN. What can I do to turn on that attraction for her?

Any help is much appreciated.

Thanks,
The Chef
Author:  The Chef [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 5:09 pm ]
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anyone?
Author:  youngG [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 8:37 pm ]
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frame?
i am unfamiliar with this


but i do often get nervous and I shouldn't
i get the IOI and then I don't know where to take it
my problem is all this advice if for the clubs
what about the girl who is my roomates friend? or a student etc...?
thats where i struggle
Author:  Jen [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 8:46 pm ]
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Give yourself a reason to be there. You're nervous because you're pointless to her at the moment, and the fact you're unfit is exacerbating this.

Think of a task - i.e, doing a coffee run, or bringing someone something, as a reason to go and chat. Think through what you're gonna say beforehand.

And go to the bloody gym.
Author:  saqchek [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 8:49 pm ]
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anyone?
Here is the best advice you'll get up here.


Don't fucking do it.



That simple. Don't game where you work, don't shit where you eat, don't get your honey where you get your money. It's simple. Don't do it. The pros tell you not to, and I'm going to tell you not to. Hell, I knew this long before I found about PUA life.
Author:  Jen [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 8:52 pm ]
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Quote:
Quote:
anyone?
Here is the best advice you'll get up here.


Don't fucking do it.



That simple. Don't game where you work, don't shit where you eat, don't get your honey where you get your money. It's simple. Don't do it. The pros tell you not to, and I'm going to tell you not to. Hell, I knew this long before I found about PUA life.
Yeah, but that eradicates the possibility of fun work encounters! Ooooh, so much more enjoyable when strictly forbidden. So much more of a challenge. Come on, surely doing it the easy way gets dull?
Author:  saqchek [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 8:59 pm ]
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Yeah, but that eradicates the possibility of fun work encounters! Ooooh, so much more enjoyable when strictly forbidden. So much more of a challenge. Come on, surely doing it the easy way gets dull?
Are you a female Jen? If so, fill our author in on what's going to happen if he does manage to land her and she dumps him or finds something better? Or perhaps he fucks her over and the issues she's going to cause at work. Even fucking better...the sexual harassment charges he could potentially get.
Author:  Jen [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 9:16 pm ]
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Oh come on. They work on different floors.

Author. If you get dumped. Find something better, Hell, isn't that what this forum's all about?

If you dump her - deal with it. You want pussy, you take those chances.

Sexual Harrassment. Don't grope her in public. Anything she then says is her word against yours.
Author:  saqchek [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 9:24 pm ]
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Oh come on. They work on different floors.

Author. If you get dumped. Find something better, Hell, isn't that what this forum's all about?

If you dump her - deal with it. You want pussy, you take those chances.

Sexual Harrassment. Don't grope her in public. Anything she then says is her word against yours.
Sexual Harassment is more than just "groping". :roll:
Author:  Jen [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 9:26 pm ]
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well, duh.

Ok, how about this - DON'T SEXUALLY HARRASS HER. I would have thought that bloody obvious but it seems that isn't to you.

Otherwise - and for men not interested in sexual harrassment - just don't do anything in public that could be misconstrued, or held against you in any way.
Author:  JUSTINcredible! [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 9:32 pm ]
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Quote:
Quote:
anyone?
Here is the best advice you'll get up here.


Don't fucking do it.



That simple. Don't game where you work, don't shit where you eat, don't get your honey where you get your money. It's simple. Don't do it. The pros tell you not to, and I'm going to tell you not to. Hell, I knew this long before I found about PUA life.
From having a background in getting girls from work I second this. If youre awe struck at work it just means you need to get out of the office and hit up the clubs/mall/parties/ anywhere theres females. Reason for this.
1) Although fun and exciting, the fun doesnt last forever. It can become weird and awkward when things fall apart.
2)When it does go weird and awkward, it'll get to the point where one of you will have to leave. Or fired
3)You can get fired/ get sexual harrassment.
4) In a PUA improvement POV, Pick up at work can easily develop as a crutch in that familiarity can be an easy tool to get to C1 easily. Weakening your A1-A3 techniques.

combo meal for your thoughts :D
JUSTINcredible!
"Former new hire slayer. :lol: "
Author:  The Chef [ Tue Dec 11, 2007 10:50 pm ]
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Guys, and Girl...thanks

I kinda knew I shouldn't be gaming at work....it's probably for the best...I'll just admire from a far then.

Jan, thanks for the good advice, it's good to see a female here.

-Chef
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