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the news letters said something to the effect of making women appraoch you, taking up part time activities, like yoga, being a dj at a strip club, massage therapy, being an expert on cooking modeling and on and on. What do you guys think?
This is what they're talking about.."Be the flame, not the moth."
-Casanova
In other words if your game and non-verb communication skills with women suck, doesn't matter how many women you approach. You will be shot down practically every time anyway. Suddenly your social proof is shattered and your chances of getting with a women in this social context are about as good as winning a cool million dollars playing the slots in Vegas.
On the other hand with a good game, and plenty in common with attractive women you almost assured of success in the right social context. And in this case, success breeds success. Ever wondered why the bank only likes lending money to those who already have it?
Alas there can be significant differences between picking up women in bars, and during day game, school, work context, etc.. And don't let anyone tell you any differently. Many women put up the bar shield the moment they step into a bar, and have no intention of meeting anyone in there. In other words you're already suspect merely due to your presence in the so called 'meat market'. Other women are far too easy, and simply looking to get laid by the first guy that comes along with any game at all and who is in the top 10% in the looks, status (I'm talking money here) and non verb. department. Still others claim they're not there to meet anyone, then they get drunk and fall into the arms of the first guy that's available at closing time.
Is there any real formula that will guarantee success in such an environment, everytime? I'm afraid not. Often it's a numbers game. But then every little bit of knowledge, and confidence and charisma helps. And that's really what the MM is about. Confidence and charisma. Add in a bit of natural game and your success rate can skyrocket. This is stuff that flies over the head of the average Joe. Yeah, maybe he should become a D.J. or something (proximity and social proof are great tools. Especially when you learn how to create your own).
Brand79, send me your email address via PM and I will send you something that will help you understand this further. And will help you structure the non-verbal parts of your game that so many guys neglect. And the parts that separate the true artists from the guys that just get lucky occasionally, not really knowing how they did so or with a woman that had a few too many Jack Daniels and coke.
Once you master these natural aspects of your game, and learn how and are willing to escalate you will find your social opportunities with women will increase exponentially.