PUA Forum :: 2 YEAR RELATIONSHIP, Now in Termoil, Neeeed Help!!!

Thanks man, I appreciate your response.

Well looking back if I had to pick out the things that caused the failure I would attribute my failure to these things:

1) I didn't always demonstrate that I was an alpha-male. For example at times I was to clingy, and I would show her to many emotions, and be to attched.

2) I would always be asking her "Whats wrong" when her voice tonality wasn't great on the phone. Not only do I think this annoyed her, but maybe it was a way of her getting attention.

3) I think that at times I also was to attached. I would give in to her to easily, and wouldn't challenge her much at all.

4) I think I may have come accross as need.

But now by not calling her we will grow more apart, but she doesnt answer my calls.

I really don't know what to do now though, thank you guys.

1) stop ALL contact with her
2) go out and find other women
3) enjoy life

Sorry to break the bad news to you (i'm sure you know already), but the more you contact her, the more you lose her. It makes you look needy, it makes you give her all the power, and that's the EXACT reason why women leave men in the first place. Even if she did take you back, she'd lose respect for you and grow bored with you and most likely would cheat on you.

Do yourself a favor and forget about this "One-itis" as there are too many other girls out there. This girl you are talking about isn't special, she isn't a unique snowflake, she's just one of a million girls that would enjoy your company.

I imagine you aren't going to listen to anything I write, and you'll continue to call/text her. Which is fine, but the moment you lose her (again), you'll most likely remember these words and feel like a dumbass for not listening. Trust me, I'm 35 and I've been through shit like this several times. It's not fun, and our AFC self screams that we can win her back, but it's the ALPHA self that screams we can do BETTER than her. Listen to the Alpha, as that is the trait that attracts women to begin with.

If she calls back, don't apologize for shit you didn't do wrong. If you cheated on her or something, that's different. Just don't let her take the power in this situation or else you are done for.

I know it's hard dude,

I am there right now, I just got out a long term relationship and to be honest the hardest thing to do is TALKING to her. Even though I ended the relationship, talking to her reminds me of all the good times we had together, and it also gives her an opening to incite emotion out of me, to play games, and to try and win me over again.

Resist dude, I know it's hard, but you'll thank yourself later. Work on bettering yourself instead. Keep busy, go to school, pick up a new hobby, talk to other girls in your classes. Do anything to keep your personal growth going.

Never let a woman be the reason you stop advancing in life.

Author:	P.I.M.P [ Wed Nov 21, 2007 10:08 pm ]
Post subject:	2 YEAR RELATIONSHIP, Now in Termoil, Neeeed Help!!!
Hey Guys, I'd like to thank you guys in advance for your help, and I'm glad to be a part of this community. I'm in a little bit of a sticky situation right now. I was going out with this girl for almost 2 and a half years, and basically we broke up on bad terms and now we arent speaking. Now, I've text messaged her and called her (which I now know I shouldn't have done DLV), but I really don't know what other way to get her back. Honestly, I've text messaaged her saying sorry, and everything but she hasn't replyed and she doesn't answer back to my calls. I really don't know what to do I was thinking of text messaging her and saying "Thank you for being so stubborn, I now know that you aren't my type", or "Thank you for ignoring me, I have a new girlfriend now and I've realised your not my type". Would that be a good thing to do as a neg, or is that more for when you first meet a girl. We were both in the same highschool but I switched schools because I moved, so I don't see her now and she lives 30 minutes away thats why I haven't approached her in person. I really don't know what to do, any help would be appreciated. Thanks again guys, I appreciate your help!

Author:	The Chef [ Wed Nov 21, 2007 10:52 pm ]
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PUA teaches you how to get the girls, but it sure doesn't teach you how to keep them. More times than not, if a woman leaves, YOU did something wrong. So figure out what it is. I think if you take a look back on the relationship you'll most likely find the answers there. There isn't much PUA can do for you from this point out friend.

Author:	P.I.M.P [ Wed Nov 21, 2007 11:00 pm ]
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Thanks man, I appreciate your response. Well looking back if I had to pick out the things that caused the failure I would attribute my failure to these things: 1) I didn't always demonstrate that I was an alpha-male. For example at times I was to clingy, and I would show her to many emotions, and be to attched. 2) I would always be asking her "Whats wrong" when her voice tonality wasn't great on the phone. Not only do I think this annoyed her, but maybe it was a way of her getting attention. 3) I think that at times I also was to attached. I would give in to her to easily, and wouldn't challenge her much at all. 4) I think I may have come accross as need. But now by not calling her we will grow more apart, but she doesnt answer my calls. I really don't know what to do now though, thank you guys.

Author:	saqchek [ Wed Nov 21, 2007 11:05 pm ]
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1) stop ALL contact with her 2) go out and find other women 3) enjoy life Sorry to break the bad news to you (i'm sure you know already), but the more you contact her, the more you lose her. It makes you look needy, it makes you give her all the power, and that's the EXACT reason why women leave men in the first place. Even if she did take you back, she'd lose respect for you and grow bored with you and most likely would cheat on you. Do yourself a favor and forget about this "One-itis" as there are too many other girls out there. This girl you are talking about isn't special, she isn't a unique snowflake, she's just one of a million girls that would enjoy your company. I imagine you aren't going to listen to anything I write, and you'll continue to call/text her. Which is fine, but the moment you lose her (again), you'll most likely remember these words and feel like a dumbass for not listening. Trust me, I'm 35 and I've been through shit like this several times. It's not fun, and our AFC self screams that we can win her back, but it's the ALPHA self that screams we can do BETTER than her. Listen to the Alpha, as that is the trait that attracts women to begin with. If she calls back, don't apologize for shit you didn't do wrong. If you cheated on her or something, that's different. Just don't let her take the power in this situation or else you are done for.

Author:	saqchek [ Wed Nov 21, 2007 11:06 pm ]
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definitely don't send stupid messages about having another girl friend. It's lame and she'll see right through it. Once she sees you out with other women having fun, then it'll hit home.

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Author:	saqchek [ Wed Nov 21, 2007 11:08 pm ]
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Quote: Thanks man, I appreciate your response. Well looking back if I had to pick out the things that caused the failure I would attribute my failure to these things: 1) I didn't always demonstrate that I was an alpha-male. For example at times I was to clingy, and I would show her to many emotions, and be to attched. 2) I would always be asking her "Whats wrong" when her voice tonality wasn't great on the phone. Not only do I think this annoyed her, but maybe it was a way of her getting attention. 3) I think that at times I also was to attached. I would give in to her to easily, and wouldn't challenge her much at all. 4) I think I may have come accross as need. But now by not calling her we will grow more apart, but she doesnt answer my calls. I really don't know what to do now though, thank you guys. If you can realize these weaknesses you displayed, then why in the fuck are you continuing them by calling/texting and begging her back? You're just making yourself look more and more pathetic in her eyes.

Author:	P.I.M.P [ Wed Nov 21, 2007 11:16 pm ]
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Quote: 1) stop ALL contact with her 2) go out and find other women 3) enjoy life Sorry to break the bad news to you (i'm sure you know already), but the more you contact her, the more you lose her. It makes you look needy, it makes you give her all the power, and that's the EXACT reason why women leave men in the first place. Even if she did take you back, she'd lose respect for you and grow bored with you and most likely would cheat on you. Do yourself a favor and forget about this "One-itis" as there are too many other girls out there. This girl you are talking about isn't special, she isn't a unique snowflake, she's just one of a million girls that would enjoy your company. I imagine you aren't going to listen to anything I write, and you'll continue to call/text her. Which is fine, but the moment you lose her (again), you'll most likely remember these words and feel like a dumbass for not listening. Trust me, I'm 35 and I've been through shit like this several times. It's not fun, and our AFC self screams that we can win her back, but it's the ALPHA self that screams we can do BETTER than her. Listen to the Alpha, as that is the trait that attracts women to begin with. If she calls back, don't apologize for shit you didn't do wrong. If you cheated on her or something, that's different. Just don't let her take the power in this situation or else you are done for. Thank you for the great advice. I guess the best thing would be to play the field, and just forget about her and stop calling/text messaging her. I really appreciate your post, and in fact I am going to listen to you thank you very much

Author:	The Chef [ Wed Nov 21, 2007 11:51 pm ]
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I know it's hard dude, I am there right now, I just got out a long term relationship and to be honest the hardest thing to do is TALKING to her. Even though I ended the relationship, talking to her reminds me of all the good times we had together, and it also gives her an opening to incite emotion out of me, to play games, and to try and win me over again. Resist dude, I know it's hard, but you'll thank yourself later. Work on bettering yourself instead. Keep busy, go to school, pick up a new hobby, talk to other girls in your classes. Do anything to keep your personal growth going. Never let a woman be the reason you stop advancing in life.

Author:	P.I.M.P [ Thu Nov 22, 2007 12:05 am ]
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Quote: I know it's hard dude, I am there right now, I just got out a long term relationship and to be honest the hardest thing to do is TALKING to her. Even though I ended the relationship, talking to her reminds me of all the good times we had together, and it also gives her an opening to incite emotion out of me, to play games, and to try and win me over again. Resist dude, I know it's hard, but you'll thank yourself later. Work on bettering yourself instead. Keep busy, go to school, pick up a new hobby, talk to other girls in your classes. Do anything to keep your personal growth going. Never let a woman be the reason you stop advancing in life. Thank you bud. I appreciate it, I guess I should just move on to the next girl if its meant to be then she will come back to me right?

Author:	Financialwar [ Thu Nov 22, 2007 2:02 am ]
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get your act together dude. wether she comes back or not is not important. you dont need her in your life. i doubt you'll still want her back when you meet new women. go out there and sarge. get over your oneitis.

Author:	Partyboy [ Fri Nov 23, 2007 10:53 am ]
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Ace, We've all been there, the best thing to do is get out and try to forget about her. - get out sarging - do some sports/gym/hobby to keep you active If she's going to come back to you then she will, if not you don't want to be wasting time thinking about her. Good luck man

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