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Author:  VanHaven [ Tue Nov 13, 2007 1:27 pm ]
Post subject:  I actually got flaked on Sunday night
Long story short and spared of not needed details, I was supposed to go on a date this past Sunday night. Hotter girl than I would have even considered a year ago. She stood me up but left me a message on myspace saying she was sorry, had to work late, more excuses, ect.. She asked what my week looked like so we could try again. In the past I would have berated her for not being honest and if she wasn't intrested I'd rather she just said so and then stopped talking. However, this time I believe her. Instead I chose to just leave her a message saying "I'm not sure, call me later in the week and we'll talk about it."

Bascially in my mind I'd like to leave her wondering whether I may or may not still want to go do something with and leave the ball in her court. What say you mPUAs? Smart move? If not what would you have said?
Author:  Enigma87 [ Tue Nov 13, 2007 2:40 pm ]
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are you sure it was bullshit?

she should have told work that she had plans..

i like what you'v done its shown your not interested to forgive her straight away,
so when she said
"can we try again" and "you'v said im not sure.. call me later" i like the thinking behind it. i'd expect more myspace messages from her trying to feel you out, keep it casual. try not to let her have all the power by letting her call you etc.

make out like your busy, or better actually be busy, tell her your xmas shopping, gym, cooking, freinds, and do this make plans to go out so when she rings say something like
"yea we can meet up but i got alot on, sunday was like the only time i was free recently........"
but thats it dont give her specifics on where, or when. if she rings she'l want to nail down another date

and the term, "il make some time for you,"........should be changed for "il make time for us"

i got cancelled on too this week, so instead of stayin at home berating myself, i went out to the bar were she works with like 4 girls who i know to show i wasnt to bothered that id cooked for her. we all went back to mine had some wine and food, a good laugh and now pure hb9 has missed out, and im never putting effort in again for her...score 1 for enigma 8)
Author:  L.A. Tripp [ Tue Nov 13, 2007 6:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I actually got flaked on Sunday night
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Long story short and spared of not needed details, I was supposed to go on a date this past Sunday night. Hotter girl than I would have even considered a year ago. She stood me up but left me a message on myspace saying she was sorry, had to work late, more excuses, ect.. She asked what my week looked like so we could try again. In the past I would have berated her for not being honest and if she wasn't intrested I'd rather she just said so and then stopped talking. However, this time I believe her. Instead I chose to just leave her a message saying "I'm not sure, call me later in the week and we'll talk about it."

Bascially in my mind I'd like to leave her wondering whether I may or may not still want to go do something with and leave the ball in her court. What say you mPUAs? Smart move? If not what would you have said?
You handled it well actually. Let her call you as a test to see if she's being sincere. If not, then you have effecctively stopped talking to her. And, if she does call, you keep the frame control. You have something in mind you two can do. But nothing special just for the two of you. Remember that. She hasn't earned that yet.
Author:  Claire [ Tue Nov 13, 2007 7:18 pm ]
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I'm not a mPUA I'm even a PUA but i know a bit of the lingo
and i wanted to respond to this one.
That girl who ditched you is straight up lying to you about her reasons. Sending a myspace message is worse than sending a text message to stand a guy up those are clear signs of avoidance.
Good luck with this i don't know about her
Author:  Advice [ Tue Nov 13, 2007 8:04 pm ]
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it sounds legit to me, come off as though your busy but you'll "try" and make time for her... whatever day she says is best for her have big plans already and make it for another night... if she blows you off again put her on the back burner...
Author:  Valence [ Tue Nov 13, 2007 10:51 pm ]
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She left a message about standing you up after the fact? And then it was a MySpace message?

You should never let a girl get away with disrespecting you in this manner. There are many things that she could have done to get this information to you. At the absolute very lest, she could have called you the next day and apologized about standing you up the night before.

A MySpace message is weak and pathetic.....

So what should have been done given what happened.

I would have made her stew a bit. Did you immediately respond to her message? I would have waited a day or so after reading it.

When I responded, I would have told her what I did (You didn't sit around waiting for her, right?) and told her how much fun it was and that she missed out. Then told her that your time is valuable and it is disrespectful for her not to let you know.

Depending on where you were at in the method with her (later stages) you could have let he know that you had forgotten about the date and it was not a big deal because you went out anyways.

Never say you are unsure about something (Not Alpha). Just say you have not decided yet....

Never leave the ball in their court.. Why would you give that power to them.

When I am asked what my schedule is, I tell them that there are a few things going on but I have not decided yet. Ill ask them what there calendar is like and see if we have available time together. I do not give them my schedule. They have to tell me theirs.

After I have their schedule, I will either arrange for a time right then, or tell them I will call.

Now you are waiting on her. When she calls (if she does), then go into the above.
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