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| Author: | Numen [ Sun Nov 04, 2007 8:40 pm ] |
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It occurred to me the other day when hanging out with a few friends. The problem isn't that I lack confidence but it's that no matter what I do or say, it's always without fail projected with complete and utter confidence. The group consisted a 5 other guys and 2 girls so there was a little competition between men you could say. While the women love the fact that I'm so confident all the time that it borders arrogance without actually getting there. Some of the guys seemed so offset by it that they literally did everything in their power to prevent me from leaving a good impression on any of the women even if it completely ruined their chances. So I talked with my two best friends about it (one who's a total natural and the other a total AFC), and it seems guys are uncomfortable and sometimes offset by the confidence i exude. My freshman and sophomore year of high school I definitely wasn't that confident of a person at all.. ever since for the last 5-6 years i've learned to project everything i do or say with complete and utter confidence. I even had my psych prof get irritated with me when i answered a question in class because i projected my answer with such confidence that he thought i was saying i knew more than him (i later talked to him about it and he agreed that that was what happened as I never claimed or even insinuated i knew more, he just assumed that by my projection of confidence). While I know there's nothing wrong with what I'm doing there seems to be a pattern of other men getting irritated by this. While I have yet to have one women react this way, the pattern continues. I would like feedback and criticism from you guys on this as it's just confusing how i can have this affect on people. while I wouldn't say it affects all guys and just AFCs.. but those who could be considered true PUAs and naturals are generally not affected. |
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| Author: | Archangel White Rose [ Sun Nov 04, 2007 8:53 pm ] |
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Men pick up on things too. granted, not as easily as women do, but we can still read body language. And when you come in with a very strong energy demanding room and attention it takes away from them. Think about this case- you in a room and you have all the attention, all the girls love you and all the guys respect you. Then Chuck Norris walks in. What happens? Same thing. There is no way in hell your gonna beet Chuck Norris in an Alpha Male fight. What should you do? Make friends with Chuck Norris and get some of his aura. By acknowledging Chuck as an equal you are no longer an inferior. When guys start AMOGing you infield you should act friendly towards them and make them feel equal. They'll never really be equal to you as an alpha male, but they'll no longer feel put off by your presence. You'll also not come off looking like an asshole. Just the other day I was hanging out with some friends and I cracked a joke at some guys I didn't know, who turned out to be real assholes. We almost got in a fist fight, but I avoided it by being calm and rational and showing them I am not threatened or even moved by their threats. |
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| Author: | Numen [ Sun Nov 04, 2007 9:10 pm ] |
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that's a good point. the thing is, anytime there are other AMOGs in the group we generally naturally wing each other and work on both closing one of the HBs. I'm a very calm guy, I don't demand attention as i don't care enough, I don't start fights or seriously insult people. given yeah, I agree about the natural alpha male part.. in HS i was a tri-sport athlete in high school and my whenever i didn't get a captain position for the team, most of my teammates would complain to my captain about why he gave it to somebody else. I've always had the ability to lead others so i guess i just take it all for granted It's interesting how you mention having a very strong energy. That's also a problem sometimes.. while i'm not that big of a guy 5'10 150lb, I'm told that I have an extremely strong presence even if I'm just standing there listening and not even talking. My friend's can't put a finger on it but associate it with my calm and collectedness as I really never get angry, never yell, always maintain composure, and always seem to never have a care in the world even though I've been through more hardship than anybody should have to go through in three lifetimes |
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| Author: | Archangel White Rose [ Sun Nov 04, 2007 9:44 pm ] |
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LOL, you demand attention even if you don't mean it. Fights can start just by looking like a threat to someone insecure. Things like that don't happen cause you mean them to, they happen cause you are an alpha male and you need to deal with the dogma and personal shit of everyone around you. You think that prehistoric alpha males had it any different? They had to become leaders and and kings and deal with all the daily shit their people had. In culture Alpha males have a very powerful aura, but they will always be nice to people until given a reason not to. I'm not saying you're not friendly, you should simply portray it a little more often without taking away from your alpha. It's just a little fine tunning, nothing more. |
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