I've made some observations about raising your standards.. and it's quitte funny how this causes self-sabotage....
first of all raising your standards will help you get you over anxiety with woman just because you focus on something else...Lets say your preselection criteria is personality , and you believe this a 100 %, you will feel less anxiety or intimidation around hot woman ( because of social conditioning of course), because they are not in your RES ( focus). You tend to feel more nervous and fear if you see something of value....in the desert money doesn't mean shit- everyone is focussing on water.
You cannot drink money, so you don't care about it.
actually alot of people and so called gurus tell you to raise your standards, if you raise your standards you will increase your succes by 50 %. Because you will care less when you roam the club , you will be unstiffled....less rigid.. more flexible because your RES allow you to.
i think there is more to it...
everytime i give someone the advice to raise standards it doesn't work, well it works to a certain degree - more on a superficial level. but beneath the layers it doesn't work....
IF someone doesn't love himself, if he doesn't have much inner game or self respect/trust/confidence it's useless to raise your standards. You are raising standards higher than yourself, on a unconcious level you will still focus on woman , everyone who seems happier or more in state than you will put psychological pressure on you.
if you start out with game.. like most guys i meet they haven't any skill /experience and real life reference value regarding pickup. They haven't reached their goal yet, they aren't ''MPUA'' ( not that you have to). When you start out it kinda sucks because you have to be uncertain in order to learn - you have to open some doors in order to learn new information and experiences.
When you don't have much confidence or certainty it's f*cking stupid thing to raise standards. Some time ago i adopted some new productive beliefs , but in order to adopt those beliefs i had to let go of the old rigid ones. I had to be uncertain and unlearn some things in order to improve - even i felt kind of anxious because i have very high standards regarding woman and relationships ( too high actually ).
It's better if you look all all woman the same way...in the end we are all human .. we are all related. Talking to woman should feel like talking to one of your sister , it sounds stupid but i think this should be true....
having standards higher than your self-love can set you up... you must believe you deserve something just for you. so get out there.... god or whatever there is placed you on this world with millions of single woman, walk up to them like they are your family and relate. Same with other stuff....
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