I was reflecting on my early days in the community today. Here's a little story about a problem I've seen many guys have.
Early on, I thought I had lots of "holes" in my game. I was approaching girls, but the sets weren't sticking, I wasn't getting numbers, etc. Clearly, something was wrong.
So I took an instructor I knew and had him watch me do a few sets. I was expecting him to give me some very detailed, insightful feedback later on.
Instead, all he said was: "Everything's fine."
Everything's fine.
I was incredulous. I wondered whether he was joking, too inexperienced to see the mistakes I was making... Or maybe not looking at my approaches closely enough. Hell, maybe he was trolling me.
I now understand that he was absolutely right, because I've been in his position more than once. Guys take single approaches, dates or phonecalls and spend way too much time mulling over them.
In reality, everything really is fine so long as you're making progress and practicing constantly. That's all that matters. Don't waste time trying to analyze every little thing in your head, because practice makes perfect: not thinking about what you might be doing wrong every step of the way.
So don't stress the little things. Doubting yourself and trying to find screw-ups where there are none is a very common mistake; don't make it. If you find a real sticking point that persists over time, address it; otherwise, keep going and you'll find that everything's fine
.Hope this post offers a fresh perspective on things to some of you!