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Author:  Lodewijkp [ Sat Sep 03, 2011 6:58 pm ]
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i try to make it as short as possible....for me this is kind of mindbogling.. every advice or comment from anyone is very welcome

lately i've found more meaning in my life.. i am making new career moves, studying physics and surgery (for a job in a hospital)

somehow i feel more relaxed.. more peacefull...i do love myself more, i don't feel i need approval or a girlfriend ( a girlfriend would be ok but i don't really need it )
i always love to go out... lately i just don't care anymore...i get this weird feeling of fear and that kind of shit... even tho i can easily get woman - kiss closes and day2s. I've even rejected sex..because it didn't had any meaning to me...

I did love going out solo and sometimes i still do.. but i really care less .. i feel more happy being home meditating and reading books like count of monte cristo. I don't feel intimidated if i date or talk to woman who do go out alot, even tho i miss it sometimes. Im not a bad influence to my enviroment.. i don't do drugs and i don't drink alcohol - im always trying to promote happiness and helping people.

i still do like to talk to woman... i still like to date woman and i still sometimes like game.... Game somehow doesn't make me happy.. other things just make me feel better because im doing it- because im focussing on myself more.

First i was thinking i was just being dramatic... i still gone out... just approached a woman... nothing new and nothing dramatic whatever...i don't even care if im good with woman or not , i mean i trust myself and my experience - even tho im rusty during nightgame i totally own woman 1on1. it's not like im worrying about my game.

Is it because i found peace... i don't need to go out and get womans approval ? Or is it because i value my sense of well being to much and i don't want to sacrife it to a girlfriend ? Could it be im being to attached to my new career move... im mature and set priorities for the benefit of everyone?

Is someone at this point in their lifes ? can someone relate to this...
Author:  stefangreyman [ Sun Sep 04, 2011 4:50 pm ]
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i try to make it as short as possible....for me this is kind of mindbogling.. every advice or comment from anyone is very welcome

Is someone at this point in their lifes ? can someone relate to this...
I might ask how old you are and if you have ever been in a LTR that lasted longer than 5 years?

I've been through this sort of thing several times over the course of my life--I am in my late 40s.

Certainly it depends a lot on what your motivation was in the first place. My cycle, thus far, has gone something like this:

teen - mid-20s - desperately wanting to get laid and feeling like a loser because I could never really bring myself to even try (even the night in Spain I had a gorgeous French girl show up in my room with a bottle of wine).

late-20s to early 30s - learning some game and working on self-improvement in a way oriented mostly to game, and getting laid a lot.

mid-30s to late 30s - graduate school, early years in a profession, in a serious LTR (but open) relationship. Though the relationship was open, there were months at a time when I couldn't care less about game, about meeting women, etc. During this period, when I was interested, it was usually because my ego had taken a hit and the old social wounds from before came back to haunt me, or when a girl made a special point of flattering me. Often I didn't even care that much about sex and would go for a week or two and not notice I wasn't fucking.

late 30s to mid-40s, developing a career, realizing I wasn't going to win a nobel prize, but doing good work and finding ways to enjoy life besides professional advancement. Learning to game for fun instead of ego-stroking or pure horniness; working on self-improvement again for general health and fitness (and staying out of trouble with the horny young students I teach).

So, what I would say is do what calls you and don't worry about it. One thing I can promise, if you come back to game in one form or another without so many ego needs or being so horny, you will enjoy it a whole hell of a lot more.
Author:  ASX [ Sun Sep 04, 2011 5:16 pm ]
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Is it because i found peace... i don't need to go out and get womans approval ?
I think so. The main reason we even seduce women, earn a lot of money and own a lot of things is because of man's tendency to try and prove himself. If this need is somehow fullfilled you become at peace with yourself, and you can really start getting to know yourself. Maslow wrote about this in more detail in his Pyramid of Needs, look it up if you're interested.

No idea how old you are but I think it's great you became aware of your personal peace. I still have the irrational need to seduce tons of women, so I still have a long way to go I guess. But who knows, maybe one day..
Author:  Appss [ Sun Sep 04, 2011 6:07 pm ]
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Thats what I call being alive.

I got into a new school, got a job, got a hobby, maybe going to join hiphop dancing lessons, I got homework, I got 2 friends which I care for like brothers.

With that, I am happy, I am proud of myself. I have ambition and passion for life. Besides that, I LOVE to flirt with ladies. I just love to do it with as many as possible. Sex isn't everything for me, its just a bonus.

.. Imo its the best lifestyle to have.

"Ambition, passion, confidence, productivity, social, spontanious, humour, discipline, leadership, intellect, knowledge, respect, integrity, realistich.. Ready to be a man?"
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Sun Sep 04, 2011 6:26 pm ]
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im 24 .. i had multiple relationships... all below 5 years because im too dominant in most cases i destroyed my relationships or something bad happened out of the blue. i can't even have relationships with people of my age...i do better with older woman because they are more experiences personalities.

my motivation .. i got into game because i sucked with woman ... after a while i just enjoyed the game - having fun and pulling of tricks on people.... after some years i begun to see it as a way of improving myself - not giving a shit about getting laid or not.

i think im somewhere between your mid 30s to mid 40s... i can relate to that.

both of your posts make sense.... it clearified something
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"Ambition, passion, confidence, productivity, social, spontanious, humour, discipline, leadership, intellect, knowledge, respect, integrity, realistich.. Ready to be a man?"
hell yeah :)
Author:  P-Style [ Sun Sep 04, 2011 7:38 pm ]
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i still do like to talk to woman... i still like to date woman and i still sometimes like game.... Game somehow doesn't make me happy..
I'm still having regular mooddrops due to the fact that gaming - much to the image I had back in my AFC days - isn't fulfilling my needs. It's an egoboost, makes you feel more confident, etc. But the day after there's still this emptyness inside. The thought I can seduce a girl suffices, now I just want some stability and the right girl to be my girl. But contrary to flings, serious girlfriend material is hard to find. When you've like only got one option you're happy to take it, but when there's many options to choose from things get more difficult.

I've talked with many people about it, searching for different opinions. But there are very few people I know who actually can relate because I only know very few people who actually game alot.


Don't know whether what I'm writing relates to your issues but anyways there's much you wrote that I can understand. For me I've quit thinking in results. My goal is clear and for all the rest of the women in the world my view remains the same: flirting is ok and I do it anywhere, anytime and with anyone.
Author:  skills360 [ Sun Sep 04, 2011 10:18 pm ]
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i try to make it as short as possible....for me this is kind of mindbogling.. every advice or comment from anyone is very welcome

lately i've found more meaning in my life.. i am making new career moves, studying physics and surgery (for a job in a hospital)

somehow i feel more relaxed.. more peacefull...i do love myself more, i don't feel i need approval or a girlfriend ( a girlfriend would be ok but i don't really need it )
i always love to go out... lately i just don't care anymore...i get this weird feeling of fear and that kind of shit... even tho i can easily get woman - kiss closes and day2s. I've even rejected sex..because it didn't had any meaning to me...

I did love going out solo and sometimes i still do.. but i really care less .. i feel more happy being home meditating and reading books like count of monte cristo. I don't feel intimidated if i date or talk to woman who do go out alot, even tho i miss it sometimes. Im not a bad influence to my enviroment.. i don't do drugs and i don't drink alcohol - im always trying to promote happiness and helping people.

i still do like to talk to woman... i still like to date woman and i still sometimes like game.... Game somehow doesn't make me happy.. other things just make me feel better because im doing it- because im focussing on myself more.

First i was thinking i was just being dramatic... i still gone out... just approached a woman... nothing new and nothing dramatic whatever...i don't even care if im good with woman or not , i mean i trust myself and my experience - even tho im rusty during nightgame i totally own woman 1on1. it's not like im worrying about my game.

Is it because i found peace... i don't need to go out and get womans approval ? Or is it because i value my sense of well being to much and i don't want to sacrife it to a girlfriend ? Could it be im being to attached to my new career move... im mature and set priorities for the benefit of everyone?

Is someone at this point in their lifes ? can someone relate to this...


Similar stuff happened to me, it is call emptiness, after a while all this shit gets boring, you pick up a chick, you game her, you bang her, and sometimes you feel like shit, example mystery... One answer and you will hate it: time to have a GOOD girlfriend...
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