About me (for the few who don't know me yet): I'm a southafrican student in Berlin. I came to Germany to do my Masters in german litterature. In one of the classes I attend I met this cute norvegian chick (lets call her V.) two weeks ago. I immediately talked to her with a basic routine with a lot of mirror techniques (reflecting her emotions so the girl thinks you're on the same vibe). She gave me her number and after my last lay on wednesday I called her, to ask her out. She hadn't time for the next days, because some friends from her country were visiting her. BUT: SHE asked ME to see each other on sunday (right after her friends left) = good sign!!!
Now the interesting stuff: Because I knew she was a litterature chick and quite alternative I took her to this really punky open air party. She thought I was sophisticated because I don't look as if I would like to go to such places (I'm a former golfing professional). I asked her about her first kiss (how did it feel/never talk about the simple facts, allways ask her about the emotions she had back then) and I used other comfort building routines. After a glass of wine (which she paid for me), I took her for a walk and the we went to my living area in the north of the town. Before going to my favourite bar, I showed her my appartment real quick. This is a really important step. By showing the girl your place, she will have the feeling to get to know you better. And the most important thing: when you take her to your place to have sex with her later, she will be much more comfortable because she feels she already knows the place.
In the bar, I started with more intensive flirting. Time had come to take her out of the comfort zone, put on more heat and building up some sexual attraction: I told her about an article I wrote about the leading indian sex guru Sri Baba (event though it was a totally made up story, she started to think of me, as if I knew all this sex tricks!!!) Later for example: when she touched my feet with hers accidently, I asked her: Are you flirting with me? She answered maybe! So I simply had to kiss her. We went on with making out for some time and the I took her for a new walk. We started to talk about wine, with a purpose, because I offered her to come taste that really good Chardonnay at my place. She agreed. In my appartment the wine remained untouched.
After having sex on my couch (it was already 3 a.m.) she asked me if I wanted her to leave. I offered her to stay over and so we had sex again in my bedroom. Cool thing, she woke me up in the early morning, by taking my pants of. Again!
Basically it was a three step lay:
1. made myself interesting to her (get to know her)
Then during the date:
2. Comfort building (showing again we are on the same vibe, we have a lot in common and to show the girl I have something to offer)
3. Sexual attraction
= lay (3 times actually
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