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Author:  cjc651 [ Mon Dec 16, 2013 5:27 am ]
Post subject:  First Lay in a month! Few questions for you guys
Background: Got broken up with by GF of 6 months right before I left for college this year (junior), fucked about 5 (2 6/10's and 3 uggos) girls at the beginning of the school year. I don't do much cold approach unless I'm in class or in rare cases in public. My game is basically just throwing parties at my house every weekend and going to house parties and running game on chicks there with my core group of 4-5 guy friends. We've developed a good network of 3-4 houses where all of the house owners are friends so it blows our social proof through the roof.

Last night had a little get together at my house and invited a 7.5/10 girl I played beer pong with at a party last weekend. When I texted her to come over I said something like "you better be ready to win at pong again". She came over with 3 friends and we started to play some drinking games as more and more people show up. We're both getting pretty drunk as the night progresses. We end up playing beer pong and rubbing up against eachother while playing, and flirting a bunch, she had "the look" in here eye so I could tell she wanted to hook up.

We win the game and hug eachother in celebration afterwards. I then look her dead in the eyes for a couple seconds and we start aggressively making out. We then keep partying for a while making out a lot and eventually make our way up to my bedroom. I can tell she's horny as fuck as am I, we take each other's clothes off and she starts blowing me. About 5 minutes in she gets on top and rides me for a good 10 minutes and then I bend her over and finish in doggy style.

After sex we cuddled and she stayed the night. When we woke up we started making out again and she gave me a morning blowjob. She had to walk to her car without a coat (live in MN) so I let her borrow my jacket. Besides the fact that this girl is beautiful and great in bed I had a great time with her and she's fun so I'm excited to see where this goes, definitely FWB and possibly dating.

My biggest mistakes in the past have been being too needy/clingy so that's definitely something I'm trying to avoid here. I sent her a text today saying something like "I'll come get my jacket this week and maybe we can hang out to relieve some stress from finals ;)" So I should be banging her this week again at some point.

Some questions:

When I go to grab my jacket from her place should I kiss her goodbye?

We are about to be on winter break for 1 month this Friday, how often should I text her or should I text her at all since we wont see eachother for a month?

Anything else you think would help my situation. Thanks guys! :)
Author:  Tr@veler [ Mon Dec 16, 2013 11:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: First Lay in a month! Few questions for you guys
It depends what you want here. Don't send a text like that as if you're expecting something to go down unless your frame in real life is truly like that as well. It's needy otherwise. Just be normal and tell her you guys should hang out.

If she agrees, great, it's on. Go for it again if you want and then you'll be kissing anyway.

As for texting, text her. If you want this to go somewhere you have to show her she wasn't just some hole you had fun with one night. If a girl sees you as a potential boyfriend or something longer than just a one night stand, then she will want you to show signs that it wasn't just that for you either. Either way, go for what you want and that's it. Don't worry about what she's thinking. If you want something more then start framing for that slowly but surely. If she goes along, great. If she doesn't go along then it wasn't going to be something more anyway.
Author:  cjc651 [ Mon Dec 16, 2013 9:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: First Lay in a month! Few questions for you guys
Quote:
It depends what you want here. Don't send a text like that as if you're expecting something to go down unless your frame in real life is truly like that as well. It's needy otherwise. Just be normal and tell her you guys should hang out.

If she agrees, great, it's on. Go for it again if you want and then you'll be kissing anyway.

As for texting, text her. If you want this to go somewhere you have to show her she wasn't just some hole you had fun with one night. If a girl sees you as a potential boyfriend or something longer than just a one night stand, then she will want you to show signs that it wasn't just that for you either. Either way, go for what you want and that's it. Don't worry about what she's thinking. If you want something more then start framing for that slowly but surely. If she goes along, great. If she doesn't go along then it wasn't going to be something more anyway.
Any specific ways to show her she's "not just some hole I had fun with" with out coming across as too needy? I'm not even sure I want to date her yet as she might just be a huge slut like a lot of girls are in college. Only time will tell I suppose.
Author:  cjc651 [ Tue Dec 17, 2013 5:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: First Lay in a month! Few questions for you guys
Follow up Q's:

Also i have a follow up question: So as you know I let her borrow my jacket and I'm going to text her mid day tomorrow to let her know I'm coming to her apartment on campus to grab it after my 5:00 final exam.

I'm gonna chat with her for a while and ask what she's up to for the night, I'm assuming she will be busy with studying cause it's finals week. If she's busy I'll just roll with it and go for a kiss close. Assuming I'm going for at least FWB I should always be kiss closing right?

If she's not busy I'l ask her if she wants to come over and watch a movie. If she agrees to come over it's a definite hook up and I have nothing to worry about.

So my main question here is: Should I kiss close after a quick 5 minute interaction to go grab my jacket assuming I want a relationship?
Author:  Tr@veler [ Tue Dec 17, 2013 8:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: First Lay in a month! Few questions for you guys
No. Just invite her over to see her again and kiss close in private. This is how you show interest whilst also being socially calibrated. You have no idea what she might want. But it's always better to get intimate in private. Girls do bot want to feel like sluts.
Author:  oceanx [ Tue Dec 17, 2013 4:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: First Lay in a month! Few questions for you guys
Yes you absolutely want to kiss her in her apartment as you stated (if she isn't coming over for the movie) if you want a relationship with her, otherwise she will COMPLETELY feel like it was a ONS only and she will more than likely forget about you over break.
Author:  cjc651 [ Tue Dec 17, 2013 8:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: First Lay in a month! Few questions for you guys
Quote:
Yes you absolutely want to kiss her in her apartment as you stated (if she isn't coming over for the movie) if you want a relationship with her, otherwise she will COMPLETELY feel like it was a ONS only and she will more than likely forget about you over break.
This is what I assumed, just making sure. It's definitely more crucial than normal because of the month long break. Otherwise I'd probably just not text her all week, tell her to come out to a house party over the weekend and bring the jacket over to my place.
Author:  Tr@veler [ Wed Dec 18, 2013 1:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: First Lay in a month! Few questions for you guys
Sorry I misunderstood your question. Yes kiss her in her apartment like oceanx stated.
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