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Author:  jday1335 [ Mon Jul 16, 2012 9:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Lay Report - With Questions...
Ok, so this HB9 that just started at work as a temp was throwing IOIs at me like crazy one day after I had helped her several times get settled in with her computer stuff. Well I flirted right back and neg'd her as well because she was pretty hot and didn't want it going straight to her head. But anyways, she called me this past weekend and told me to come by and party with her and some of her friends, so I did, and we partied until about 5:30AM and she claims she left her keys at her friends house and couldn't get into her place. I know its a no-no to bring a chick to your place, but I did anyways, she had lost her buzz and wasn't tired, so we stayed up watching a movie fooled around and passed out. The next day she woke me up kissing me and stuff so we had sex and she said that she couldn't believe she had sex with me on our first date...we laughed it off and continued for the rest of the damn day. :P So it comes time for her to go home and I take her home and she gets her keys from her friend. Texting a few times before bed and then passing out with a massive smile on my face, knowing that I just might have had sex with one of the hottest women I've ever been with. The next day -- she texts me and is all flirty and tells me she likes me and really wants a relationship, which I was down for, and I agreed. So we talked all day and went to lunch, and it was a great day. Day 3: Again very flirty in the morning and after lunch, she then explains that she thinks we moved too fast and would like to slow things down. I need some ideas on how to approach this? Any ideas on what I did wrong? Thanks all.
Author:  In$tinct [ Mon Jul 16, 2012 11:03 pm ]
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No need to worry. You did move a little too fast. Just slowing down and seeing where things go before going into something serious this early is a mature thing to do. You have choices though:

-You can agree. This way you might risk that she was just being friendly, not trying to hurt you and does not actually want a serious relationship anymore for some reason.

-You can tell her it's now or never. This will solve the previous problem altough if she did think the slowing things down seriously it could be a deal-breaker.

The best would be if you could arrange that you can slow down but in that case you don't want to be exclusive until things get serious. This idea she might not like however... but you never want to be waiting around for a chick to decide what to do especially without other pussy around.
Author:  Zepter [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 2:59 pm ]
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in my opinion, best strategy with women is to:

1. disregard what they said completely and act as if she never said it.

2. say yes and do whatever you want anyway.

next time you see her, arrange the logistics in a way that she's at your place again, and escalate. make her cum.

forget all theis relationship talk, it's immature. you'll both know when you're having a relationship and when you're just fuck buddies. any talk about this is totally superfluous.

btw, congrats on getting the hottest chick you've ever had.
Author:  jday1335 [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 7:41 pm ]
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in my opinion, best strategy with women is to:

1. disregard what they said completely and act as if she never said it.

2. say yes and do whatever you want anyway.

next time you see her, arrange the logistics in a way that she's at your place again, and escalate. make her cum.

forget all theis relationship talk, it's immature. you'll both know when you're having a relationship and when you're just fuck buddies. any talk about this is totally superfluous.

btw, congrats on getting the hottest chick you've ever had.
So the best way to handle a woman with a ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) is to ignore it and press on? LOL I'm still talking to her, and I said I can wait on the whole relationship thing, but I'm just worried that I will lose her as a partner if I didn't progress as she originally indicated that she wanted. Thanks for the congrats. :)
Author:  jday1335 [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 7:44 pm ]
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No need to worry. You did move a little too fast. Just slowing down and seeing where things go before going into something serious this early is a mature thing to do. You have choices though:

-You can agree. This way you might risk that she was just being friendly, not trying to hurt you and does not actually want a serious relationship anymore for some reason.

-You can tell her it's now or never. This will solve the previous problem altough if she did think the slowing things down seriously it could be a deal-breaker.

The best would be if you could arrange that you can slow down but in that case you don't want to be exclusive until things get serious. This idea she might not like however... but you never want to be waiting around for a chick to decide what to do especially without other pussy around.
How do I talk to her now, I just don't want to be pushed into the friendzone. This chick was an amazing lay and is absolutely gorgeous. I did agree to slow things down, as she has a complex because of the last guy she dated was an AFC with no confidence and shes afraid all men are that way. I blew her mind within 5 hours of meeting her outside of work and she's never seen a guy like that. :) She's just over cautious I'm hoping. Thank you both for the response. Meeting up with her tonight and I'll give you guys my feedback and let you know how it goes. She told me to bring friends and meet up with her and her girlfriends...I need cooler friends. lol.

EDIT: and also should I tell her that its not going to be exclusive or just continue to run game on other women?
Author:  juvx [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 9:25 pm ]
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No need to worry. You did move a little too fast. Just slowing down and seeing where things go before going into something serious this early is a mature thing to do. You have choices though:

-You can agree. This way you might risk that she was just being friendly, not trying to hurt you and does not actually want a serious relationship anymore for some reason.

-You can tell her it's now or never. This will solve the previous problem altough if she did think the slowing things down seriously it could be a deal-breaker.

The best would be if you could arrange that you can slow down but in that case you don't want to be exclusive until things get serious. This idea she might not like however... but you never want to be waiting around for a chick to decide what to do especially without other pussy around.
How do I talk to her now, I just don't want to be pushed into the friendzone. This chick was an amazing lay and is absolutely gorgeous. I did agree to slow things down, as she has a complex because of the last guy she dated was an AFC with no confidence and shes afraid all men are that way. I blew her mind within 5 hours of meeting her outside of work and she's never seen a guy like that. :) She's just over cautious I'm hoping. Thank you both for the response. Meeting up with her tonight and I'll give you guys my feedback and let you know how it goes. She told me to bring friends and meet up with her and her girlfriends...I need cooler friends. lol.

EDIT: and also should I tell her that its not going to be exclusive or just continue to run game on other women?
What I would do is run game in front of her (but not in hearing range) with other women but open with lines like "how have you been? on other girls" I would make her a bit jealous. But dont take it too far either. Don't make out with another girl in front of her or anything like that. Just show her that if need be you have other options and that she is LUCKY you picked her. Also, just drop the relationship stuff. Dont talk about it AT ALL. If it happens it happens... no need to talk about relationships or making shit official or crap like that... what is this high-school? Make her time with you FUN and stress free... no pressure in ANY way to be exclusive. The less pressure you apply the more shell want you to be just hers.
Author:  Zepter [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 9:57 pm ]
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in my opinion, best strategy with women is to:

1. disregard what they said completely and act as if she never said it.

2. say yes and do whatever you want anyway.

next time you see her, arrange the logistics in a way that she's at your place again, and escalate. make her cum.

forget all theis relationship talk, it's immature. you'll both know when you're having a relationship and when you're just fuck buddies. any talk about this is totally superfluous.

btw, congrats on getting the hottest chick you've ever had.
So the best way to handle a woman with a ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) is to ignore it and press on? LOL I'm still talking to her, and I said I can wait on the whole relationship thing, but I'm just worried that I will lose her as a partner if I didn't progress as she originally indicated that she wanted. Thanks for the congrats. :)
Yeah dude, from what I've tried the best way to handle asd is to build comfort, and from that point on ignore it an push on. Like, pull back then go in again, keep pushing her limits and pull back again if she blocks. Then go in even further. It doesn't work 100 percent of the time (what does?) But its pretty consistent and it won't land you in the friend zone.
Author:  jday1335 [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 8:11 pm ]
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in my opinion, best strategy with women is to:

1. disregard what they said completely and act as if she never said it.

2. say yes and do whatever you want anyway.

next time you see her, arrange the logistics in a way that she's at your place again, and escalate. make her cum.

forget all theis relationship talk, it's immature. you'll both know when you're having a relationship and when you're just fuck buddies. any talk about this is totally superfluous.

btw, congrats on getting the hottest chick you've ever had.
So the best way to handle a woman with a ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) is to ignore it and press on? LOL I'm still talking to her, and I said I can wait on the whole relationship thing, but I'm just worried that I will lose her as a partner if I didn't progress as she originally indicated that she wanted. Thanks for the congrats. :)
Yeah dude, from what I've tried the best way to handle asd is to build comfort, and from that point on ignore it an push on. Like, pull back then go in again, keep pushing her limits and pull back again if she blocks. Then go in even further. It doesn't work 100 percent of the time (what does?) But its pretty consistent and it won't land you in the friend zone.
This actually worked perfectly. Thank you for the advice. She's officially eating out of the palm of my hand. :D And we're official now. Thanks all for the great comments and advice.
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