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| Author: | phoenixj [ Mon Dec 05, 2011 1:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | What did I do wrong last Night in bed?? |
Hi, I brought a girl back to mine last night after a movie @ the cinema (it was the second date, first taking her miniature golf). We watched another film sat on my bed upright when heavy kissing started to happen, she layed down and I followed her while we were still kissing. I started to kiss her neck and she claimed she was lil' ticklish, so I stopped. When my hand stared to wander round her butt I could tell she wasn't fully comfortable but I think she was a lil too nervous to say anything. Anyway she still encouraged the heavy kissing and she wrapped her legs round mine so I started to grind which from her reaction I know she liked, I went a lil harder and starting to rub myself against her. Unfortunately that's the furthest I got as anytime my hands wandered she indirectly did not appreciate it! How come I couldn't seal the deal?? Cheers! |
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| Author: | Click [ Fri Dec 09, 2011 10:40 am ] |
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Women want trust, before they have sex. So maybe its too soon to be rushing into sex. Now you've had her at yours, on your bed, kissing, she will be much more comfortable next time she comes round. Remember to take it slow, and let her become relaxed first. A thing I like to do, is play-fight. Next time she's on your bed, just start to tickle her neck again, when she eventually bats your hand away, start a little play-fight. This way, it gets her used to your hands being all over her body, and there will always be a moment where you share eye contact for a few seconds so you can develop the siutation. Be proud man, you got a girl to your place who you like, and made out with her. Thats awesome. Now next time she comes, she'll be ready. |
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| Author: | JoePro228 [ Fri Dec 09, 2011 2:11 pm ] |
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It sounds like you were doing everything right. But, personally I would have called her out on her nervousness then assure her that daddy got this shit!(in your own style of course) |
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| Author: | Lacey [ Fri Dec 09, 2011 4:32 pm ] |
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Kudos to you for detecting comfort levels, this is a rare skill amongst men. I agree with the second post, don't be pushy and don't rush. The fact that you've reach the stage you're at so far is a positive indicator of things moving further. |
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| Author: | JoePro228 [ Fri Dec 09, 2011 6:51 pm ] |
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Quote: Kudos to you for detecting comfort levels, this is a rare skill amongst men. I agree with the second post, don't be pushy and don't rush. The fact that you've reach the stage you're at so far is a positive indicator of things moving further.
What could have gone wrong if he did ask about her nervousness?
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| Author: | MynameisFisher [ Fri Dec 09, 2011 7:15 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: Kudos to you for detecting comfort levels, this is a rare skill amongst men. I agree with the second post, don't be pushy and don't rush. The fact that you've reach the stage you're at so far is a positive indicator of things moving further.
What could have gone wrong if he did ask about her nervousness? |
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| Author: | Dahn [ Sat Dec 10, 2011 6:06 pm ] |
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GREAT JOB MAN!!! as everyone has stated above, you were excellent with you technique. You wanted her comfort level at a 10 but you got an 8 instead. Thats not bad especially if its the first IA indoors. Comfort and trust are 2 BIGGGGG important point's for women. You don't want to come off as an creep that is only talking to her to just close and bounce. I call it the Houdini effect (making you grand proformance then poof you vanish like smoke). You want to make sure that you frame the IA where she knows that it's something that both of you would like to do to enjoy each other. LMR is going to always be around for women that like you. So make sure that you ease her into the act DON"T BE FORCEFUL. Any way from the sounds of it by the next meet you should be good to go. Oh in the mean time keep the flame of passion burning don't forget to send her a text every now and again to let her know that you are thinking about her. This will solidify whatever seeds you have planted. Hopefully this helps -DAHN |
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| Author: | Lamont [ Sun Jan 01, 2012 7:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | In the game |
I read in Styles book The Game that when Mystery had a problem of girls shutting him out when trying to go further he would take a step back eg go back to light kissing, then take a step foward. He went as far as getting out of bed turning on the light and playing on his computer. In summary. Push/Pull Effect ! |
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| Author: | phoenixj [ Mon Jan 02, 2012 1:49 pm ] |
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Thanks for all the feedback - I really appreciate it Unfortunately I did not meet her after this night as when we texed the nex few days it was obvious she cold feet on the whole of the situation |
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| Author: | Vietman100 [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 4:55 am ] |
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She got cold feet because you couldnt deliver. From what you're saying, she did absolutely NOTHING to prevent you from taking her clothes off and doing the nasty. Why would you stop kissing her neck? She may be ticklish but she wasn't telling you to stop. Even when youre in the sack, you don't listen to what she says. You listen to how her body reacts. If she squirms while laughing, it means shes enjoying it and you keep doing it! If she doesn't say stop or remove your hands, you keep doing it! If you were really concerned about her being nervous, you could have stopped, looked her in the eye and told her, "I can tell you're a little nervous. We're having fun here, so take a deep breath and relaaaax." Then go back to making out and molesting her with your hands. You guys got to the point of fucking with your clothes on. The next step was to remove clothing man and you killed the mood by not giving her what her body was telling you to give to her. I would suggest reading about escalating properly when youre about to have sex with a girl. I hope you didn't blow your shot with this girl but from the serious case of blue vagina you gave her, she is most likely very disappointed with you. |
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