ok all,
so I am posting this LR because I learned alot from this and want to help others with the fine points I picked up. The whole process was very unsmooth in my caveman type approach/style, but eventually I got the job done with alot of help from the forum. (
thx guys )So to go over the info in a small condensed explanation, today I slept with my oneitus. I was my usual aggressive direct sexually inappropriate self, got her to come to my house, acted like a horny teenager, got the make-out and vag rub, but was far far far, too sexually needy (boner was the cause of this at the time), scared her off with my aggressiveness, and failed to get the lay, She then got some buyers remorse, and began to flake, I got emotionally reactive, and rude, turned into a giant asshole/tool, and began cutting her down verbally when I was drunk (very very bad to talk to girls when you are drunk and upset).
so those are the mistakes so far, don't be sexually needy, and don't be a giant asshole are the negatives on this LR, they almost cost me the girl if her and myself were not so emotionally invested in each other, it almost surely would have cost me this girl.
So to make a long story short and get to the point, I asked Don Draper for help with my text game, he brought this girl from IDIOT and FUCK YOU ASSHOLE, to I WANT TO COME MUGGLE WITH YOU (her word for snuggle *don't judge lol*) all this took was alot of comfort work, all I did was tell her I was attracted to her (Don's advice of coarse) explain some problems I had been having lately, and just have a normal conversation with her asking her about things that have been bothering her , So I picked her up today from her house, drove her to mine, put on a movie, she said, so now we going to dance around naked?, I said no, We should take things slow, and only have sex after a month of dating (CREDIT NATURAL PLAYBOY), she then said, dating don't you think highly of yourself?, so I said, you probably think the same, she just smiled and agreed, we sat down started watching the movie, eventually I got her to cuddle, with my usual, ''come here'' followed by shoulder rub, she then asked me if I wanted a special massage? while rubbing my leg (implieing handjob), I said no, all I want is what you are already giving (CREDIT DON DRAPER), we then started making out, I put my hands down her pants through the back, played with her ass, fingered her for a while, pulled her pants down, fucked her on the couch, came on her back,
then we both had a shower and finished watching van wilder freshmen year, then I drove her home!!
FUCK YEAH,
things that I learned are sometimes girls want more comfort, then just sexual framing, and attraction building, and that is all it takes, she likes you, shes texting every day, get some of that regular you like me well I like you to comfort going, just be normal,
also, instead of being a horny little school boy, holding back and sending her mixed messages worked, advancing on the physicals, and holding back on the verbals
ALL IN ALL, SHIT WAS A GOOD DAY~ A GOOD DAY INDEED
