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Author:  IRB [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 12:29 am ]
Post subject:  Achieving my goals, one step at a time.
I see some of the other lads have a journal on the go, I think this could be an asset to me, help with motivation, and perhaps even some posters can share their advice. I am hoping that by sharing my story I can overcome any ruts with help from here, and from the fact that by sharing my story my successes and failures will be exposed, and perhaps I will end up feeling that not only am I letting myself down if I chicken out, but there is an onus from you guys to try it anyways. A literary kick up the hole from the internet if you will.

First, some details about myself, I am from a small town in Ireland. I am nineteen years old(don't know if this is young for these type of forums or not, but I assume it is best to start early, I want my college life to be good, don't want to look back and rue missed opportunities) I have no sisters and I have gone to all boys schools my whole life. I was a hard worker at school, I spent much of my time studying, so while I reaped academic benefits my social life was confined to a few nerdy friends, all men. My contact with the opposite sex has been minimal for a long time. However, a few years ago when lads I knew stated getting girlfriends, getting off with girls in clubs etc, I was left out. I made a conscious decision to change my life. I was quite overweight and I set myself the goal of being a good weight by the time I finished secondary school(high school). I am delighted to say I achieved that, I am now slim. After years of being called fat etc, that is all behind me. I realized that if I can set myself goals I can achieve them.

Then at the beginning of summer after finishing school I set myself a new goal, to kiss a few girls over the summer. Delighted to say I achieved that too! Was very pleased with myself. Don't know how it happened, me and a mate kinda added ourselves onto a group of girls in a pub and we went with them to the nightclub, I ended up talking to one of them when the others went off to do shots(not my thing really) and she asked me to go dance with her, before I knew it we were kissing. Afterwards she abruptly left with one of her friends while waving sadly at me. I was upset. Anyway I then started on the shots to "drown my sorrows" I had a bit of a buzz going and started yakking with another one of the girls, just general chatter When we were leaving I asked"do I not get a kiss goodnight?"(I shocked myself at this, is the type of thing I would never say) I got off with her too. Terrific. That was my first contact with the opposite sex, a good start I thought!
Downhill from there, met up with the second girl(turns out that the first girl who left had a girlfriend, the one who dragged her out!) ended up being awkward, and I got friend-zoned, which Im ok with as she is now one of my best friends.

To sum up the rest of summer, I got drunk and nearly had sex with a girl(ended up with me fingering, and a handjob) and I got oral off another girl. Oral was shit tbh, a big let down, got boring and I had to imagine other things to keep it up. I could barely feel it.

Both were drunken scenarios and I do not quite know how they happened, when I look back it feels as if I am remembering a film I saw, that is not me.

However, the summer is over, and during the week I now live not in a small town, but in Dublin. There are loads of girls now, my course is mostly girls. My goal now is to get laid, be comfortable around girls, and long term get a girlfriend.

So now you know were I am at!


I am quite shy around new people, but once I know them I am quite outgoing. So I want to get that comfortable feeling around new people quicker. I rarely start talking with new people, they tend to initiate, and once they do I am generally OK, at least with men.

So today I set myself the goal of talking to some new people. I smiled at a few people I met, nodded to others. I then decided to go to a student talent show and watch. I asked a guy I sometimes talked to if he was gonna go too, he did, arranged to see him there. When I arrived I sat near some people(normally I would sit alone) and just started talking to them, asking inane crap like when it starts, why he decided to come watch etc, general shit.

The other lad then showed up, we got along well, I ended up going back to his house for a few cans and met his house mates and stuff.
All in all a good day!


Any feedback would be BRILLIANT, even if it is just a random observation,or theory, or to recommend reading. Anything positive or negative is welcome.

Tomorrow I am gonna try and sit near some of the girls in my lecture and talk with them. A little scared at the thought!!!


IRB

EDIT: What motivated me to do this is that I am reading The Game.
Author:  Surielx [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 2:36 pm ]
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And this is something that every newb should make! Little steps. Reading this post was something like from zero to hero, I'm pretty sure you can achieve these goals pretty soon. And the best thing is that you are reading The Game now and in paralell you practice! Man, this book was a start to almost every single one of us and after reading we were looking for further studies and so and the knowledge was overloaded. You are on the right path, you are motivated and stubborn in all the positive way - here I sense the new Pick Up Artist.

Welcome to the community and keep it up!

Salut!

Surielx.
Author:  IRB [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 3:52 pm ]
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Quote:
And this is something that every newb should make! Little steps. Reading this post was something like from zero to hero, I'm pretty sure you can achieve these goals pretty soon. And the best thing is that you are reading The Game now and in paralell you practice! Man, this book was a start to almost every single one of us and after reading we were looking for further studies and so and the knowledge was overloaded. You are on the right path, you are motivated and stubborn in all the positive way - here I sense the new Pick Up Artist.

Welcome to the community and keep it up!

Salut!

Surielx.
Thanks very much for the reply! :)

Yeah, thats what I was thinking, I was afraid of reading loads and loads and then over-thinking everything, like when you study way too much for a test and end up not knowing were to begin when you get a question, as you have so much info.

Anyway, today did not go as well, I wanted to start a few conversations with some women but the chance did not really materialize. Said hello to a few, but everyone was rushing everywhere so it was not the best circumstances to do so. It was not much, a hello, a smile and brief eye contact(I have been working on that, I used to tend to speak to peoples shoes) better than nothing though! Will try again tomorrow, or I may head to the pub later and see what is going on over there. Don't want to head over on my own though, will see if I can rope a mate along.

Friday is going to be a big trial run I think. I am going to a gig in which a few local bands are playing, I know a good few people will be there, but more importantly there will be a few girls I like there too. I will arm myself with some openers(I am gonna look at some canned ones and apply those principles in making up some new ones myself, or at least really modify them) and a few things to actually talk about. I will eliminate that awkward moment after introductions where I have nothing to say.

Over the next few days I will check out some tips for kiss closing, or even number closing. The kiss closing, or knowing when to kiss, I think is my biggest problem. In the past I was generally drunk by that stage and don't really recall how it happened.

My goal for Friday is to kiss or number close. There will be a girl there who has been playing hot and cold with me. I plan to ignore her for the most part and not chase after her. My theory(correct me if I am wrong!) is that if she sees me having fun with other girls, not paying her attention, she will chase after me, or be more responsive when I pay her attention.
Author:  IRB [ Thu Nov 11, 2010 12:02 am ]
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After I wrote the above I went to the library,and smiled and said hello to the few girls I met on my way-baby steps. Anyways, I got thinking about possible openers and would love some feedback:

This is based on the camera one, except I am gonna say something like "My mate from college went on a few dates with a girl a while back, after the last date they met up with a group of his friends and went onto a nightclub, anyway, one of them had a camera and took a loada pics which ended up on facebook. Long story short she untagged herself in the ones were they were kissing and a few were she was on his lap, yet left the ones where they are just sitting around talking and stuff, what do you reckon that means?"(would love some feedback on this guys)
That would be an opener to the whole group. I was planning then on fobbing off the targets opinion(anyone suggest a suitable neg for this situation?) by engaging in convo with her friends and barely acknowledging her opinion. Hopefully(dont know if I have this right)she will try and but in and talk rather than stand there like a dope saying nothing. After a while I will start talking to her.

Then I think I may either isolate her, or if I feel that wont work I will do the cube game(this sounds fun, I never heard of it) on her "Since I haven't heard you talk much/Now you get to be the center of attention" If I have read what you PUA guys are saying correctly this will make me more interesting and elevate my value among the group, while this will also give me a chance to kino perhaps. Maybe by grabbing her arm lightly and guiding her to stand in front or near me)
Hopefully the others will ask me to do them next, giving me opportunity to isolate her(not sure how to do this, advice would be great for that)

I think that sounds like a good plan? What does anyone reading think?
Author:  IRB [ Fri Nov 12, 2010 8:03 pm ]
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Anyway, ready to go full tilt now.... I hope. Will try anyway. All ready to go out now, have some ESP games, the carrot one, the country/animal/color one and the cube game. Have a few openers too. I know I said I hoped to kiss close tonight, but I would be happy with approaching and trying my ESP games. I think I will enjoy them.

Wish me luck!
Author:  IRB [ Sat Nov 13, 2010 4:35 pm ]
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Went relatively well, few girls there who were friends of friends, showed off the ESP tricks, they went down really well, I need to learn more of them.

However, when I tried to isolate one of my friends who was pretty drunk kept following us, and being a retard. I tried to get him to fuck off but he wouldn't. Was doing the cube and he kept interrupting and just being a plonker. Ruined it. He would just not leave. Any advice on how to deal with something like that? He made the girl pretty uncomfortable. He fucked up a couple of sets on me. No one likes a drunk guy.
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