PUA Forum :: FR: Failed -- How to recover from this fuck up?

Not really worth it from what I can see. I personally can't stand girls who don't have a sense of humour, if I'm in a group of people and the typical "takes herself to seriously" snooty girl is with me I tease the crap out of her.

Though do make a note of how you say things tongue in cheek; say similar things to other people in the same manner and watch the reaction. If the majority take it seriously then your tongue in cheek manner sucks and you come off to needy.

I'd do something like this:
Best to contact her in person because although she might read something you write in facebook there's a chance she might delete it without reading it.

I'd meet her and say: "Wow...(with a really genuinely surprised and in awe facial expression) you thought I was being serious...Wow. Never met a girl who took my jokes seriously...(put your hands on either side of your face and make puppy dog eyes) make me want to marry you even more..."(immediately break state by breaking the facial expression and smiling friendly...turn and walk away)

It's risky. There's a chance she won't respond. What we're doing is letting her know that you were joking while letting her know she needs a sense of humor. She'll either get pissed at you or she'll realise the message you were sending and continue the conversation in a pissed voice. Your job is to defuse it from there.

Keep this line in case of anything (said in a calm voice): I just thought that maybe you were strong enough to take a step out of your comfort zone and relax and have fun.

You're basically saying that if she can't take a joke she's not a strong person and most people would refuse to admit they're not strong.

Good luck bro let us know if you go after her

Author:	holsetymoon [ Thu Jul 22, 2010 4:50 am ]
Post subject:	FR: Failed -- How to recover from this fuck up?
Urgent: I have committed a big fuck-up! Background of the situation: I met this girl at a dorm party last weekend. She's HB8, in my opinion. She's quite smart and proper and obviously lacks a sense of humor, I'll explain why in a minute. She figured out my "number 1-10" routine was a set up because all numbers pretty much converge to one ending most of the times. Anyway, so I failed to #-close that night because I kind of chickened out. But I did DHV'd and teased her a lot, built some initial attraction. Then everything turned 360 degree when the following situation happened. Since she and I are in the same summer program and we barely have 9 days left before we each have to go back to school. So this afternoon I decided to use my Facebook tactic to get her #. I sent her this opener that I had learned from Race de Priest (supposedly, he is releasing this online dating mastery product today): "Subject: I was wondering?? Message: I know I'm moving kind of fast but since we're both fans of dancing, we're both high-spirited, and we're both in [name of our program], the world's best exclusive high-profile dating venue (said our program's President), I think we're soulmates. Will u marry me?" Then an hour after I had sent her that message, I accidentally bumped into her on the bus. We had ten minutes of chatting and building comfort. I finally #-closed her, after some mild resistance and shit test from her: "Why do u want to get my # when we only have 9 days left here?" I broke her defense down by saying this (and I think this is the reason for the FAILURE): "Don't worry, I will only call u like 25 times a day, once every hour." Of course I said it tongue-in-cheek but she took it seriously. I could tell by the way she responds to it. Then 3 hours after that, she read my message on Facebook and she replied: "No. Lose my number. Do not ever contact me again. Thanks. Have a nice night." How do I recover from this situation now? How do I reply to her? On Facebook? What's the best thing to do in this case? Is it forgetting about her and moving on? I still have at least 4 other targets so I don't mind having to cut loose one. I think I fucked it up big time. I should have used a field-tested opener instead of trying a double-edged opener? Thanks a lot, guys!

Author:	Asserter [ Thu Jul 22, 2010 6:13 am ]
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Not really worth it from what I can see. I personally can't stand girls who don't have a sense of humour, if I'm in a group of people and the typical "takes herself to seriously" snooty girl is with me I tease the crap out of her. Though do make a note of how you say things tongue in cheek; say similar things to other people in the same manner and watch the reaction. If the majority take it seriously then your tongue in cheek manner sucks and you come off to needy.

Author:	fox_theone [ Thu Jul 22, 2010 6:41 am ]
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I'm clueless how to salvage this 100% but I think you can keep it open. I'd do something like this: Best to contact her in person because although she might read something you write in facebook there's a chance she might delete it without reading it. I'd meet her and say: "Wow...(with a really genuinely surprised and in awe facial expression) you thought I was being serious...Wow. Never met a girl who took my jokes seriously...(put your hands on either side of your face and make puppy dog eyes) make me want to marry you even more..."(immediately break state by breaking the facial expression and smiling friendly...turn and walk away) It's risky. There's a chance she won't respond. What we're doing is letting her know that you were joking while letting her know she needs a sense of humor. She'll either get pissed at you or she'll realise the message you were sending and continue the conversation in a pissed voice. Your job is to defuse it from there. Keep this line in case of anything (said in a calm voice): I just thought that maybe you were strong enough to take a step out of your comfort zone and relax and have fun. You're basically saying that if she can't take a joke she's not a strong person and most people would refuse to admit they're not strong. Good luck bro let us know if you go after her

Author:	holsetymoon [ Thu Jul 22, 2010 3:13 pm ]
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Quote: Not really worth it from what I can see. I personally can't stand girls who don't have a sense of humour, if I'm in a group of people and the typical "takes herself to seriously" snooty girl is with me I tease the crap out of her. Though do make a note of how you say things tongue in cheek; say similar things to other people in the same manner and watch the reaction. If the majority take it seriously then your tongue in cheek manner sucks and you come off to needy. Asserter: Whenever I say things tongue-in-cheek, I changed my tone voice to make it sound more legit and I usually have a big grin on my face. Quote: I'd do something like this: Best to contact her in person because although she might read something you write in facebook there's a chance she might delete it without reading it. I'd meet her and say: "Wow...(with a really genuinely surprised and in awe facial expression) you thought I was being serious...Wow. Never met a girl who took my jokes seriously...(put your hands on either side of your face and make puppy dog eyes) make me want to marry you even more..."(immediately break state by breaking the facial expression and smiling friendly...turn and walk away) It's risky. There's a chance she won't respond. What we're doing is letting her know that you were joking while letting her know she needs a sense of humor. She'll either get pissed at you or she'll realise the message you were sending and continue the conversation in a pissed voice. Your job is to defuse it from there. Keep this line in case of anything (said in a calm voice): I just thought that maybe you were strong enough to take a step out of your comfort zone and relax and have fun. You're basically saying that if she can't take a joke she's not a strong person and most people would refuse to admit they're not strong. Good luck bro let us know if you go after her fox_theone: I don't know if I'm going to bump in her randomly again since we don't have any activities or classes in common and she works different hours at her internship place than I do. I would definitely use that if I could. After careful deliberation and some advice from other PUA's on this forum on here: how-to-recover-from-a-big-fucked-up-sit ... 71546.html how-to-recover-from-a-big-fucked-up-sit ... 71546.html I think I'm just going to send her a message on Facebook later on today and see where that will take me to. Thanks again!

Author:	Clozer [ Thu Jul 22, 2010 3:50 pm ]
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I'd avoid contacting her on facebook again. And be careful. I had a friend in college who was in a similar situation like this. The guy meant no harm, but maybe the chick had had a previous bad experience before and she ended up calling the campus cops on my friend and reporting him as a stalker. It's not your fault man. This girl just had a diamond stuck in her ass that probably can't be removed. It probably hurts when she moves and makes her cranky like that.

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Author:	holsetymoon [ Thu Jul 22, 2010 3:56 pm ]
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Quote: I'd avoid contacting her on facebook again. And be careful. I had a friend in college who was in a similar situation like this. The guy meant no harm, but maybe the chick had had a previous bad experience before and she ended up calling the campus cops on my friend and reporting him as a stalker. It's not your fault man. This girl just had a diamond stuck in her ass that probably can't be removed. It probably hurts when she moves and makes her cranky like that. I don't think she has had a previous bad experience, my intuition tells me that. But I KNOW EXACTLY what you MEANT by that because I HAD the freaking same problem happened to me as it has happened to your friend. And it SUCKED! Anyway, I will just drop her a short and quick message on Facebook, and if she doesn't respond, then it will be time to move on for me. Thanks for the opinion, bro!

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