Friday afternoon I got off of work at 4:30 and went to a popular spot in my neighborhood, (indoor bar, outdoor patio with all the windows opened and a cool, 75 degree breeze) to grab a beer before heading home, and with the mindset that if anything presented itself, I'd go from there.
This girl sits down, decently attractive, probably a 7.8, with two stools between us. (the bar is EMPTY)
"How's it going?" I said, looking over and smiling.
She smiled back, without saying anything.
A couple minutes went by, and I asked,
ME: "So you got off of work early too?"
HER: "Yeah"
ME: "I love friday afternoons like this, chilling, grabbing a couple beers, and just hanging out."
HER: "What do you do"?
I told her, she told me what she does, and how she doesn't like it. During all of this we were being distracted by bar staff trying to figure out which beers were connected to which taps, they had some mixed up.
"I'm sorry, did you say you don't like it."
HER: "No, I mean the money's good, but it's not the kind of thing I'd like to do forever."
ME: "What would you do, if you had a choice?"
HER: "I'd start up an arts and crafts store out in Charlottesville."
ME: "You know, I talked to some girl the other day who told me her dream was to run an organic farm out in the country....I guess you gotta go with your dreams."
ME: "Do you think our system really sets us up to not go after the stuff we'd really love to do?" She said yeah.
ME: "Yeah 'cause I mean, that's where the money is."
At some point she had said, "What?" because she couldn't hear me, so I scooted over so there was one seat between us and said, "I don't like yelling across a bar."
I asked her if she was meeting someone here, she said, yeah, her girlfriend (and told me her name).
Girl 2 arrives shortly thereafter. As girl 2 ir ordering her drink, I said, "You must be "Erin." She said, "No, Erica." I was like, "Oh, I always get those 2 names mixed up. I've already heard alot about you."
The three of us talked about random nothingness while we watched the bar people still trying to fix the taps.
One observation. This girl tried the Sam Adam's Summer Ale, and I asked how it tasted. She siad, "A little nutty." "Did you say nutty to describe a beer?" I asked, "Her friend said to girl 2, "What did he say?"
Eventually, they closed out their tabs to go sit on the outdoor patio with their beers, they said, "We'll see you later." to the bartender. Girl 2 tapped me as she walked behind me saying, "I'll see you later too."
So I spend another 20 minutes in the bar by myself, I asked for a second beer. Maybe an hour's gone by. I was like, "Well, if I'm gonna act through my own intentions and go after these girls, I'm not gonna see them again by hanging out here."
So I stepped out on the patio, all casually, and said to the now tabled 2-set, "Man, it's a meat-locker in there (A/C), it's so nice out here. And before I asked "Do you girls mind if I join you?" girl one had already pulled her purse closer to herself, as if to make room for me, anticipating that I'd sit down.
We talk about the same kind of random stuff and eventually one of the girls waves to another girl out one of the big windows, who's on the street, she knows her. Girl 3 comes in and joins us, later about 4 dudes show up, but had to leave like a few minutes later, so that was cool. We all talked about random nothingness while they were all together, I was introduced to lots of their friends.
When everybody else leaves and I'm left with the 3-set, it gets quiet, none of the girls say anything. I didn't wanna go inside my head to find something else to say to spark more of a conversation, but ended up ordering a Johnny Walker on the Rocks, and a shot of jager, shortly thereafter. They're continuing to drink water.
The girls are going to the bathroom in alternating sets, not 3's, but 2's, leaving one behind to talk to me.
I told girl 2 who was thinking about moving to DC that I was suprised she hadn't seen the Arlington Rap. So I showed it to her on my iphone, I was sitting next to her, and we were pretty close.
The two friends get back and she moved a seat away and says, "I'll have to check that out."
Eventually, girl 1 says, "You've been really fun but."
and I said, "Let me guess, you'd like to ask me to leave." She said yeah.
I said "Why?"
She said, "Because your references are offensive."
Girl 2 said, "We're kinda tryin to have a girl's night out." So I said, "Yeah I kinda got the feeling that's what you girls where up to tonight. Ok, I'm, gonna finish this. I finish my ice water, get up and say, "Alright, you girl's've been great. Seeya." And walk out.
WTF happened??!!!? I know it probably wasn't that they wanted to do a girls night out b/c when the other dudes were there, one of them said something about a party, and one of the girls said yeah we might check that out.
Anyway, this is the most progress I've made with girls in like 6 months. This is as far as I've gotten.
Is there any feedback anyone can provide?
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An AFC would be sittin' at the bar staring instead of even breaking the ice.