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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu Apr 22, 2010 11:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Scarcity mentality, Im way to picky! |
I started posting this in another place and realized that it is actually a field report. As usual I never post field reports unless they contribute to the general knowledge of the forum. So I was going home from work. It was late and I was tired. My wing just called and asked me if I wanted to meet up with him in a bar and I was like, sure man but Im not sure... On the way I met a girl I knew and she asked me where I was going, I told her that I was going to meet my friend (wing) mostly because I didnt wanna tell her that I was going home to have cybersex with another girl. Anyway, decision made, I went to see my wing. I found him in the bar at a table chatting to two french chicks. (HB whatever and whatever, doesnt matter.) So I sit down and he starts talking as if I already know the girls, apparentloy he knew them from before but I at least hadnt met one of them so we made introductions. This bar is full of people I know (Im a regular) so one girl comes up and places herself on my lap. Hey, yeah, whatever, I think and I have some problems in talking to my wing because her hair is in the way. The subjects of braids comes up and I tell her that she is allowed to braid my hair. I got great hair for braiding so she jumps to it like all girls do. Doing stuff with someones hair is the best thing they know. So I get preselection and social proof sitting there and chatting to my wing and two girls while another girl briads my hair and I sip a spectacular cocktail. After she is done I am bored. Even though the girls arent bad looking I find myself wondering, what the hell am I doing in this set, I could find better ones. How do I get out of it without making it look strange. I solve it by going to greet a friend who maybe just arrived or maybe not. I chat with my friend for a while and I realize that two blonde girls check me out. They are in a conversation with another friend of mine and I hear my name being mentioned (apparently they asked about me). I just turn my head and say HEY! I heard my name. That was my opener. One of the girls told me that we had met before and I played along. Finally I realize (5 minutes into the conversation) that I sarged her one year earlier and that she was pretty nice. Married though so that means hands off for people with a higher moral standard... Luckily Im not one of them. She is a good looking russian girl in her mid 20s. Sweet. Her friend (who I have never seen before in my life) is very small and very pretty. I just start talking to her and I introduce her to my wing and some other guys but she doesnt really care about them. Im halfheartedly sarging, just minding what I say and turning on the old autopilot. She responds pretty well and I can see the girl who braided my hair watching me in the corner of my eye. Again, I realize that my subconscious is just looking for a way to escape talking to the girls. It was too easy. It stopped being fun when I didnt meet any resistance. I start making mistakes to get her to lose interest but I have already gotten her interest up high enough to make her ignore them. I ask her questions and she answers, happy that I take interest in her life. I talk about my job but halfway there I realize that my job can be seen as a DHV (major one) and she takes it like one. I can see that my wing is watching the interaction and my only thought is, hell come and save me already. They are boring me. I am running out of material. Not because Im not prepared but because I dont want to build more attraction or comfort. And all I got is stuff I normally do to increase those. I could have done a cold reading, I could have told a funny story or whatever but I didnt want to. So I start talking about a party I am going to tomorrow and telling them how nice it is gonna be. They listen and I just by mistake say, hey you should come along. (I have been telling them about how cool the place is and shit.) And the russian girl says, yeah, we already made plans to go out with a friend of ours, but she would love to come. And the small hottie says, yeah, me too this sounds much much more fun. So they just changed their plans to go partying with me. Great. So I tell the russian, hey bring your husband, would sure be great to meet him. And she says, no, I will leave him at home. (Note the period.) In the end I tell the hottie that I will leave my facebook info with her friend (the one I sarged before, like I know her... not). And she asks my name (which is quite difficult to remember and spell). So I tell her how it is spelled, tell her a little white lie that Im cold and have to go in to get my jacket. On the way I tell the russian to put my name in her phone, she does and whatever. I pass by my wing and he thinks that I have numberclosed them both and the girl who braided my hair gives me that "hey I know what you are up to look" (she doesnt). I get my jacket and leave for home. When I get home I go on facebook and realize that I have a friend request, hey it must be that russian chick. But no, it is the other one. The one I just told my name and she didnt even write it down... Amazing! Anyways. I get bored with girls very easily. This is the backside of the scarcity mentality. I know I can just go out there another night and start over so whats the big deal. This time it was too easy, the next time I will not like her hair, the one after that I will get annoyed by her accent or whatever. Point is, I didnt use to be like that. The scarcity mentality has made me more picky so I have problems in getting interested enough, sadly it is also attractive. This could be a good thing but really, 1 year ago I would have been overthrilled to even open that girl. Notice that I didnt do anything to close that girl. Didnt ask for her number, I gave only my name and she found it on facebook. I even used my facebook which is a normal way to fail since facebook game sucks. I didnt show too much interest and voila, they were hunting me. I have heard this in theory and I have tried to apply this in my sarges but I havent been so genuinely uninterested until now and man, it so works! When it is genuine, the scarcity mentality beats every other concept and every method ever created... Ezo |
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| Author: | the scamp [ Fri Apr 23, 2010 3:23 pm ] |
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So what's your point? If you don't want to fuck a girl she gets into you? |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Fri Apr 23, 2010 5:39 pm ] |
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As stated above in bold. My point is: A scarcity mentality is more useful than any stupid tricks and methods you can ever learn. They kinda come natural when you arent that desperate. |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Fri Apr 23, 2010 10:59 pm ] |
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Aaaaah! CORRECTION! I mean the opposite of Scarcity mentality!!!!! Abundance mentality!!!!! Ezo |
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| Author: | the scamp [ Sat Apr 24, 2010 7:27 am ] |
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Lol! Ahhh I just didn't get the Scarcity bit, very true fella, very true |
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