Thanks. Your advice wont be taken lightly!
For those lacking in confidence and/or who struggle with social anxiety:
I have learned a few things today and in the last couple weeks. First it is extremely important to look your BEST! A clean shave, fresh hair cut, and some nice clothing can double your confidence! When you look your best you feel your best and old walls will begin to crumble.
On the topic of feeling your best - get a good nights sleep and eat healthy. Over the last couple years I have struggle with these because of school and work. This is where I believe much of my social anxiety has come from. In the last two weeks since school has let out I have eaten and slept like a king! Because of this I find myself much more energized and becoming more social with friends and even strangers.
Remove stress and negative people from your life. Its hard to say good bye to friends or family even if they have a negative impact on you. But they are holding you back! Surround yourself with confident and positive people, and you will find yourself becoming more positive.
None of these things are solely PUA related. Anyone who values their self, should always seek positive influences in their lives.
NOW TODAY'S FIELD REPORT:
My goal today was to address my appearance. I needed a hair cut, so I go to a hairstylist to get a quick shave and get the cute stylist of the two on duty. Some times I have great conversations with hairstylist and sometimes it just dies half way through. Today it was a chore to keep the convo going but I noticed what worked and didn't work. I found myself running multiple conversation threads and picking up the convo when it started to die. Usually if a convo was dying I would be completely lost.
I swing by the gas station on my way home and see a HB6 that usually works there on evenings. I give her a bit of a hard time for first talking on the phone while she works and then for not having my normal smokes. She laughs and seems to enjoy the quick conversation.
On my walk back to my house I get yet another chance to talk to a HB6. A cute little dog runs up to me with no leash so I kneel and give him a rub. His owner was shortly behind him talking on the phone. I make a quick comment about how he's a friendly little critter and she smiles and responds. I think if she wasn't on the phone then I could have started a conversation with no problems.
Question, Analysis, and Plan:
How do you carry conversations with complete strangers, specifically when they begin to die. Multiply threads seem to be key, but it seemed to be a chore. Do you have a backup convo plan or do you just practice conversing until you become completely natural?
If you create attraction with a hired gun like a counter girl or barista, how do you take it farther? I recently got a counter girls number but it took many visits and my turning into a complete AFC. Honestly I don't know why she even gave it too me, but it wasn't a fake.
Cute little dogs are a great tool for PUA's even if its not yours! I may try opening sets with dogs as it seemed very easy as dogs are usually very inviting.
Tomorrow I will take a systematic approach to becoming comfortable with strangers. I will make eye contact smile and say hello to as many attractive women as I can.
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