first of all... Happy New Years!
This field report is meant to breach a topic which, new as I am to this forum, I haven't seen discussed yet but which holds importance for most of us: gaming girls that you already know, within your group of friends.
Meeting new women has the distinct advantage of giving you a clean slate to work with. This is not the same with girls you know (GYKs, for lack of a better acronym), within your group of friends. This game can be more difficult, seeing as they know about you, your reputation and your lifestyle, and this can rob you of the mystery and timing that often help us with seducing new women. One of the key things in gaming GYKs is that you cannot use routines the same way, only follow the theory. It is my belief that you must play this game as a natural.
So let me break down my new years eve party, the perfect situation where several aspects of this game can be analyzed...
Ok, first things first. Before the party, my friends and I went to a buddy's house to have a few drinks etc. There was a girl there named Stacey who I do not have a good reputation with. This stems from the past, but shes been living in a different city for a few years now so none of us have seen her in a while. This made her more receptive to the new me. I made it one of my missions to build an attraction between us to replace the animosity. This was simple in theory, I had to DHV and adapt to her personality. She doesn't like assholes/arrogant guys, shes kind of a hippy, so I adapted. I washed the animosity from my mindset and had only nice things to say to her. I smiled a lot and operated purely out of a sense of humor. I avoided all political discussion. We were watching a hockey game, she loves hockey, I loved it more, we bonded. I kept my distance and DHV by laughing and joking with my friends, but I payed attention to her when she spoke.
I was patient with her at all times. On the way to the party I sat shotgun and she was in the back seat. Most guys assume that shotgun means that you get to pick the tunes, and I was about to when she suggested something from her Ipod. Instead of being an asshole, I smiled and pluged her in and we listened to SPAM, and I got into it, making her feel comfortable. She offered me to swig from her bottle of gin, I smiled and drank (this was win win
) If I had not accepted the gin:a) I wouldn't appear to be as easy going and fun as she thought
b) she would feel uncomfortable being the only one drinking it
By the time we got to the party, she was smiling and giving me IOIs, whereas before that she wouldn't even give me the time of day. Mission accomplished.
At the party, I spotted a girl named Sara who is friends with a good friend of mine, Jen. So I made another mission to create an attraction between Sara and I. This would prove to be more complicated.
Sara was really tall and wearing heels to boot, so I walked up to her and introduced myself:
GDSM: Hey, your stef's friend eh?
Sara: Yeah, Hi, I'm Kate
(shake hands) she did not seem like the kiss kiss type of girl, and she was too tall to attempt that at this point.
Now, there was this other guy with us who's kind of a loser, so this wasn't great.
GDSM: Wow you're really tall in those heels, whats your actual height?
Sara: 5"11
GDSM: Really me too? Take them off let's see.
So she took them off, we compared heights and whatever, etc.
Now here's where I believe I may have made a mistake:
GDSM: Your pretty intimidating right now with your height, your like dominating the party. You're like a dominatrix.
Sara: (laughs, a little weirded out) Yeah I might take these off.
See, what I was trying to do was build some kind of tension, but clearly she wasn't playing along. So after a few more meaningless comments, I decided to walk away and DHV with my other friends.
I eventually wound up talking to this other girl, Laura. Now shes a real hippy, and I'm in the military. So, yeah. We had met previously and to my despair got into heated political debate. Lame. So now I planned to avoid that and use her as a pivot. It worked. While I had a carefree discussion with Laura, Sara would stop by and try to get between us, clearly trying to capture my attention. She seemed mildly jealous. However, I could sense that this would not be a good time yet to isolate Sara. It was a big party, lots of people and distractions, so I kept up with my game of being aloof with her. Simultaneously, I figured out a way to turn my military side into an act of heroism for Laura. I told her that the army made me understand what its like to be uncomfortable and live in near third world conditions, and now I understood life better etc. It was true, and I watched her eyes swoon. To bad I wasn't attracted to her.
Next girl, Amy. I knew she would be there, and decided that I wanted to fool around with her. We have a bit of history:
I met her through my ex, who's still in love with me apparently, and of course this makes it more difficult for me to fool around with Amy. Now, a few months before this party, one of the last times I saw Amy, she had been giving me IOIs all night, and I made out with her, but it wasn't good.
She got weird and started asking me if I was OK with what I was doing, and she got all serious and clingy, and I got scared and started avoiding her. There's nothing more frightening to me than clingy women, my ex was one and now I'm traumatized. The night didn't end on good terms between us.
At this party, Amy had been avoiding me it seems. She didn't come to say hi and was always in a different room etc. So finally we bumped into each other and started talking. She was being very cool with me, and I could see this was going to take work, especially because my ex was at the party! Although our conversation escalated a bit of sexual tension, it was not enough and we both walked away. One thing that was good though, Sara saw me talking to Amy and once again tried to interupt us to gain my attention. However, all of a sudden it was new years, and I wasn't making out with anyone. I got a kiss from Laura on the cheek. I was pissed.
The party continued and eventually I ran into Amy and Sara who were together, and they said that we should all go down to the basement. Bonus. So we got downstairs, and there was a few people but we all sat on the couch. I sat at the end with Amy next to me and Sara next to her. I should've been in the middle but it didn't work out like that, and I would've creeped them out to reposition myself so obviously. Now here's where it got interesting. There was another girl there, Rachel, who is my buddy's girlfriend, perfect pivot. Instead of taking a lot to Amy and Sara, I spoke with Rachel (DHV) while keeping Amy and Sara interested with my humor. A bunch of people came downstairs to have a "dance party", one of them was my ex. Now I had done well to keep the two girls with me on the couch instead of them leaving or getting up to dance. The lights went off. Amy was still being cool and not letting me in, and I went for a hail mary. I told her she must want me so bad since the last time we made out. I'm very much cocky funny when it comes to women. She looked shocked. But it had worked, I had broken that barrier, and she wasn't walking away. She told me that I was trying to boost my ego, I told her that making out with her boosted my ego, and her making out with me boosted mine. I was building this up perfectly. While we were talking, Sara was still trying to get my attention, saying that we should hang out more, to add her on facebook etc. This was great. My ex was in front of us dancing with people, and I basically told Amy we were going to make out right now. She said she wanted to but my ex was right there. I told her I didn't care at all because my ex had done things I "didn't want to talk about". This was the deciding comment, and she waited for my ex to turn her back and leaned over and kissed me. We continued to do this several times and I started feeling her up under the blanket. I loved it. She eventually told me she was going upstairs and to follow her in a few seconds. I half took it the wrong way, thinking she wanted to take a break, half decided that I was going to make her wait for it. So I stayed downstairs and went up a few minutes later, and continued partying. Eventually we ran into each other again, she pulled me into a dark room and we started making out again. Unfortunately, the owner of the house walked in and started to clean up and told us everyone was leaving. We were both pretty drunk and basically said that we were going to continue this another time.
Now, I'm going to send her a message on facebook, something along the lines of "I had fun last night, we should chill again soon etc. did you have fun"
I'm also going to add Sara and send her a similar message. As for Stacey, shes already started commenting on my pics this morning, whereas before that, I don't think shes ever said anything to me on FB.
All in all, damn good night, lessons learned. I maintained the alpha male frame throughout the night, was very patient and fun to be around, and kept my vibes totally positive. I also did a great job of DHV with my friends which is really easy, just JOKE AROUND constantly. There is nothing more attractive to GKYs than to see you making everybody laugh at a party. Humor is amazing, and when you can go from being funny and under the radar to phase shifting into caveman mode, you've got it down.
Please post similar reports so that we can open up this area of the game that is perhaps seldom discussed.
Guardsman
