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| Author: | Yaghaur [ Thu Jul 23, 2015 1:43 am ] |
| Post subject: | FWB-roommate troubles |
I live in a dorm with 10+ roommates, each with private rooms. One of the roommates is a beautiful girl that i f-closed a year ago, when she needed rebound from a broken LTR. After that time, she rejected me, because she had been confused about everything in her life. A year later I cuddled up to her on the couch. Later, i would come to her room to cuddle, promise to do no more, and then break the promise because my body reacted so intensely to her touch. Meeting more often, we became friends with benefits. We were experimenting alot, and she stated it was the best physical, not emotional, sex in her entire life. I have the same idea, my weak spot is good bjs. We made some rules, like no emotional connection, no walking into each other's rooms, and I agreed on her wish for total secrecy towards other roommates. We forgot to make rules about frequency, no-texting, of course we also were still roommates so us meeting wasn't possibly purely sexual and there was still some emotional connection as roommates. We even met sometimes only to cuddle and talk, without having sex. (..Especially in her PMS-periods, full of emotional instability, i agreed to this talking/cuddling only because of my ever higher sex-drive and couldn't escalate.) Quite some mistakes, according to websites that state FWB-rules - our relationship was in a grey area between roommates-fwb-ltr. We agreed that we should also keep dating other people and that we could never have a real romantic relationship, because our personalities don't match. It was no problem, as she was hugely irritated by some things i said and still had sex the same night. Honest as I am, I told her that I would still be jealous when she would date other men. She wouldn't be jealous of me, she said. But as soon as I dated another girl, to distract myself from my obsessions for her, she said that she had become jealous as well, unexpectedly. Sadly I have to tell you that we haven't been intimate ever since, and I feel like she may have lied to me and herself that she wouldn't care about me dating others. There are also other things that might have turned her off: -We were still constantly hitting on each other, creation sexual tension, but also draining a lot of energy when you're supposed to be peacefully at home. (I want to fix this by making appointments) -I was always accepting her and being no challenge, because I have a high sex-drive. -Sexting. -Stating that she was my sexperiment -Possible gossip, loss of secrecy (Is this secrecy really necessary or bad instead? Sometimes it takes quite some effort to keep it a secret.) -I was texting much, nothing happened, and pushed her to come over. After pushing her she said she had wanted to cuddle, but now no more because of the pushing. -We had some mutual rejection wanting/not wanting to cuddle, and confusion. I thought i was finally being a challenge. -She later said she didnt wan't to have anymore sex with someone without emotional connection. (I don't believe her, how can you have no desire for over a month?) -After total rejection I wouldn't happily accept not seeing each other anymore, because of the great sex and experimentation plans. -We even got into a fight.. over a birthmark!! (told you, unmatching personalities) Then what happened: -Her body language was very different and alot less sexual from now on. -After a few days of avoidance we were surprisingly friendly to each other again. She said she wasn't angry anymore. But was still avoiding sexual body language and touch. -I acted like normal roommates around her for two weeks. -I looked up some websites with FWB-rules. (Cant find much advice about fwb-roommates.) -Told her i wanted to discuss something. She got super curious when drunk, but i rejected coming over, thinking it made me more of a challenge. I also wanted to come over by appointment, abiding to my own new, yet untold, rules. Sober again, she said never mind, while i wanted to make her come over and speak in person. -I later texted her and told her i missed her cuddling and she said she missed it too, but was happy to be normal roommates again.(probably because of the surrounding problems) -I proposed a new system to her to meet up again with stricter rules: Appointments > No more continuous tension. No more sexting. Didnt tell her the other fwb-rules that i would live by in the future. -She said haha maybe but i'm going on vacation for 1,5 weeks now. -When I tried to make an appointment with her, she said oh i didn't mean it like that, don't expect anything to happen again between us.. -I ignored her during those entire 1,5 weeks to avoid seeming desperate. -She's returning from vacation tomorrow. I'm wondering what i'm going to do now. I know that it's dumb to want her at all, but I don't want to do nothing in the remaining two years I'm living with such a hot girl. I probably have to seduce her all over again, make her at ease, kino, tease, create sexual tension, being patient, waiting alot.. Im now reading books about this subject. I liked to be lazy and have uncomplicated sex with, without drama, but am now putting in all efforts to make it work. |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Thu Jul 23, 2015 2:04 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: FWB-roommate troubles |
Bring another girl home and just watch how the FWB reacts. She'll more than likely try to reclaim what's hers. |
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