I just started the daygame and I'm happy cause I can maintin a conversation on street with a girl I approach, actully happy because I build fast. Reason I'm posting is that I wish to learn the (day)game fast, so you can give me some guide, being it some links where to look, or things to start searching for and opinions. Thatks guys!
My current story:
I moved to a new city, where I joined a friend there to start a kinda business. We rented an apartment where we live and where we do the taks we have to accomplish, but it becomes hard to engage into doing that because of low social interaction. Only person I hang out with is him, the person I know, but just some walks, because he's not into clubs and stuff. He just have his own life and couple of 2-3 girls that visit him regularly to get laid. I'm now used to have them in the apartment where we live but this makes me think more and more to do something with my current situation. Like I must not waste time but go out and get girls fast, in other words makes me attached to the goal where I shouldn't be, but there are times when you don't remember to not attach, so I fall into the intrusive thoughts paradigm, that makes things harder around for me (not about picking our girls, but detroying my concentration), where I find myself doing things under the clock. I'm searching over the PUA documentation to see how to approach this all situation and get back into the present moment and allow things to come by themselves into life, because I kinda feel every stuff like a burden (eating, surfing internet, reading, working stuff I like, guitar playing). If you had a kinda same experience how did you approached it? I have no problem with the situation but I'm affraid for me.
Ok, back to the game!
It took me some months to start making it happen to go out to game... because you are always put in the choice of not playing it because you have something else important to do. Crap! Not true, you always have time for game
) I go even it I'm tired (that was day 2).#day 1 july/20/2015:
Took me a long walk on city streets before figuring through my hesitation to start making conversation with girls I find to like.
Girl #1: Stoped her telling "Wait a minute, you seem interesting, I want to know you"... and walked away
)Girl #2: This happened to be the approach that opened my eyes. Was a girl studying on a bench in the park. I asked what she's reading there, and she looked at me without saying a word. I told miself to wait and greet her with a smile. That changed the things and she told me... and a couple of another question and bam, out because I din't knew what to say next, or actually to do next. What I realized here is that the opener does not count (is just a thing to draw her attention to place the hook) and what counts is the hook, and than the relaxed talking. While opening, what counts is the posture (keeping the feet planted and if I make a step, i loose her, so they came to me the next daygame (day 2)
) ).Girl #3: What a crap approach
)The problem I get is that when I stay in home, this small limited universe where I live makes me think that I will be alone for ever. And the game won't work to start making new friends. I know this is not real, but comes hard to believe. I always try to think about positive things, but is so hard.
I don't want to be long in words, so I will write the day #2 in a reply which was a success (fast and good shifting), that you can advice me even there. I'm very focused on getting good fast - the only thing I'm fully engaged white the current life is the game. I started a blog that will convey my journey so that's a second reason to game. I will be posting there (and even here), and trying to go our every day to game the city.
I looked for PUA's last months but found nothing (just a guy like me who I went gaming with him for 1 week and after he lost his interest)... just an entire city for me (Cluj-Napoca, Romania) Cool!