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Alright so one night I was out with this very beautiful Italian Catholic brunette, and wow was she playful and petite. I'm 6'4" and she was like 5"6, so the dimensions were kinda fun. We had met out at the mall, we were both doing black friday shopping and I saw her and we hit it off. We started talking and she smiled, I kinda negged her in front of her friend, but her mom was for some reason with her shopping so i kept it to a polite minimal negging. Later on that afternoon I had received a facebook message (we had exchanged names/FB etc) and she said that I was cute. So I acted and told her I was going out back shopping for a new hoodie while there were still deals (which i actually was so i was going with or without her) and she had said yes. She came out and hung out, we walked around and I got hungry so I offered to buy some food and she accepted. During all of this we had been talking/kissing randomly just to mess with her (and she kissed back so this was easy for me). After the hoodie had been bought and the night was over, we went back to my house and she said she couldn't stay that long so I instantly kissed her, we started making out and spooning, (She has double d's as well). We did this for like an hour and then I said It was getting late so i got out and waved her off got my kiss goodbye.
After that I think I pushed too many boundaries too fast because she doesn't want to continue hanging out / talking to me. So I think I can learn from this. The next time I find a cute girl, hold off EVERYTHING but kissing for the first date or two just to build more trust for the next step.
Until next time
Good job but isn't Black Friday in November and it is March now. After that I think I pushed too many boundaries too fast because she doesn't want to continue hanging out / talking to me. So I think I can learn from this. The next time I find a cute girl, hold off EVERYTHING but kissing for the first date or two just to build more trust for the next step.
Until next time
Anyways it depends on what you want as to if you need to hold off. There are ways to work towards the lay on the first or second date with building enough comfort that last minute resistance is not a problem and you can continue things. Hell you can get single night lays if you really want to but it depends on again what you are wanting. Ideally speaking some kissing and things aren't bad. Given the circumstances and the amount of time spent in this date with going for the hoodie and stuff enough time and comfort probably hadn't been built that she felt a little guilty for everything. Also while she is on a date with you is the best time to setup another date. First off she's in front of you so it can be harder to say No and she's also on the high of being on the date with you and having fun. If you wait until later you don't have that working for you anymore.
Anyways taking a few days to build up some added rapport over a couple of dates with escalating slow and steady isn't a bad idea and works well. To make things like single night lays work it requires the right type of pickup, great logistics, a lot of comfort building with bouncing from location to location, and some descent last minute resistance tactics. Basically you are compacting everything you normally do in a shorter time frame but the same things are still needed. With escalating at a more natural pace you will encounter less resistance and it is more likely to have the option of becoming a relationship.