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| FR: first field report from Lubbock https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=22&t=186719 |
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| Author: | angel_naught [ Mon Dec 29, 2014 1:36 pm ] |
| Post subject: | FR: first field report from Lubbock |
I've never posted a field report before. 12/12/14 I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere. The people around here aren't very friendly. So in order to find friendly people and people who I can vibe with I go to Lubbock, TX. I like to dance so before going out there I found a free open dance at a dance school. I showed up and there were three older couples, one woman my age, two kids and the dance school instructor. So in other words the place was dead. I spent a little time talking with the older couples and dancing with the woman who was my age (HB4-5). After that was over it was still fairly early (9pm -ish?) so I asked the HB4 if she wanted to hit a bar in the university area. She agreed. We went to the university area and it was after finals so the bars were packed. The bar I was planning on going to had a line out the door. I wasn't about to stand in line. This had been my second time ever to Lubbock so I asked around to see where the local hot spots were. We ended up at this little bar around the corner from where we parked. I spent a lot of time talking to the HB4 at the bar and opened different sets. Mostly just asked people what was fun to do in this town. I noticed that I was naturally using two openers: "I'm new to town and I'm looking for something fun to do." And "I'm not from around here and I'm looking for something fun to do." I noticed that I got better results with the "I'm new to town..." than the "I'm not from around here..." I'm not sure but I believe because the second one was implying that I was a tourist it was a major DLV. In the sets I opened in the bar I got mostly poor results. What I was saying was mostly banter but it just wasn't vibing. One guy who was in a group with some very hot girls I opened him up and asked him about the local hot spots. He pulled in a girl and asked her what she thought. She gave me a few ideas. He ended up inviting me back to his place because that's where his friends were going to party (not because he was trying to take me home but because he was genuinely friendly). I declined because he was obviously drunk and I didn't think it was a good idea to show up to a inner circle party on the invite of someone who was shitfaced. At another point in the evening I had noticed a girl was on a bar stool close to me texting. I opened her and tried busting her balls about texting in a social setting (don't remember what I said) but I could tell from the withering look on her face that she didn't appreciate my comments. I've thought a lot about this interaction since then and the lesson I've learned is that busting a woman's balls is OK as long as it's funny but she has to be engaged in the conversation. I also think that we get so focused on NOT saying the wrong thing that our minds somehow go to a shitty place where that's ALL we can say. An inoculation against this would be putting more material in the can. I had prepared an opener for the evening too but completely forgot to use it, in favor of the "hotspots" opener. I spent most of the night just talking with the HB4 I was with and got lots and lots of kino from her but I really wasn't interested. I got her phone number at the end of the night so I could use her as a pivot again in the future. BTW I'm looking for wings in the area... ~Angel~ |
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