Over the past 2 weeks, I have done the following:
I've been trying to say hello to women that I come across, either at work or while running errands. In the past I avoided talking to attractive women a lot, but have been trying hard. I've been getting positive reactions too.
I modified my POF profile. This resulted in 2 girls expressing interest by "Favouriting" my profile.
I failed with the 1 girl online (I rejected myself first and then got rejected by her, so no surprise at her reaction.)
I met with the other girl for coffee, but I failed to carry the excitement I generated online into our date. I was a PUA on POF but an AFC on our date. The reason why I failed though is because I didn't have a gameplan and I didn't educate myself on how to handle the date. It was my first date in 2+ years though and I felt very confident throughout, so overall it was very positive. I know that I let her down though by not making her fantasies come true. She wanted to see a player and I ended up sitting on the sidelines throughout the game.
On the way home from the date I tried to speak with a random girl on the bus. Her reaction was negative and people saw my fail, but it didn't kill me. I'm proud of myself for trying.
I succeeded in these respects:
-I made both ladies LoL by taking information from their profiles and using it to show that I was both interested and witty.
-I didn't give too much information away about me. I was mysterious and this made the ladies interested in meeting with me.
-I moved quickly to asking if the ladies wanted to meet up. This was good.
-I rejected myself with the first girl, but I refused to do so with the second girl.
I failed in these respects:
-I felt inadequate with one girl because I don't own a car, and she lives so far away. I just told her: "Forget about it," and I regret saying that.  Women seem to assume that you have a car, even if your profile says that you don't.
-I went into the date unprepared. While I'm pleased that I felt confident enough to go in without thinking everything through, the lack of knowledge on how to point this girl in the direction I wanted resulted in me leaving disappointed.
-Spilling my seed is a problem that I need to fix. I've got to bring this to a conclusion. Not having an intense sex drive prevents my animal instincts from helping me out.
-I have a habit of mimicing facial expressions and whatnot, in order to show people I'm listening. So, if this girl said something she thought was funny, I'd mimic her response to show that I was listening, even if I didn't think it was funny or didn't understand her.
Goals, November 2nd to 8th:
-Don't Fap.
-Approach 3 women in person.
-Approach 5 women online.
-Educate myself on how to turn a first date into a lay.
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