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My publik journal. Jimmy Ferro
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Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Mon Apr 21, 2014 5:14 pm ]
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Skip the intriduction: it actually does not matter who I am for a wile :)
The idea is pretty simple. I`m going to check out my progress by writing
here. I`m going to write smth everyday.
For now my goal is to do 1 approach a day. Simple...
So if I don`t approach I`m going to wright it anyway)
I`m using this forum as a way to make a sort of a public commitment. To give my self no chance of
return)
So we`ll see what will happen with it)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 8:04 pm ]
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So the first deu ended...I actually should have to start from something like
a numberclosed 10....at least!)
but it looks like changes not happens that fast.
Today I`ve cheked out my wight and was totally dissapointed with the result: I gaind kilograms!!!
The rest of the day I was friesed my self with internal dialog like "I`m not good enough to approach this girl"
or "it is not a ptopper time"....
Ok. I accept myself even this time. I changed my diet immediatly, so hopefully I`l just follow the path)
And I`m not going to wait till I become ideally fit to approach. It can become a different way to procrastinate.
I must approach anyway! Just 1 girl a day...it shouldn`t take much time. At least at this level :)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Wed Apr 23, 2014 8:54 pm ]
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Hey! Today is the day of my first rejection...I mean I REJECTED a girl :shock:
I approached a nice looking girl. And as I learned in a couple of minutes talking
to her - she is a schoolgirl!
In my country she is 16 y.o MAX.
So I sad " you know - If you where couple of years older, I would definitely get to know more about you.
But in this case I`m afraid we are going to be too different".
I`m 24 btw. So for me it is a big difference) and...less then 18 is criminal!!!)
For me this shot story is about setting my own standarts: I`m not going to seduce just in order to seduce...
I`m ready to stop the interaction whenever it becomes not appropriate for me.
At least if I know that the girl is not adult ;)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Thu Apr 24, 2014 9:53 pm ]
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So I`m writing on yesterday approach: it was short...
I approached a girl with smth like "I`ve literally just saw you and decided to go talk to you"
and she repplied with "no need for that"....so I dissapeared.
My first idea was "I look bad"
But the thign is - my body language was pretty insecure and needy. So next time I`l be more confident while approaching)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Fri Apr 25, 2014 9:42 pm ]
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again: writing for yesterdays approaches.
Did 2: for yesterday and today)
Really prowd of myself for approaching really nice girls.
7 or 8 I would rate.
First approach was on the busstop. Pretty direct. Now more confident, keeping eye contact.
VK - Closed.(VK.com - it is the biggest russian speacking socialnetwor. Yeah, I live in a russian speaking country, and english is my second language btw - I speak russian :wink: ) we now "friends"
So I think I should create more of attraction and rappor through internet before taking her on a d2
Second approach was a good experiment for me. I`d changed my closes to this moment so I looked more like Patrick Jane from "Mentalist" - so I pretenden for a moment that I`m this guy. I started behaving like I am a mentalist. We had a good conversation for maybe 5 min then she had to go and I didn`t get anything.
So next time I`ll stop a girl for a sec. to get her number....
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Sat Apr 26, 2014 9:10 pm ]
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Hey!) Had a day 2 with a girl I`ve mat on the street couple a weeks ago.
It was quiet interesting: she is 5 years older then me (I`m 24 still :D ). But she cept the distance trhough all the "date".
Got the impression that she is pretty controling person as she tried to lead our interaction.
But she is really interesting to speak with. We had no minutes of this awkward silence.
Interaction changed when I`ve created a sort of a pattern based on speed seduction ideas.
It was something like " you know there is something different between friendship and the relationships that might be between man and woman. Frienship is the way to ceep you being yourself, when you just have much in common and you share it. But there is this other tipe of relationships, when the one helps you (jesturing on myself) to open knew parts of yourself, something that you have inside, but never knew about...and in this situation u just start blossom like a flower..." then she broke me with some story, but from that moment she stood closer. Then her train came and we had to hurry so we ran together and I took her hand. Than we hugged at parting. So as a feedback for myself: I should have move to this patterns earlier in the interaction so I could get the rappor and more kino faster.
Implementing the knowledge is my biggest point for know I think)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Sun Apr 27, 2014 7:11 pm ]
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Today I did no approaches. This day I gained some more information to try (read Magic Bullets).
And thought over about my goals and future plans.
I also listened to the audiobook called "King Warrior Magician Lover" - it is about masculinity and masculine archetypes. Found commonalities with some pretty distructive archetypes. So I think I need to make changes in my inner boy to become more mature man. I understood more clearly: to have better relationships you must be a better person. Otherwise you will attract low self esteem drama queens in your life and will never have true fullfillment in longterm relationships. Game and cold approach stuff is just a part of a bigger puzzle.
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Tue Apr 29, 2014 8:07 am ]
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So here i am)
Writing about my yesterdays approach.
Well I actually fucked up three more approaches: I mean I stopped myself from the approaching.
Found interesting pattern that was going on there. My biggest fear was: "what will others think!"
I pictured myself situations when I`m rejected by this girls and all city like pointing at me and loighing "what a loser!"... only forth time I approached a nice girl (I`d rate as HB 8 ). So I talked with her quite long. She tald me she is going for marriage so she doesn`t give me her number but she gave me her facebook profile. So if we don`t get far with her - I`ll use her as a way to generate preselection with others I think.
So I now think I should reframe my fear as " I do approaches for myself. There is nothing criminal in it."
Today I`m going to do one more approach and wright a report then)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Tue Apr 29, 2014 7:22 pm ]
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One more approach!
Actually not good one...I aproached pretty directly and the girl seemed to react positively.
But at the moment I wanted to take her number she replied with the idea of getting my one. And did not call me to get her num. She sad also she has a boyfriend...so I think it was a correct blow out.
Next time I should create more attraction I think.
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Thu May 01, 2014 6:02 am ]
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Hey! Yesterday I`ve been on a party.
I`ve used my own DHV thing. Its a cold reading stuff.
It is also good for earliy steps kino. So you exchange names and shake hands and than you say "you know - some peple say you can inderstand a lot about people by the way you shake hand. So you seem like (and you give your truisms whatever they are)." I actually became quite good at this so I get very much wright and impressive.
No closes from this party. But I`ve met a really cute girl there and I know I`ll meet her today. So I`ll exchange numbers I`m almost shure - we had a really good convo with a little spark between us)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Thu May 01, 2014 8:53 pm ]
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GOT THE NUMBER!:))))
Sadly - this girl is from different sity. Ok Anyway. Job is done.
I`ll keep approaching others and be in touch with this girl we shall see what it will turn into)
One more thing to add: I decided to add one more thing in my life each month. And this month I`m going to live without porn. I`ve read some stuff on how it damages man`s personal life, so I`m going to check out how life without porn is:)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Sat May 03, 2014 5:49 pm ]
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Well. I got a cold...so today I`ve just relaxed)
But gained some new ideas. So I`ve got new idea for me. Learned from Cory Skyy
The idea is that I should not do much to seduce women. That you need just simly relax and be comfortable)
It is easy to say but I think it will just happen after enough practice)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Sun May 04, 2014 8:24 pm ]
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So I did one more approach!)
It was a really nice girl. HB 8 for me.
The thing is: I`ve noticed her really fast, but as I went with my friends I didn`t alow myself to approach.
So I leaved friends first (they actually got into a bus) and then approached. This issue alone is interesting for me: I wait for "better" opportunity...till she is alone, I`m alone...I don`t want to show up my "PUA" identity to people arround me. So I never approach while I`m with somebody. Well I think I should put some inner work on that also.
And back to the approach. I approached directly and holded a good eye contact "Hey I`ve literally left my friends on a bus and recognised you and decided to go and talk to you for a couple of sec."
She reacted positevely but verbally she asked smth like " why didn`t you go with your friends?"
I didn`t want to tell the truth (I left them to talk to you, cutie)
So I shrugged. And she repplied herself "you had different ways to go?"
I accepted the idea:)
We`ve talked for a couple of minutes and shoke hands while changing names.
She started asking me about who I am and what I do. I repplied honestly. Though I love my lifestyle and think it is pretty attractive (I`m a medical student and have a hobbey - drumming, where I`m pretty good at). But I think I should downplay it next time. Make it more fun and playfull. May be smth like "guess?"
or "I`m a top secret agent and I have a mission so you gonna help me"...
So her bus came into place and I got her profile in a seconds before she got into the bus.
So I should develop some texting strategies also - I start getting more of this profiles, so I must use them in a good way)
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Mon May 05, 2014 5:54 pm ]
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No approaches today...Had some good opportunitiies, but missed them. Thats my fault I know)
So I`m just writing this small post in order to keep writing so tomorrow I`ll have know way but wright a report on approach. I can not allow myself writing "I did no approaches" the whole week, wright?
Author:  Jimmy Ferro [ Tue May 06, 2014 7:29 pm ]
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So today I`ve made just one approach. It was more like a warm up one - I aked something and desapeared.
Actually the girl I aprroached didn`t look so well. I`d rate her as 5 or 6.
So that is why I didn`g go for more.
BUT. In a bus I`ve noticed a really sexual lady wich I wanted to say that she looks so sexual that I felt really aroused! And I didn`t. I was waiting for the "ideal moment" when we both go out from a bus. So she left the bus earlier and I had to be in a hury, so I didn`t go to persue her.
So I actually see a really strong pattern.
And I took 15 minutes to examine this pattern on a paper. What are those limiting beliefs that don`t alow me to approach publicly and show my intent?
And I found the whole web of them!!!
And I reframed them then.
I`ll check them out tomorrow and probably rewrhight those limiting beliefs and positive reframes as "old - new".
And I will wright them tomorrow here - so I think it should teach my subconsious better then just this 15 minutes work)
And...probably someone on this forum has same type of limiting beliefs -so I will help not only myself but someone else)
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