FR - "London Travelers and Sexy Dance" - Friday Night 4/18/14
Tonight was one of my first nights back out. I had been taking a little hiatus, since my friends had been flaking/getting hooked on some of the first girls that nibbled their bait. They also had demonized me a little bit, since I'm more assertive in my approach, and they are interested in getting girls, but we are all also interested in self improvement and having some respect/love for other people.
I went out to my favorite dance hall, alone. The bouncer knew me, I had been a regular there. He didn't check my ID, smiled, and waved me in. Once inside, I danced with a couple cute girls. One of the girls was visiting from California for a wedding. We had a dance on the floor that was extremely fluid, and exciting. Afterwards, I went to find another dance partner. The way the dances work here is that your partner will typically walk back to where she was standing before you danced with her. She just goes back to where she is comfortable, and I think its generally pretty unconscious. If she is really interested in you, she'll stick around. Makes sense.
So I found two girls who were visiting from London, and was chatting them up. I told them they had to dance because there's a rule posted on the front door of the club that said "if you walk past a certain line, you have to dance." We smiled and laughed. One girl was smaller and more reserved in her body language and persona. The other was more full bodied. They seemed somewhat innocent. They weren't willing to dance yet, so I told them let's go outside and talk where it's quieter. We went outside, and chatted. They told me they walked everywhere, and I said I bet your leg muscles are getting pretty large, let me see. One lifted up her leg, and I squeezed her leg muscle. The other one wasn't really willing to, and muttered I'm not letting you touch my leg, but I ignored it and focused on touching her friends. It was all natural, and fun, then we went back inside and talked more.
Inside, the girl I danced with before was sitting at a table near ours. I went and asked her to dance. She probably saw me chilling with the other two girls. This dance was really sexy, and she was basically gyrating on me. It got me really turned on. I tried to kiss her, but she kind of tilted her head, she probably would've let me if I had tried again. After the dance, we went outside, and sat down at a table. She sat across from me, and I wish I had said come sit next to me but didn't. It really limited my KINO. We were in a rather public well lit spot, and we would've been more inconspicuous if she sat next to me. We held hands, and I was rubbing her legs under the table. Pretty soon, she said, "I need to go check on my friends." I said, "ok, but wait, I want to ask you something." We talked more then she went inside, and found her friends. She was starting to get really drunk, to the point where I felt sorry for her. We danced one more time, and she was fucking up her steps, and basically embarrassing me. I decided not to push it. I was done for the night. I could've went back to the London girls, but I didn't know how to work these two reserved girls. Only the small one was drinking, and they were definitely in observation mode. They had been at the far end of the club, but I had moved them to a table in the center.
Successes - I like how much fun I had tonight. It was cool to be connecting to people more and be less reaction seeking. I like that I unintentionally used the two girls from London as pivots, and created some social proof internally and externally. I like that I had a real sexy dance, and was ballsy enough to try to kiss this girl and massage her thighs. I like that I didn't try to pull the girl, because she was too drunk. Didn't immediately give into "I need to find my friends." It's a biological/mental impulse, and attention can be shifted elsewhere.
Learning points - When isolated with your lady friend, always have her sit close to you to make it easy for KINO. Don't stop trying to kiss after you get the cheek, be persistent. Approach more. There were a few other girls I could've approached before I left, that definitely would've been happy to have some good conversation/interaction.
~AVALO
FR+ - "Street Make-out and taco tongues" Saturday Night 4/19/14
Went to the house party of a earthy girl who I met at a natural medicine open house earlier in the day. Was feeling pretty content, and enjoying myself. Met two girls in the drive on the way in. One said she knew me, but I don't think we did, and I don't know why she said she did. Her friend was real young and an out there electronic music chick. We had a conversation about transcending our bodies once consciousness reaches a certain level, not really something I believe, but entertaining nonetheless. It was kind of a inner circle friend party, reminded me of my high school/early college days. The electronic music chick left with some dude to an electronic music show after we finished talking. I approached her friend who was spinning poi real briefly, and tried talking to her but she kind of blew me off. no biggy, I moved on to the earthy nature girl. She was revealing a kind of ditzy unbalanced side of herself, talking about the 2 drinks she had that afternoon and the weed she smoked mid-day, kind of unattractive to me. Earlier that night, I met her boyfriend who I thought would be some cool nature dude. He wasn't, he's this quiet nerdy guy who works at the 711 near my house. Later I was chilling w/ the birthday boy, who was actually the coolest one there. He had a good mellow, self respecting vibe. She came over and hugged me and the birthday boy. I said something, and then she realized it was me instead of another one of her friends whom she thought I was. She quickly jumped back, and said something about her boyfriend. She immediately called her boyfriend over and gave him a spanking on his bottom. I feel like this was her attempt to show me she had a man, but the fact that she was calling him over and giving the spanking just showed that she was in charge of the relationship, and he wasn't manning up. She disapeared and there was hardly any other girls to talk to, I decided to bounce. I texted her and told her to give my # to the birthday boy who wanted it, and that we'd chill sometime. She never got back to me. Will text her this upcoming week.
Met my one friend who is sometimes legitimately down to game. We were walking down the street downtown, and we walked by two girls. One called the other a bitch, and I stopped her, and said, 'did you just call me a bitch?" She said, "yeah bitch." I said, "you trying to start a fight." She said, "yeah bring it." The whole while we are getting closer and getting in each others face. She looks at my face and tells me she likes my septum ring. I tell her that I like hers, and say,"let's lock em together." We immediately start making out. I'm pushing her against a tree, and grabbing her ass. We banter some more, and then we continue kissing. The whole time my friend is occupying her friend, and the two of them are somewhat in disbelief. The tenor of our conversation is playful of course, but I am creating emotional tension which is exciting. That was my first make out with a stranger on the street, and we started in less than a minute, pretty awesome!
I also talked two girls into kissing each other at a taco stand we chilled at later on. They were there with one of their boyfriends and another guy. I started talking them into a 3 way kiss, but the boyfriend and other guy started moving them out before anything could happen. Unfortunately we started to late, and the bars and people had cleared out for the most part. We opened two other girls off the street about their food they got before we stopped, and I started a playful argument with both of them too. They both claimed to be Mexican, and I told one that she wasn't, and she was all like "how dare you." I pushed through. It definitely strengthened our connection. By the end of the talk, they were telling me they liked me, etc. My one friend was trying to get a kiss, but he wasn't engaging well, and so his girl was pushing to go. Ended up giving each of them kisses on the cheek.
My friend was tired and bounced, and I wasn't as eager to approach solo. He told me that my mission tonight was to meet some other friends to play the game with, and I did. I ran into a guy who I met at Artisan's free pua workshop. We're going to try to chill. I hope we do. I need some other guy friends who got balls, and know how to have a good time. That last sentence sounds really gay, but it is true. I need some wings that aren't afraid to approach and can make the most of the experience.
~AVALO
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. I probably could've landed one with the married woman if I'd pushed, but am not trying to do that. Went home and watched some free RSD videos. Got to keep my thoughts, words, actions aligned, and be aware of my own state first, then the state of others second.