I met this girl that I already know a bit but with whom nothing happened so far.
She had been asking for a possible meetup more than once.
PARK AND WAY HOME
We went to the park, she brought most of the picnic gears and I was (a bit) late as usual.
We sat and drank wine for like 30 mins.
It started raining so she proposed a pub, I proposed my place but then we settle for hers as she had left the windows open.
She had to wake up at 6, so I said "damn, does it mean I have to wake up at 6 as well?".
I wasn't even thinking about the implications, it just came natural to ask
and she said "you won't stay for sure", but then added "I can give you spare keys".ON THE TRAM
In the 1st tram she was standing really really close to me.
On the 2nd tram we were sitting, I had the biscuits between my legs and when she took one she smiled and said "smart move" hinting at the fact she had to reach close to my crotch to get one.
HER PLACE
At her place she lightens the candle, she says to "make the SPAM, but nothing will happen don't expect anything". I said "I don't expect anything". Maybe I should have shut up .
I sat on a couch, she slouched to another one in front.
She asked if I was seeing someone, I said "nobody in particular". She was seeing someone, and wasn't sure if she wanted it to get more serious.
A couple of times we just looked at each other and she raised the eyebrows twice, quickly, an expression I've never seen but that I interpreted as a possible IOI for a move.
We were talking, and I thought about making a move when the bottle of wine was at around half (didn't feel like taking the risk to possibly break the mood too soon and possibly being asked to leave, I wanted to enjoy the wine/food at least a bit
).But she lit up a joint, which I only later realized had no tobacco in it and was really strong.
A bit high and drunk, I didn't think much about the sexual escalation thinking it might have naturally morphed into just moving to bed together.
She was high and not much sexual tension after that. Soon after she got terribly sleepy.
BOOTED OUT
I realized my time was over too late, when she got up to check the tram connections.
I said "oh, you're kicking me out", to which she replied she had to wake up really early.
I invited her to sit with me more than once, even got up to extend my hand a bit while she walked away from the PC. Insisted a bit, not too desperately I believe , but nothing by then.
The good mood and vibe was totally gone, just a tired girl now.
At the door I lingered on for the hug to go for a kiss, but nothing, as I expected.
Waiting for the tram I thought about a last attempt text saying I would have liked to sleep there, but deemed it as desperate and left it there.
YOUR OPINIONS
When would you have done the move?
Park, too soon I thought.
Good vibes in the tram, both cool and relaxed, sipping the wine. Maybe I could have put my arm around her while we were sitting close?
Writing her now, the day after, or leave it like this?
I'd appreciate your opinions
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