Hi, this woman works in the same Non-Governmental Organization as I do.
We frequently sit down together by the computer to do some artwork for the charity.
Since I am her superior, I feel very restrained in what we do to each other. She is 12 years younger than me.
Nevertheless, she sits beside me, we touch legs, and then she allows me to slowly caress her inner thighs all the way from the knee up to close to the border of paradise. Also, she allows me to caress her hair, her neck, the small of her back, her back under her blouse, etc. I also caressed her butt once, when she was standing beside me.
She stays very quiet and keeps working very slowly when I do that. None of us talk about it (after all we are supposed to be working). Sometimes, I smell her hair, or I kiss her in the cheek out of nowhere - and she smiles. At home, at night, she texts me frequently.
Question is: she has a boyfriend; and my girl is her close friend.
Very complicate indeed.
I did not go for the kiss, because of all those problems and also due to the fact that we are at work. However, I decided that the minute she does anything positive towards me besides being completely passive, I will close her at once.
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Today she came to talk to me and asked me the following question: - The manager of my friend hits on her unashamedly. But when she withdraws, he also withdraws. Why? [Of course, that is what I do]
And then, she also told me: - I have a sense that if I weaken just a little bit with you, you will go all the way with me. [That is a correct assessment, of course].
And then I said: - Well, then why don't you just do that and see? And she told me she was afraid of hurting her girlfriend (my girl).
Fine, she has ethics issues - but then at the same time she allows all that kino to go on, and does not even try to stop me. She then conceded that we have something going on between us.
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The job concern is real, and the ethics dilemma of this girl is also very real (she is a true friend of my girl).
And because of that, she keeps refusing going out with me, even for lunch - which would make things a lot easier. The kino happens only at work and nowhere else.
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My question to you guys:
What do you guys think I could do, to break this pattern, and safely move things forward?
