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Author:  a3ghost [ Mon Feb 04, 2008 5:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Double movie blind date, what did I do wrong?
This story was based about 3-4 months ago when Superbad was still in
theatres.

My sticking points is basically that I'm a very athletic person. I
have a 6 pack, bench press 245 lbs and I'm very lean and "cut". I have
a better body than most men you see in "sears" advertisement. I'm
ranked number 1 in my sport. I'm a very shy guy. I am self conscious.
I'm a geek. I love computers.

I decided to go into the game after the breakup of my first girl that
I loved of 6 months. I trusted and loved her so much only to be
betrayed. I laid low and cried myself to sleep for 3 years. I watched
my girlfriend go out with guy after guys. Finally I'm happy to say
that I'm over her after all those years. Bad news is that I'm 18 years
of age and a Senior in high school.



I believe that Neil Strauss is a life saver! He gave me hope. He and I
have lots of things in common based on the book "The Game". I read
some things about the "Mystery Method" also and other things online. I
have the general idea of how the "game" works.



This field report is regarding me dating this girl named Lisa. I met
her through Myspace through a random friend add (I don't remember if
she added me or vice versa). On her old pictures (her younger) she was
a HB 8 but when I met her in person she was only an HB 7 or an HB 7.5.
It was quite disappointed but she was still "doable".

I'd like to summarize all our converstions through myspace messaging
and aim as "very smooth". I got her hooked on a conversation, then I
would tell her I had to leave and keep her interested for the next
convesation (ala cliff hanger). The talks lasted about just only 4
days until I got her to go to the movies with me.

Prior, she has watched the movie "Superbad" twice already because her
friends forced her to do so. She's the type of girl who hangs out with
guys for the attention and approvement. All her friends are pretty
much guys. She clearly stated that she was going to bring a friend
with her. I assumed it was a guy, but she surprsied me.
Lisa brought a very cute HB 8 with her. I can't recall her name but
I'll refer to her as Kat. I, on the other hand, brought an ugly
friend. I called up the fattest and ugliest friend I could find so
that I won't lose in this game. This could potentially be, I assume,
the mistake I did but I'll try to move on with the story.


The meeting for the first time was VERY awkward. It was like "oh hey,
nice meeting you. Let's go watch the movie right now." I messed up so
much in the conversation such as saying bad jokes or things that
doesn't make sense. Finally we are in the movie theatres sitting down
on the very back.


The order of the seating came as follows: my friend, Me, Lisa (my
date) and Kat. Even in the theatres it was very awkward as we just met
online as we talked only on the typing message thing on myspace. Well
I'd like contradict that, we talked for about 30 minutes the day
before. She said she was getting a tan with her mom.
I tried to break the ice by asking her what was going on and how was
her week. All she said was simple answers such as "oh it was good,
u?". It felt like I was setting up the pace for everything until
finally I just decided to watch the movie and kind of talk to my
friend a lot more.


After the movie was over my friend suggested to eat, and I just
agreed. Then her friend gave her that look and said "are you sure you
want to stay and eat" then she responded with "yeah we should come and
eat its only 8pm , it is still very early". I felt that she did this
as another chance because of the good conversations we had on myspace.
Otherwise, what would be the other reason she would say that if
everything came out bad in the movies?


We ate at Carls Jr. and I sat straight in front of my date and my
friend beside me. We talked about the sport of soccer (in which my
date and my friend had in common) while I just listened to the
conversation. I noticed her friend looking at me through my
periphirals. It seemed like she was interested. I was like in my head
"this is good, i like her friend and her friend likes me". The Carls
Jr. eating was pretty long. We stayed until the fast food restaurant
closed.


After the restaurant finally decided to kick us out, we left and just
said good bye. My friend was being immature because he got his first
date with a girl saying "oh man that was fun lets do this again". And
the girls acted like they didn't hear it.

Any advice and tips? What did I do wrong? Obviously the girl isn't
talking to me or responding to my text messages anymore.
Author:  speed-bird [ Mon Feb 04, 2008 6:46 pm ]
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The big mistake you made was go to a movie on your first meeting with her. It's awkward, because you're both sitting there in silence for most of the time. You can't go to a movie with someone until after you get to know them, only then does silence become comfortable.

A first meeting should involve some activity in which you can communicate, like shopping, bowling, arcade games, or anything else that people your age does in groups. It builds a stronger bond when you're both actively doing something together. It also makes it easier to isolate her since, if she brings 2 friends, it's easy to say that you'll take off and go to this place and meet up with the others later.

Was it all IM communication before you met? A bit of phone conversation never goes amiss. It's difficult for some people to talk on the phone, but as with all things it becomes easier the more you do it.

Another mistake, I suspect, is getting too hung up on one girl. The first heartbreak is always tough, but the PUA way to deal with it is to make sure that she's not the only girl in your life and that she's just one of a large selection that you can choose from.
Author:  AK47 [ Mon Feb 04, 2008 9:06 pm ]
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ppl should never even think of taking someone out for a date to a movie that is the worst thing u could have done, u gotta go places where u can socialize, where she will have fun, place that could have lots of potential conversation topics...
but i dont know y she stopped msging u, since u dont like her that much anyway, try to get in touch with her friend and game her, if all goes well good, it could also trigger jealousy from the first girl which is even better, depends how u play ur cards
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