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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Sat May 04, 2013 7:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | What Do You Truly Want? |
So this has been on my mind recently, what I really want. I went to an RSDFreetour event the other day, and Ozzie came up and talked about goals, and what you really want out of this whole pickup thing. And it got me thinking. At first I though I did it just to get good with women and bang a lot of chicks, but then I started thinking about it, and that's when it hit me. I didn't know what I truly wanted. This was an eye opener, even though I asked myself this very question a few times before, and my idea of my want has changed constantly, but always returned to me deceiving myself into thinking I want to bang 100 chicks and just be a player. However I was fooling myself. Don't fool yourself. And just a few minutes before writing this post I thought about it deeply, and am still thinking about it. And two words came into my mind that struck an emotional chord with me, one more than the other. They were Abundance and Love. Now don't misinterpret this. I want Abundance and Love, but I want Love more than Abundance. What do I mean with Love? With Love I mean getting a girlfriend who loves me as much as I love her, a fulfilling relationship both emotionally and sexually, and hopefully even intellectually the same. That great harmony with the other person, something I haven't yet experienced fully (I have experienced all three things separately, but never as one. For example I've experienced Emotional and Intellectual fulfillment, but without sexual, or Sexual fulfillment, without Emotional or Intellectual.) This is what I truly want. To find Love. To express Love. To be a full Lover who is also Loved fully. I want to share Love with the other person every moment we are together. This would complete, or rather fulfill, me in a lot of ways. This is actually why I started pickup in the first place; I had never experienced this, and thankfully along my path I have experienced this partly, but not fully yet. The other aspect is Abundance. I want love, but I want abundance with it. This is what would fully complete me in this aspect of my life. I believe to fully express Love in its entirety it needs to expressed honestly and from within yourself and because you want to express it in that moment, not because you want to keep the girl. It needs to be expressed in non-neediness, because with neediness comes the "need" or rather the want to impress the girl, to keep her, the fear of loss, etc. Therefore your expression of love would not be completely honest, but would rather have an agenda behind it. This is why I want to get good at pickup. To have abundance, and therefore express my love fully to the girl or girls I am involved with. It could be that I only feel true love for one girl, however having other girls would give me abundance, and who knows I might be exclusive to that one girl, but only once I know my expression of Love is fully and completely because I wish to express it and it makes me happy, rather than coming out of neediness. I think Tyler Durden said it beautifully once; he said something along the lines of true chemistry and true love is when both partners are not dependent, not independent, but inter-dependent. Meaning they both have their own lives, their own strong identities, and they wish to spend time together out of complete non-neediness and because they just truly want to and it makes them happy. And yet they are still their own person, without the other person completing their life, but rather complimenting it. So this is what I actually truly want, and I think I will now go out with this frame of mind that I am looking for Love and Abundance, that every girl I choose to be with is fulfilling me. I may or may not have one night stands along the way, however if that is incongruent to what I want then I will not. I want to go for what I truly want rather than what I think I want or what others in the pickup community say I should want. Thanks for reading and hopefully it's helped you, too, to think about what you truly want and to push yourself forward now to get what you truly want. Align yourself with your want, and be completely honest about it. With completely honest I mean to think about it and not be shy or ashamed if what you really want is something others may find weird or just down right pussy. Look deep within yourself and find the emotional truth behind your path and your choice to be on this path. Once you find this emotional chord you know this is what you truly want. And once you find it stay strong with it and feel how this true, honest, emotional knowledge empowers you. Good luck everyone in finding what you truly want and never giving up on it. |
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