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Author:  argonaugt [ Sat Feb 23, 2013 6:54 pm ]
Post subject:  bitching out like an AFC
firstly I'm not sure if this is a proper field report so i apologize if it isn't in advance

so I've just gotten back from my third night out sarging and i was out last night sarging as well and cant help noticing i was behaving like complete and utter bitch! basically tonight i couldn't even some up the courage to open a set and last night i opened only one set and just so happened to run into the ice queen and well i haven't got enough game yet to deal with solid blocks of ice

what is especially disappointing is my first night out sarging i did quite well, i stuffed up by what iu assume was demonstrating to much social value and coming across as fake. that particular night while it was going so well that i actually had randoms patting me on the shoulder in and giving me looks of congratulations, i even had one guy who was roughly 6 foot 6(i'm 5 10) asking for my forgiveness for dancing with my misses, and when i told him she wasn't my misses he eyed my up as if to figure out if i was guna deck him as soon as he turned his back!

basically i'm just wondering if this has happened to anyone else and how to get over this and make sure next time i go out i'm not standing there thinking why the hell am i so insecure that i cant even strike up a conversation with girls who aren't even attractive.

P.S at the time of this post i'm very very drunk, and loving it
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Feb 23, 2013 7:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: bitching out like an AFC
just remember that first night of sarging and think about why it went so well. Don't change something that ain't broke. Opening is nothing. Opening is the least important but also the most important. It is the least important because no one ever remembers what someone said to them the first time meeting. Opening is also important because you have to get some sort of investment from the other person and this is done through body language and vocal tonality.

I suggest you learn a few routines. I know people will say that routines are dumb and you should go all natural but if you think about it you will have some routines to fall back on if you get stuck in a place you don't want to be. You will be confident because you memorized these routines and know where to go from there. The only purpose of opening is to be able to convey your personality to the selected target. Once you give them something to work with you can go into attraction. That's the only purpose of opening. Selling your humor and social intelligence and then getting into the flirting, which then leads to building a connection, which then leads to sex.

Mr. A
Author:  Domine777 [ Sun Feb 24, 2013 12:38 am ]
Post subject:  Re: bitching out like an AFC
Worst thing to do is to beat yourself up and call yourself names. I have severe approach anxiety. It's like jumping out of a plane. You're out sarging for you and no one else. If you didn't open sets "it is ok!" because the good thing is women aren't going anywhere.

Just know in your heart it's ok to be scared. Then approach while being afraid.

Open up some guys, shoot the shit, get in a friendly mood. Have the goal be the approach not a #close or kiss-close. You'll feel like a million bucks because the goal was the approach not any results.

If you can't do it don't worry about it. I know if I had to leap from a plane right now i'd be scared shitless. Would I jump? Maybe. If there was a HB 10 waiting for me with her arms spread wide-open :)

Anyway, we can be our own worst enemy. Take it easy on yourself. You're not a "bitch" or any other name. You're human. Everyone...everyone!...gets approach anxiety. Just take the leap next time...or dont...it's alright either way.
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