So today's lesson was to NEVER assume any day is not going to entail game.
I've just come out from a 2 year relationship with a girl I can easily call the love of my life. So I'm still working on getting my game to the level it was before (it wasn't super duper, but it was reasonable).
Today I was out with my friend for ramen. Now basically several things hinted to me that today won't be a day including game:
1) I was out with a female friend
2) We were going to talk about serious stuff, so it probably wouldn't have been nice to talk to other girls
3) I am sick and my nose is running like a toilet
4) I haven't cooked for myself since the breakup (two months ago) and have been eating on takeout, which is bad b/c the fat content restarted my acne issue
Despite all those things, as we were checking out a local Japanese convenience store, I decided to go look at the green tea, and beside was a hot, maybe 7.5-8 Japanese girl.
I open with a recommendation from her about the tea b/c I don't understand the names, she talks a bit about each and then I transition to my visit to Japan in November. She was brushing her hair quite a bit so I took that as an IOI (maybe it's not, I don't know). After some talk about that, I go "hey, I know this is unusual, but I'd like to take you out sometime"
and she gives me a face of
I figured she doesn't understand the idiom of "take someone out" (she's only been here in Canada for several months), so I say something like "I want to go on a date with you"
She replies that she has two jobs and it may not work out, I say we'll figure it out and she should just give me her number. She says that her phone is broken. I take that as a sign that the boat has long sailed, and say "well thanks for the tea recommendation then"
My friend later on says she saw what was going on so she didn't want to interrupt. She is a saint, many girls (and guys) would insist on attention (or worse, try to help). We later on see that Japanese girl again at some other store and my friend goes "go, go" and I bail out b/c the girl already said "no."
On the way back to the train stop, my friend points out that maybe the phone was too direct and I should have gone for email or fb.
Mind you, my own assessment was that there was no DHVs in my interaction with the girl, nothing interesting (I have a nice necklace that works on Japanese/Chinese girls, it has the "Tiger" character on it), and my nose was running so I sounded like a tuba. That said, there might be some merit to what my friend was saying since it is my understanding there is a different culture around dating in Japan, so my approach may have been too direct (perhaps the equivalent of coming up to a woman with my dick out here in North America).
Any thoughts?