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| Author: | Kontrol [ Sat Jan 26, 2008 3:22 am ] |
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Ok so here is the situation. This past sunday (jan 20) i went to a wedding party in LA (i live in northern cali), once the dancing started I saw this girl who i didn't know and i walked towards her as confidently as i could and asked her to dance. She started asking me where i was from and how i knew the bride/groom. Then at one point she lightly puched me on my chin on accident when dancing to merengue. So then i say "ow you just punched me! im not dancing with you anymore" and i push her away as i turn around acting as if i was about to leave. She is cracking up and then i neg her saying "you know why me and you would never get along? your too violent" then she says "yeah i get that alot" which is when i f'ed cause i couldnt think of anything to reply with. now that i think of it i should have accused her of being a bad girl and took the convo in that direction. well anyways we where dancing for a long time until the dj started to play a slow song so we left, but as i left, i put my arm around her and told her that i was impressed that she was able to dance that long with her heels and she said "yeah but im in pain" as she left. not quite sure how to take that or reply to it. after a while i go to her table and sit down, and give her the five question game, shes amused and once the music starts again, we go back to dace. She says "just let me put my heels back on" so i wait near the dance floor as people flood in past me, then i feel a hand brush down my tricept. its her so i lead her into the dance floor, i should of grabbed her hand and lead her that way though. once the music ended i said bye to her. once i started dancing with her, she was the only person that i dance with for the rest of the party. (yeah i know, big mistake i should of built some jealousy by dancing with other girls) as im walking towards the door my buddy says "did you get the number?" im like "no", so he bashes me about dancing and chatting with her the whole time for nothing. thats when i think, you know he's right im not leaving empty handed. so i turn around. unfortunately thats when i think i lost my composure and became nervous. as people started to leave, i see her at the table sitting with another girl that i knew, so i sit with them and chit chat for a while everyone parts ways so as we leave i ask her to hit me up if theres ever a party that goes down and i leave her with my number. she pulls out her cell phone and enters it, and before i could ask her to call it, she had already made the call so that i would have her number. so i give the girl a hug and split. Only prob that i see was that towards the end her body language didn't look all that great an she didn't have a smile on her face. I don't know if it was because she was tired and it was late or if i messed up somewhere. Also I just realized that I didn't get to go into A3 (male to female interest) when i met her. Should i continue from A2 when I first call her? I know i can call her whenever because I know she will remember me and she also has my number on her phone. My plan is to bring her mind back to the prior time that i first met her by reminding her about fun things that happened and stuff we laughed about that night. Then maybe throw in some A2 stuff and end the phone call. Then move into A3 on the next call. What yal think? I need some suggestions and advice from someone experienced. How should i proceed with this? I got no phone game... |
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| Author: | Nex [ Sat Jan 26, 2008 11:18 am ] |
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You're right in that you should have danced with other girls to make jealous. Other than that, the only thing that seemed to throw you off was a spell of nervousness. So I think you work on your inner game and do some confidence building exercises. You had a good put down in the beginning with the punching thing. Phone game is really connected to inner game. Focus on that and you'll have it nailed. I would also look for ways to become a better conversationalist. Really, that throws so many of us off -- I see so many threads here asking about what to do about silence, what do say after openers, and phone game. So yeah, work on that too... although, I don't really know a good direction to point you to start on that. google it. You commented on her body language. I don't know how fluent you are in it, but that's a great way to DHV. The reason the cube and all that cold reading shit is so effective is because women love hearing about themselves. Usually I can use an explanation of dominate/submissive/equality handshakes to break a group open or to create a physical connection/break the ice with a target while impressing her with my astounding knowledge of body language. Give it a try. If the nervousness persists, then just think of her as practice or as an experiment. Live in your own reality. And thanks for your input on my thread. You're right, it was an AFC thing to say. |
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| Author: | Kontrol [ Thu Jan 31, 2008 7:35 am ] |
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Word, I need to remind myself always that I live in my reality... |
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